On Li Lou, Mencius said, "He who wins the hearts of the people wins the world".

I can always hear people around me emphasize that "since ancient times, you can't stay for a long time and always win the hearts of the people."

Are people in the world really routines? Not exactly.

The ancients said, "Those who touch people with sincerity will repay them with sincerity." .

Be a man, change your heart with your heart.

I accidentally saw my friend Xiao Nan write a few words in the WeChat circle:

"Don't play with me, in fact, my mind is not less than yours, but I don't want to play tricks with my friends.

Don't treat me like a fool. Actually, I'm not more stupid than you. I just want to be honest and be my conscience. "

Ask just know:

It turned out that she knew a woman named Xiaoyu in the study group. At that time, Xiaoyu's emotional breakdown, Xiaonan has been comforting Xiaoyu, let her have something to talk to her.

As a result, the woman really came to talk to her, and it was after midnight every time.

Xiao Na really pulled himself together and listened to cheer this man up. Even at work, I try my best to give people high-tech and feasible advice.

She also took the initiative to help Xiaoyu do a lot of paperwork.

Patiently accompanied Xiaoyu for half a year. Until she got out of the gray mood.

Xiaoyu is especially grateful to Xiaonan: "Sister, I am good at inspirational writing. If you want to learn, I will definitely take you there. "

Xiaonan believed it, wrote an article and made a card and asked Xiaoyu.

Who knows, when asked for the first time, Xiaoyu told Xiaonan that it was not convenient to eat out.

The second time, I said to find a time to show it to her alone;

The third time, she said that she had signed a contract with another big company, and there was no more time.

The problem is, Xiao Nan later learned that Xiaoyu was taking students who were writing. In fact, Xiao Nan told Xiaoyu that she would pay the tuition and then study with her, but Xiaoyu firmly refused.

Xiao nan is a little annoyed. "You asked me to call you again and again when I needed it. As a result, I really called you, and you fooled me. "

After that, Xiao Nan won the grand prize unexpectedly through her own efforts.

A message from a woman who has been missing for a long time:

"Elder sister, congratulations, I want to ask you about this article ..."

Xiao Na didn't look carefully at what the woman said, so she painted the woman black.

She flatters you when you are prosperous. When you are in trouble, she is far from you. I volunteered to help you, and I was honest with you everywhere. Why do you use routines on me?

Nobody's stupid! Nobody's stupid! I am too stupid to see through one thing on the surface and another thing behind it. Can't I understand it a few times?

Is it true or false? Many times, I don't know what to say, but that doesn't mean I don't know anything.

Anyone can play with his mind and calculate others. In dealing with people, routines can win people's hearts temporarily, but they can't maintain relationships for a long time.

What makes people "tired of talking for a long time" is a word "true".

There is an old saying in the northeast that if you don't eat, you will get two miles.

Be a man, play with your mind less. In fact, the people who can be deceived by you are all people who trust you.

Once, there was a boy who I felt very disdainful. I think his own portrait is quite good, so I like it.

The result is broken. Seeing my encouragement, he insisted on drawing one for me. I know he didn't take it for nothing, but he didn't make any conditions.

He really didn't ask for anything the next day.

I thought he was a transsexual. I still don't understand, but my impression of him has changed.

A few days later, he said, I sent you a portrait, and I was flattered.

Who knows, in addition to bringing a portrait, he also pushed me for an insurance task linked to his unit.

To tell you the truth, I have bought this kind of insurance.

Suddenly I feel that I really owe my mouth. Unconsciously, I fell into the trap again. I thought he was sincere to me and trusted him.

As a result, I thought too much

If he talks to me again now, I'm afraid to take over. I don't know what is waiting for me behind.

To be a man, put feelings first, and then do things. Friends get along well and will take the initiative to think of you. There is no routine.

People who lead others to into the pit by routine are most likely to be opposed. Even if you do altruistic things, he won't be willing to accept your kindness.

This is a world of difference between doing things in good faith and doing things in a planned way.

03、

With bad intentions, how to gain the respect of others?

Many routines will bite back.

Too many people, when they want to try others, have got into the sinister routine of fate.

It is best to be sincere, unless your routine is too high to be noticed by others.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao commented on his counselor Xun You: "Wisdom is available, but stupidity".

That is to say, although Xun You is a counselor, he is famous for his scheming, but "scheming" is only used in times of confrontation, and he doesn't play with people around him.

Although Xun You often advised Cao Cao to capture Lu Bu alive, the victory of Baima in the battle of Guandu and the complete pacification of Hebei were the main contributions.

But he never plays tricks with Cao Cao and his men, and always treats people with sincerity.

The most recognized person in Cao Cao's life was Xun You, who once lamented that he was "really exciting".

Xun You was ill, and Cao Cao visited him many times. After his death, he mentioned that when he thought of him, he often cried.

Cao Cao, who is suspicious, is a difficult person to associate with! You can't fool such a person.

This kind of person, making friends with people with more hearts, suffers the least.

Honest people don't know routines, but they have won countless routines.

To exchange sincerity for sincerity will make us win more things inadvertently.

A man with an upright heart is a winner at any time.

04、

There's a problem on Zhihu. Why do jugglers get along better?

Someone replied: people who play tricks can get temporary benefits, but over time they will have great disadvantages.

The benefits of routines are generally short-term, but they are not long-term because of deception.

Because friendship is not business. Feelings are not calculations.

Good character, with the help of noble people, good days are yet to come.

People's kindness is far better than routine.

Take too many routines, and the road will be gone.

If you must firmly believe in the effect of routines, I can only tell you that the most unconventional routine in this world is sincerity!