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　 ? Clever? Is a woman's most useless quality

Wen | Li Tiantian

A particularly impressive scene in Empresses in the Palace is that the emperor touched An Lingrong's pregnant belly and said that this child will be as clever as you in the future.

The emperor's eyes are naturally not B-ultrasound machines, and he can't see the sex of the child in the pregnant woman's belly, but Yongzheng, who is eager for the prince, uses them? Clever? The word "I don't like the concubine's child very much" obviously confirms that the fetus in her belly is a daughter. Visible in the heart of the emperor? Clever? Not a valuable word.

An Ling has entered the imperial palace, and the only thing that can be tricky is her "cunning" personality. Aside from the jealous mind, in fact, she did walk in front of the emperor. Clever? Cards. She listened to the emperor and the queen, and finally she was forced to die a natural death.

So when An Lingrong had a showdown with the emperor, she asked the emperor, Have you ever treated me like an obedient kitten and puppy?

those who are more disobedient than her, she was more favored when she was alive, and more comfortable after she died.

Zhen Xuan, whose family background is harder than hers, became the Queen Mother of the Virgin Mary; Even Ye Lanyi, whose family background is not as good as her horse trainer, has the right to choose her own life and death.

I can't help it. Is An Lingrong passive? Clever? Personality is doomed to her pattern and her life.

distant cousin has always been boasted by relatives since childhood? Good girl? Representative, studying at his desk at home every day, away from all kinds of adolescent pollution, even when she graduated from college, her father never disdained to dress himself up every day? Simple quality? Proud of it.

But when she was older and unmarried, her parents began to complain that she was boring and dull.

The girls who were as clever as their cousins in those years went back and forth on the three-point line in the study room of the dormitory canteen in the ivory tower every day. They had printed notes, textbooks with three-color notes and a glorious history of holding scholarships every year.

However, in the practical application level of their major, their listening ability is worse than that of their male counterparts who are crazy about black POP music, and their oral English is not as good as that of their junior students who are crazy about American TV dramas on weekdays. What they are most afraid of is making a presentation in public. When they graduate, they find that their professional ability and practical employment are even narrower than they thought.

When you are promoted to be a wife and mother, you should devote yourself painstakingly, confine yourself to a small family, and fulfill your husband and children by compressing your quality of life. Are you satisfied? A good wife and mother? The fixed person is constantly imprisoning himself.

Only to find that in the end, there was no soul collision with my partner, and there was a generation gap with my children, so I became the most incomprehensible lonely traveler in the world.

I read an article the other day called "What Are Poor Children Like", in which there is a theory that poor children are seriously neglected, and the only way to survive is? Maintain virtue? , including being as frugal as possible, showing no desire; In addition, I love to work and work hard, so everything related to entertainment and comfort is shameful and can't be touched.

I am deeply impressed. But aren't these the main things of those well-behaved girls? Features? Yao, never have to think about facing up to your own desires, but just focus on compressing your own desires to satisfy others' desires.

I certainly don't encourage others to do that? Smoking, drinking, swearing, tattooing and declaring yourself a good girl? The hypocritical girl, but I have seen too many girls who are well-behaved and domesticated get twice the result with half the effort after well-behaved and hard work, and then continue to work hard with half the effort.

I have thought about it? Teach bad? A girl who has always been clever, I told her, after you go to college, don't always sit in the study room with a water cup and chew your textbook every day.

If you have nothing to do, you can go to the library to read all kinds of idle books and magazines or even all kinds of fashion magazines, or take the time to get a driver's license to travel around and transform yourself into a makeup expert, or have a vigorous love affair and make more friends, which is also an exercise for your emotional intelligence.

As an experienced and well-behaved girl, this remark is not her way of identification, because she feels that taking notes on the blackboard with three-color pens over and over again every day in the study room obviously makes her feel more secure.

I thought my words were a little rough and unpleasant to listen to, but later I found out that clever people prefer to be sheep driven by fate than lions who seek solutions alone in the face of desire.

A clever person who has been indulged in docility and obedience for a long time is the last to admit that he is short-sighted and vain. Let them face up to their own desires, is it a painful torture, or is it hard to stick to themselves? Moral? A subversion of.

like this? Be good? Girl, not so much? Be good? It is better to say that their lives have deliberately avoided most conflicts of interest between people and things, so they have not exercised or restrained themselves and corrected themselves? Bad? The opportunity. Because to face your own desires, one must think ability and the other must have courage. And these two abilities, habits? Clever? People have already castrated it.

If you lose courage and thinking ability, you will lose your curiosity to explore the vast world, the big pattern of seeing a more wonderful world, the big mind to accommodate the strange world, and another possibility to change your destiny.

compared with being? Clever? The girls kidnapped by quality, those? Not good? Some guys dare to face up to their desires and choose to keep their own? Courage and thinking ability? Although they made them pay? Naughty? Negative comments, but compared with most? Clever? This is precisely the subjective reason why men are more likely to succeed with half the effort in society.

so, I really don't think girls follow the steps? Clever? Character, what is a good quality to be proud of.

To end with a famous saying in Zhihu: Give yourself a chance, even if it is superficial, even if it is humiliating, even if it is uneasy, even if it is painful.

Life is full of plants and trees. Only when you know your own bad, can you reflect on your own bad, be brave, and give yourself a chance of conflict. Life is too short to play in time.