In the subject's concept or traditional concept, sex is after love, and love equals marriage. At that time, Grandpa Mao once quoted Shakespeare's famous words to talk about the marriage of young men and women: all love that does not aim at marriage is a hooligan. I think this sentence is one-sided, or that the purpose of love is too strong, which does not bring the stability of marriage. There are many examples today, and the rate of flash marriage is very high.
Sex is innate, a kind of resource, the core condition of reproduction, and pleasure is the driving force of reproduction. In primitive society, sex is like this:
In Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, sex belongs to the first level of needs, while love is the third level of needs. Therefore, the separation of sex and love is human nature, and the binding of sex and love is artificial! Of course, civilization makes us pursue the perfect combination of love and sex.
Therefore, I think that the separation of love and sex after 95 and 00 is very noisy before marriage, and it is reasonable to express your needs. On the contrary, it will bring a more stable relationship after marriage, better abide by the marriage contract, and not be tempted by the world of flowers.
I believe that the questions raised by the subject must be influenced by some social phenomena after 1995 and 1900: underage abortion, the rising proportion of AIDS, etc., which have impacted traditional morality.
However, the emergence of these problems is not that they despise sex, but that they have not received a good sex education. At present, the most popular sex education film in China is "A", but this kind of film only uses some passionate shots to increase the tension of the film, such as going out halfway. , has always hinted that don't wear condoms and other behaviors. In addition, after all, under the influence of the big environment, some post-00 boys may be embarrassed to buy condoms. At first, boys may just say that I touch them ... In short, unprotected sex often leads to unintended pregnancy.
Since the beginning of this year, there have been many celebrity infidelities. I believe that they were also sweet at the beginning, both committed to each other and took sex seriously.
I hope that from today on, we can treat sex seriously, scientifically and seriously!