Yes, when we were young, we all liked to walk together alone, but later we found that the more we grew up, the more lonely we became. Your soul always exists independently of others. Finally, we understand that loneliness is the normal state of life, and we must always learn to get along with ourselves.

When I was in college, there was a girl in my class who lived alone every day. She left the bedroom door early in the morning and went to the library to read. She didn't come back until the bedroom lights out at night. Occasionally, she will participate in our gossip topics, but only a few words. Most of the time, she is either reading or on the way to reading.

We used to think that she was withdrawn and must have suffered internal injuries. Otherwise, how can good people be so unsociable? But everything that happened later proved how ridiculous our guess was.

During our chatting, shopping and playing games, she not only finished her studies with excellent results, but also got a double degree. She was admitted to the graduate student majoring in administration in our school with the first total score. After the holiday of postgraduate entrance examination, we finally saw the other side of her. It turns out that she is also a girl who can be "crazy" and play. But in the struggle, she worked harder than others and used it countless times.

It is better to grow up alone than to be indifferent to the echo. Although "there are many friends", when you really need friends, you must have a way out. When we make friends with others, we actually stop exchanging values with each other. Only equality can make friends. Under unequal conditions, friendship is limited to "wine and meat".

I still remember watching Ode to Joy, and I lamented that Mei Sheng, a fan who is famous for her excellent interpersonal relationship, has many friends, but none of them are her "friends" when she really meets an emergency.

Fan's father is ill in hospital and needs a lot of money, but people around her usually refuse or escape for various reasons. In short, no one wants to stand up and lend a helping hand to her "good friend" when she needs it most.

Without the value of reciprocity, people will never have real friends, even friends who win relationships will not waver in the face of interests.

Therefore, instead of wasting time on useless social activities, it is better to learn to be alone, improve yourself and make yourself valuable, which is more important than having thousands of friends.

Facing the outside world, we should learn to be alone.

What happened to those who are good at being alone? Yu Hua once said in Shouting in the Drizzle: "Sometimes I can't stand the emptiness because of loneliness, but I would rather maintain my self-esteem in this way than exchange the appearance of friends at the expense of shame."

If a person doesn't know how to be alone, then he must have become an ordinary majority. Only those who are good at being alone can achieve a special life.

A columnist in The New York Times, because of his work, has to travel to several cities all the year round, and he lives alone most of the time. However, he doesn't feel lonely because of this. On the contrary, in his solitude, he found himself more insightful than before, and his observation and understanding of life were more delicate. Later, she repeatedly discussed this experience and finally published a book, Exquisite Solitude.

Leng Yan actress Hector, who is beautiful, is actually a person who is good at being alone. She spends most weekends alone in her apartment. During this time, no work bothered her. She fully enjoys a person's most comfortable state, reading or listening to music, or studying hard to improve her acting skills. In her own words, this loneliness is just a charge for me.

Rene Liu, the queen of temperament songs, once said that solitude has been the normal state of her life since she can remember, and it is very important for her to have a space to be alone with herself.

People who are good at being alone are different in temperament and achievement, because they know the importance of being alone for a person. More importantly, their time alone is absolutely meaningful, because they all know self-discipline.

In practice, it is not solitude that makes people better, but solitude that knows self-discipline can make me successful. As Huxley once said, the bigger and more creative people are, the more they like loneliness.

Making solitude more meaningful Hugo once said that solitude can make people capable or stupid. I think that those who are capable are probably people who know how to make solitude more meaningful, while those who become stupid, although lonely, do not know how to use their own solitude time.

Roman Roland has a famous saying: "They know how to find that little flicker of affection from life, so they won't feel pain and loneliness."

To measure a person's inner strength is not to deliberately avoid the noise of the city, but to find a quiet place, hedge and plant chrysanthemums in the downtown area. A person who is good at solitude and self-discipline must be very firm inside. He understands my purpose, knows my direction, and has a firm heart to move forward.

What makes solitude more meaningful is self-disciplined solitude. A person is not disturbed by the worldly noise and is not influenced by the outside world. He tried to improve himself from time to time in the days when others wasted their time, and finally became that unique person.

After graduation, my college classmate, graduate student, entered the banking system, and it took only two years to achieve the position of assistant to the president. In fact, this time she didn't surprise us at all. Since she first started working as a teller in the bank, her performance has been the first in the bank. To know how she does it, just look at what she does after work.

After work, her colleagues either get together or go shopping and then visit her. She never lets go of every customer that can be developed, and makes her performance the first in the history of the industry, and all this is inseparable from her self-discipline.

In fact, the soul of each of us is lonely, but we dare not admit this loneliness and are afraid of loneliness. But when you can really enjoy solitude, you will find the beauty of solitude. Smart people will find themselves in solitude, know what they want most, then learn to be alone, adhere to self-discipline, and finally achieve themselves.

After all, if a woman wants to live a good life, the most important thing is to learn to be alone with herself and have a self-disciplined heart when enjoying time.