When a person is full of resentment and lament about life, the result of life and life compatibility is only one taste: bitterness.
Life is a kind of bitterness, always a kind of bitterness, illness is a kind of bitterness, and death is also a kind of bitterness. And those who regard birth, illness and death as constant suffering are basically drowning in the sea of suffering, endless, endless, and struggling until they are addicted.
Life is just a bitter word.
In fact, neither suffering nor resignation is the essence of life. Life can continue and evolve because it has rich connotations of adapting to the environment, overcoming difficulties, solving crises and being kind to yourself. Life is a whole process of exhibition and flowering, and the pain of growing up is like all kinds of nutrients needed by life. Only after suffering and hardship can the greatness and beauty of life be revealed. Rooting and sprouting, flowering and fruiting, withering and dying are not only the great tests faced by all stages of life, but also the succession of life growth. When the sad poet is lamenting the dead branches and leaves, he doesn't know that the roots in rocks and soil are making orderly and full preparations for the next bloom.
People who are bitter and deeply worried have tasteless food, restless sleep, no motivation to walk, bitter words and stinging feelings, and are sad and depressed. This permanent and huge negative energy lasts for a lifetime and goes deep into the bone marrow, causing great harm to people. Even those who really escape from the sea of suffering by escaping into an empty door to recite the scriptures are rare. Most people just go from one sauce jar to another dye vat and continue another kind of suffering.
But in life, the more suffering, the stronger. The more comfortable you are, the closer you are to extinction.
The natural law of life evolution is the survival of the fittest. Only through cold and heat, wind and frost, hard work and test can we show the brilliance of life and humanity. The flower-like comfortable outlook on life in the greenhouse is bound to be ruthlessly crushed and strongly broken by reality.
The suffering of life and death stems from the overemphasis on life and death.
The rise and fall of life is a natural law. Seeing death as one's own and ending naturally, regardless of the past, present and future, should be the most primitive, direct, simple and true view of life and death of all life.
It is human nature to indulge in life and death, and to indulge in bitterness and pleasure, which has been the case since ancient times. Once beyond life and death, beyond life and death, although respected by gentlemen, it is difficult for ordinary people to understand. Zhuangzi, who sings with drums and pots, is praised as a classic by scholars. However, this unusual vision is difficult to be tolerated by the secular in real life, and even bored and destroyed by the secular.
Life is death, and people are inevitable. This kind of birth and death, coming and going, is a normal state of life.
Taking life and death too seriously is like coping with Mount Tai. That kind of heavy feeling can sometimes make people suffocate. It is often not easy to live, and it is not easy to die. There is a folk saying that "I can't afford to die", which is not only the ultimate spiritual and economic crush of the dead on the living, but also the great redemption of the living on their conscience and morality.
People's view of life and death, seemingly complicated, is actually very simple.
The so-called suffering is a kind of asking for it. It can also be said that it is a kind of wronged sadness derived from desire.
Talent and unfairness are unfair; Unlucky fate, bitter hatred; Confident that there is a ambition to serve the country in the chest, lamenting that heroes are useless; The world is cold and human feelings are weak; There are many hardships and a distant future; Love and hate are intertwined, and grief and indignation are a kind of awe; Envy is burning, resentment is boiling ... There are a hundred thousand whys in my heart, all complaining, and the only thing missing is to ask myself: How did I do? How did I do? Where is my progress? What are my shortcomings? How can I change myself? How can we break through ourselves? How can I improve myself? ......
Muddle along, bitter; Not enterprising, miserable; Hard work, hard work; Idle and confused, bitter; Stand still and suffer; It's not worth the loss, it's bitter. All this pain is actually a kind of mental pain. In order to deal with this bitter heart, we need heart medicine to cure it. Our heart medicine, in short, is the sunshine mentality and fearless spirit.
Self-adjustment is an important task and a long process. First of all, you should have the courage and determination to open your heart. Dark, damp, moldy and rancid are the most terrible diseases of bitter wine. Only by introducing light and heat and strengthening communication and exchange can we gradually transform and improve our mood.
As for the bitterness of death, it is based on the fear of death.
Many religions are full of theories of hell and heaven, soul reincarnation and karma, which put a curse on life and set a circle of terror for death. Especially those who are dying are weak-willed, sensitive and suspicious. As the saying goes, a nightmare, a disease, and a look can easily break their psychological defense and make them fall into the dilemma and trap of ever-present fear.
Therefore, the funeral customs derived from this also show a completely different polarized development.
One is natural burial, water burial and sea burial. Since then, yin and yang have been separated forever, and life and death are distinct. Even cremation is all simple, there is no stone tablet, no cemetery, a fire, a handful of ashes, or scattered with the wind, or cultivated in the soil, everything has passed, no trace. These customs, with obvious characteristics of regional folk customs and regional funeral styles, are concise and lively, but it is difficult to popularize them in a wide range of different regions and different folk customs.
One is that simplification tends to be more and more complicated, ritualized and formulaic. Often a person dies, no matter rich or poor, future generations have to spend a lot of money to collect and bury. Money can make beautiful scenery, but no money can make face. Only in this way can you feel at ease and be filial.
When a funeral comes down, it ranges from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands, all of which are distributed to people and groups who organize the funeral by bad habits, such as making money, holding ceremonies, digging coffins, selling firecrackers, making shroud, digging holes, carving tombstones, singing ghost plays, playing funeral music and catering. Who really cares about the living dutiful son and the grandson who is in constant fear because of debt?
Many poor old people don't go to the hospital until they die. Last words: save the money for my treatment and send me on my way! Children generally obey the wishes of the elderly and insist on doing great things. They cried bitterly: the old man has suffered all his life, and it is not easy. We can't treat him badly any more. ......
A grand funeral is not only filled with great sadness and pain, but also covers up great sins.
Some people's children are unfilial and abuse the elderly; Desperate, outrageous; Filial piety before death, lack of goodness. However, when the poor died, they mourned in a high-profile way, and put a piece of scrap iron in a big way, which made the neighbors deeply feel: although the old man was poor before his death, he walked with great grace. This unfilial debt can be forgotten and he died without regret!
In China folklore, white events are also called happy events. Maybe it's to get rid of an old, weak and sick person, to get rid of the burden and abandon the burden? Perhaps it was the mourning of the filial family, which was full of ceremony, vigorous and lively, and made all the people engaged in weddings and funerals smile and benefit a lot? Or metabolism, to celebrate the replacement of old and new life?
If the population is prosperous or the economy is well-off, and an old man dies, this white matter really becomes a happy event in the eyes of many people. The wily fairy will never miss this great opportunity easily. He will pretend to think deeply for a long time: three days is not suitable, five days is unfavorable, 10 days is unlucky, 15 days is a good time, and he will make a fortune. As a result, filial piety sounded, the supervisor forced it, the ceremony was grand, and there was ostentation and extravagance. Go your own way, in an orderly way, eat three meals a day, and the guests keep coming. It was not until the living descendants stood with backache, knees were weak, eyes were red and swollen, and their faces were tired that they finally fell silent.
All the "immortals" made enough money from it, so they praised with one voice: blessed are the old people, filial children and rare scenery! Of course, this little fairy is more famous-how many people are happy by his words! As long as people with vested interests have the opportunity, they will never forget to recommend and praise this big snitch who gathers people to make a fortune: Good God! He counted the good days with his fingers, which is really accurate, and later generations are developed!
This kind of generosity has made some unfilial rebels covered up by secular burial, annihilating the human tragedy that the old man is worse than death; Therefore, thick burial and thin burial are condoned and imitated by the secular world, which dilutes the unspeakable hidden pain of the elderly; Although it is secular, it also gives birth to a heavy burden and great pressure that many families can't afford to support and die.
Can't afford to die, can it promote the perfection and development of the concept of thick support and thin burial? Difficult!
Cultivate, understand, eat, drink and take care of. How to test? It depends on whether the old people have a sense of security, security, worthiness and happiness. In short, it is right for the old man to be happy.
As for the thin burial, no matter how to explain it, it can't resist the cries of the old and the young and the secular world: I gave birth to you and raised you, but in the end I raised a baiwenhang; Rich but turned out to be a penniless miser; When people borrow money, they have to let the old man go all the way. He wants to see his ancestors after he dies. .....
It's not surprising to think about it. Caring for the elderly is a virtue, and no one will look for weaknesses in this respect; However, thin burial obviously saved so much money, which not only made those who spent a lot of money think more and more unbalanced, but also directly or indirectly deprived relatives and friends of the opportunity to bid farewell to the deceased, and even made the people who managed funeral affairs lose their financial resources and even their livelihood. All these are not criticized or resented.
This is what most people often say about the pain of birth, illness, illness and death, but if you think about it carefully, this kind of suffering is caused by yourself.
Look at nature. In fact, many animals live far more freely than we do.
If you die, it's gone. If it's gone, it's over It's over when it's over. It's over.
Clean, clear and simple.
The future world is definitely the world of the living. Living in the present is the first priority. How to lead a good life is a matter for the whole society.
The meaning of living, once re-examined, re-recognized and re-positioned, is a wonderful bloom, not a bitter torture.
If you look down on life and death, you put it down; Only by letting go of life and death can we transcend life and death and gain happiness and eternal life in the spiritual world.
Caesar's famous saying: I have been here, I have seen it, and I have conquered it.
To be or not to be is a matter of principle.
Hamlet, as a prince, thought for a long time and never understood it. After he jumps, he may be suddenly enlightened, or he may be beyond redemption.
Let's keep thinking about it.
Perhaps, between life and death, there is a direct light. ......