Simple and stubborn people are the scariest people

Simple and stubborn people are the scariest people. In real life, each of us has a different personality, and simple and stubborn people are very "terrible". Next, I will take you through the most terrifying things about simple and stubborn people. Simple and stubborn people are the most terrifying 1

There are many kinds of people in the world. To put it simply, they can be divided into simple and impure ones!

What I mean here is: kindness, ignorance of the world, and lack of insight!

Simple people are divided into those who are stubborn and those who are not.

Simple people can also be divided into true innocence and false innocence. People with false innocence use innocence as a guise to achieve their own goals. This purpose is sometimes just to protect themselves.

I am only discussing truly innocent people here.

Most of the simple people are not unpleasant in appearance, have had a relatively good life since childhood, have not experienced any setbacks, have received a good Chinese education, are kind-hearted, and have their own beautiful thoughts. Ideals and aspirations.

Simple people believe that people are good. The first impression is very important to simple people. Simple people will just walk around when they encounter something that makes them hate it. As long as the first impression is good, A simple man can accept anything sinful.

Some simple people are more casual. They live in their own circle and have their own little world. They do not ask for anything deliberately and just follow the crowd. Such simple people will not hurt others or make big mistakes. of.

Another kind of simple person has his own ambitions and does not recognize himself as a simple person, but treats others emotionally according to his first impression. This kind of person is the most terrifying!

Simple and stubborn people have their own set of theories. The focus of this set of theories is: How can you know something is wrong unless you try it?

Moreover, simple and stubborn people have strong self-esteem. Even if they are wrong, they will not admit it. The next time others change their routine, they will get around these simple and stubborn people.

It is these simple and stubborn people who are usually deceived!

These people have their own unique ideas. They want to work hard to do everything well. They believe that the results are not important, but the process is the most important. It doesn’t matter if they make mistakes, as long as they are not intentional. They want to be strong. But there are always emotions; I hope that people will be good every day, but I can't face the reality.

These people do not listen to the advice of others, especially unfavorable advice. Even if they know that they may be wrong, they will never admit, give up, or change!

A simple and stubborn person does not want to hurt others, but always hurts those who care and love him.

If a simple and stubborn person wants to achieve his or her own goals, he or she must live in a warm and purposeful atmosphere! Simple and stubborn people are the most terrifying 2

One day while eating, my friend said that she and another friend had been working very hard to help me get rid of a shortcoming. I asked what the drawback was. She answered: Not good at dealing with people. I didn't think it was a shortcoming on my part, so I immediately said: No, you're wrong. My friend then laughed: Once someone wants to change your mind, you will say, no, that’s good. This is one of your shortcomings - stubbornness. When you think you are right, you will not change your opinion no matter how abundant other people's evidence is.

What does stubbornness mean? After my friend finished speaking, I suddenly didn’t understand. Looking in the dictionary, there are two explanations: one is to insist on one's own opinions; the other is to be stubborn and unwilling to change. The meanings are similar, but the first one is a neutral term and the second one has a derogatory meaning. I admit that I am indeed stubborn, but I have always thought that I belong to the first type, and my friends think that I belong to the second type.

One night I was lying in bed thinking about stubbornness, and combined with my own behavior, I felt that what my friend thought was right. For example, if I know a person, if my first impression of him is good, even if he makes a mistake in the future, it will be difficult for me to change my opinion of him; and if it is bad, then even if he does a lot of great things in the future, No amount of good things can make my impression of him better. This shows how stubborn I am.

My friends say that I am not good at dealing with people. In fact, this is another manifestation of my stubbornness. I think I am a person who is good at dealing with people, because I know how to act by looking at other people’s faces, and I know what kind of words to say to what kind of people. Even if I don’t know or have an incomprehensible expression, I still know how to behave well. an audience.

To say that I am not good at dealing with people, it is better to say that I am willing to contact people I don’t like, because I stubbornly want to keep the innocence and kindness in my heart, and I am unwilling to cater, refuse to flatter, and reject hypocrisy. Or use some high-sounding reason to achieve your own goals.

I don’t remember where I saw a saying: God gave people a face, people put on makeup and made another one for themselves. I felt that living with two faces was too tiring, so I used the face God gave me and refused to make another one. This is also my stubbornness, because I want to live my true self and face my life seriously.

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The more stubborn a person is, the more they will show these two characteristics

Low cognitive level

Zhuangzi said: " A frog in a well who cannot talk to the sea is bound to the void; a summer insect who cannot talk to the ice is bound to the time; a song scholar who cannot talk to the Tao is bound to teachings. "So, for those with low cognitive level! People, we are like playing the piano to each other, we are not on the same channel. The more we argue, the less fruitful it will be, and the more stubborn the other party will be.

Sketch actor Guo Degang once made a vivid analogy: "If an expert debates with a layman, then he is a layman. For example, I said to a rocket scientist: Your rocket is not good and the fuel is not good. I think we have to choose Clean coal, water-washed coal is not good. If that scientist looks at me seriously, he will lose. "It can be seen that the more ignorant people are, the more they like to be self-righteous and then behave very stubbornly.

Let’s compare Liu Bang and Xiang Yu to see the significant impact of different cognitive levels on life.

After Xiang Yu, the overlord of Western Chu, captured Xianyang, he led his troops to massacre Xianyang, killed Prince Qin Ying, and set fire to the palace of Qin. The fire burned for three months without extinguishing. He collected treasures and beautiful women and prepared to return to Jiangdong. Someone advised Xiang Yu It is said that "Guanzhong is rich and can become a king's business." But Xiang Yu wanted to return to his hometown of Pengcheng to build the capital, and said angrily: "If you don't return to your hometown if you are rich and noble, it will be like walking in the dark wearing brocade clothes. Who can know?"

< p> It can be seen that Xiang Yu has a "small farmer mentality" in his heart. He has "family feelings" in his heart instead of "national feelings". He cannot have the world in mind, which is a manifestation of low cognitive level and narrow knowledge.

Let’s look at Liu Bang’s choice of capital! Liu Bang couldn't decide whether to build his capital in Luoyang or Guanzhong, so he asked the ministers of civil and military affairs for their opinions. The ministers were all from the area east of Mount Laoshan. They argued one after another that the Zhou Dynasty established its capital in Luoyang and ruled the world for hundreds of years, while the Qin Dynasty established its capital in Guan and perished after only two generations. It was better to establish its capital in Luoyang, the capital of the Zhou Dynasty.

A minister named Liu Jing argued that it was not appropriate to build the capital in Luoyang but in Guanzhong. Counselor Zhang Liang also supported Lou Jing's idea. Zhang Liang said: "Although Luoyang has these natural dangers, its hinterland is too small, with a radius of only a few hundred miles; the fields are barren, and it is easily attacked from all sides. It is not a capital to use force to govern the country; Guanzhong has the danger of Weihan on the left and the overflowing mountains of Longshu on the right. The land is fertile and fertile for thousands of miles. In addition, there are rich agricultural products of Bashu in the south, and there are prairie areas for grazing cattle and horses in the north, west and south. The dangerous situation can be defended, and the princes can be controlled to the east. If the princes are stable, the Yellow River and the Wei River can be opened to transport grain from all over the world, and supply the needs of the capital. If the princes change, they can go eastward to transport grain and grass, which is enough to maintain. Supplies for the expedition team. This is the so-called golden city, a land of abundance."

Liu Bang followed the advice and listened to the comprehensive analysis of the counselor Zhang Liang, so he decided to move the capital to Chang'an (today's Shaanxi). Northwest of Xi'an City). It was precisely because of Liu Bang's correct strategic deployment and the right choice of the location of the capital that the Han Dynasty's centuries-old foundation was long-lasting and stable.

Secondly, after Liu Bang defeated Xiang Yu, he held a celebration party and summarized the secret of his success. He said: "In strategizing and winning a victory thousands of miles away, I am not as good as Zhang Liang; in order to stabilize the country and stabilize the country, I am not as good as Xiao He in pacifying the people, supplying military supplies, and ensuring smooth food routes; I am not as good as Han Xin in commanding an army of millions, winning battles and conquering attacks. These three people are all elites among men, but I can use them. This is the reason why I conquered the world. Xiang Yu had Fan Zeng but could not use him. This is the reason why he was captured and killed by me."

And Xiang Yu failed. When summing up the reasons, he still used the excuse that "it was not my fault that I fought with the soldiers when God destroyed me". Isn't it ridiculous! It can be seen that Xiang Yu's cognitive level is not as good as Liu Bang's. He had not realized it until Wu Jiang committed suicide. He was still blaming others instead of looking for reasons from himself. No wonder he failed.

Comparing Liu Bang and Xiang Yu, we will find that although Liu Bang fought better than Xiang Yu, his victory was based on his cognitive level; and cognitive level will affect the decision-making, and the decision-making will change the fate, so Xiang Yu's failure is due to his cognitive level. The result of low level of knowledge and self-righteousness.

Let’s take a look at our real life. Why do some elderly people prefer to be deceived rather than listen to the well-intentioned advice of their family members? It is because their cognitive level is too low, and they become stubborn after being brainwashed a little bit. No matter how much you try to persuade them, they will always say "you don't understand" to prevaricate you. In fact, the most ignorant people are themselves.

This is a typical example of "Those who are in authority are confused, but those who are watching are clear". This kind of example has happened around us before, and it is still happening now. It also echoes the old saying "Poor people must be hateful"!

Perhaps, these people also think that they are very smart and have taken advantage of it. Fortunately, others have not discovered this "business opportunity." However, the more people with this kind of low cognitive level are a little clever, the more they will end up being "clever but mistaken" in the end, and they will suffer big losses and be deceived!

Zeng Guofan, a famous official in the late Qing Dynasty, said: "Whenever you do great things, knowledge is the main thing and talent is the supplement; when you accomplish great things, half of it is human planning and half of it is God's will."

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Why is “knowledge” so important for being a person and doing things? Because to do big things, you first need to have profound experience and insights. Only with knowledge can you know that knowledge is endless, don’t be a frog in the well, don’t be willful, and then Maintain a humble and prudent attitude, take less risks, move forward steadily, and have the last laugh.

Entrepreneur Ren Zhengfei once said: "When we feel small, our actions will begin to be great." "; Writer Jiang Fangzhou also said: "Read more books, otherwise your three views will be determined by your relatives and friends! ”

It can be seen that the more outstanding and capable people are, the more humble and low-key they are. They also know how to study diligently, make up for their own shortcomings, and make continuous progress.

Being too emotional

In addition to low cognitive level, which can cause a person to be stubborn, being too emotional can also lead to stubbornness. Such people are generally smart people who know they are wrong. However, they just refused to admit their mistakes and refused to bow their heads, so they made the same mistake again and again. This is a typical "self-deception" and will only hurt yourself in the end.

For example, I haven't seen a female graduate student being raped before. She was defrauded of RMB 3.11 million. No matter how the police explained, she refused to admit it and refused to report the crime. She also said: "I am an investor, how could I be cheated?" ". In the end, the unit leaders became anxious and angrily pounded the table and asked the woman: There is something wrong with your brain! What problem are you studying as a graduate student?

Logically speaking, the cognitive level of female graduate students is sufficient. She is tall, but she also has blind spots in her thinking, and her human nature is mixed with greed. In addition, she can't let go of her airs in public and is a bit emotional, so her stubbornness is difficult to understand.

In life, We can often see scenes like this: a smart person talks to a stupid person, but the stupid person doesn't understand. The smart person gets anxious and gets angry. In order to persuade the stupid person to do things according to his own wishes, the smart person gets angry. Acting very stubborn, as if trying to eat someone, for example, when a parent is helping a child with homework, or when a boyfriend advises a girlfriend not to do something.

In fact, this is what the ancients said. "Treat stubbornness with stubbornness" and punish yourself for the mistakes of others will only make you become a stubborn and narrow-minded person, and good intentions often go unrewarded. Being too emotional and giving people a very stubborn feeling. It is easy to delay important things.

For example, if you love someone because you are too emotional and stubborn in love, you will be stubborn no matter how good or bad the other person’s character is, no matter how others persuade you. Your heart is with the other person.

If you hate someone, because you are too emotional, you will look at them through colored glasses and treat them wrongly. No matter what they do, you will hate them. What experts call "anger" is to stick to your inner dislike and be stubborn in your own opinions, which will only poison the body and mind.

As the saying goes, "a thought of anger can open millions of doors." It only takes a moment. If hatred and anger toward others arise, thousands of sins that hinder spiritual practice will arise. Just as Cao Cao said in the TV series: "Don't be angry, anger will reduce your wisdom; don't be hateful, hatred will make you lose your ability." Judgment".

Why are more talented people more likely to fail? It is because all talented people in the world, ancient and modern, all fail with the word "arrogance". Pride can make people too emotional, too conceited and complacent. , and then became a slave of emotions, saying the wrong things, doing the wrong things, and eventually getting burned.

For example, Liu Bang was defeated in every battle, but he failed again and again. He had a strong ability to control his emotions and recover his ambition; But Xiang Yu was victorious in every battle, but could not withstand a single defeat; he was defeated and perished after a single defeat, which showed that he could not withstand failure and was too emotional in doing things.

The chief of Wujiang Pavilion docked the boat on the shore. He advised Xiang Yu to cross the Wu River eastward so that he could leave the green hills without having to worry about having no firewood. However, Xiang Yu said in despair, "God wants to destroy me, so why should I cross the river?" Besides, I crossed the Yangtze River to the west with eight thousand people from Jiangdong, and now no one has come back. Even if the Jiangdong father and brother took pity on me and allowed me to become king, what face would I have to see them? Even if they don't say anything, don't I, Xiang Ji, feel guilty for not doing it? ”

In the end, Xiang Yu refused on the grounds that he could not see the Jiangdong elders, and killed hundreds of Han soldiers in one breath. He also suffered more than a dozen injuries, and then committed suicide with a knife. Just imagine: If If Xiang Yu doesn't act so emotionally, save his life and cross the Wujiang River, history will be rewritten.

For example, Chen Youliang, one of the heroes in the late Yuan Dynasty, was considered the most powerful hero at the time. There is a fatal weakness - Zhijiao is also too ambitious. In 1363, Chen Youliang led 600,000 naval troops to attack Zhu Yuanzhang, hoping to settle the matter in one battle. However, in the defeat at Poyang Lake, Chen Youliang also died from an arrow while breaking through. Aged 44.