I don't know what possessed Zhang Ailing, or whether Hu Lancheng bewitched her with love. In this love, Zhang Ailing stuffed love into her feathers like a human head, as low as dust.
Zhang Ailing became famous as a teenager, and everyone knows that she is so proud and independent. But in order to love Hu Lancheng, she gave up a woman's independent and arrogant ego and became a vassal to please Hu Lancheng and Hu Lancheng in love. Her love is so humble, but willing.
Love is the sweetest, happiest and most unforgettable thing in the world, but why is her love so humble?
"To Youth" tells you what love is humble, why you still love someone humbly, and "To Youth We Will Lose" will tell you the answer. Today, we will analyze what humble love is from this movie, what caused this result, and what we should do to overcome humble love.
What is humble love?
Humble literally means the unequal relationship between two people in love. You love me, but I don't. In love, you are humble. I love you, but you don't love me. In love, I am humble.
There is always one who gives more and loves more. Because you pay more and love more, you cherish it and fear losing it. Because you are afraid of losing, you will pay more and more, which is a vicious circle. People who give more love are humble in love.
This is like the love between Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng. Once the once proud and brilliant flowers fall into the world of love, they completely lose their former elegance and humble themselves to the dust.
Two people know each other and love each other is actually a consensual thing. Only when two people have the right eyes and love each other can they be sweet on the basis of equality of love.
When one party loves another person humbly, the result can be imagined: either you are injured or I am injured.
Why does love produce humility? Why is sweet love humble? As mentioned earlier, the payment is not equal. Give us the youth that will eventually pass away and tell us three answers:
First, the first love plot
First love is the first person you like, the first person who gives you joy and the first person who lets you taste the sweetness of love.
First love is not mixed with any additional conditions, regardless of birth, just because of the right eyes, pure love and harmony, so two people together, life experience the sweetness of this proposition for the first time.
Because it is the first time, the first time goes deep into the bone marrow forever, and the memory is the deepest. That kind of ignorant, pure, simple and preconceived love at first sight is unforgettable for a lifetime, and it is false to say that you can give up if you want to.
Ruan Wan in the play is just like her name. As the name implies, her mind is fragile, delicate and gentle enough to forgive her boyfriend for cheating and borrow money to accompany the derailed girl to have an abortion. After her boyfriend made a mistake, she said it wouldn't happen again and let bygones be bygones. Because she loves her more, she humbly accepted such betrayal.
When she told her boyfriend that she was pregnant, she got questions and doubts, not surprises and concerns. When pregnant or joking, the boyfriend instantly relaxes. It was here that she made up her mind to leave. In humble love, she gave everything and had an abortion for it.
Finally, I went to see my ex-boyfriend the day before the wedding. On this hurried road, I paid the price of my life. Her love is so humble, but men don't know how to cherish it, and the result is so sad.
The first love complex, the deep hatred of love, there is always one party who pays more, loves deeply and sacrifices more, but what is after the humble first love complex? It's parting.
Second, vanity.
When I came back to watch this movie, Li Weijuan refused because the old photo frame didn't get into college. In his view, when we go to college, we are people from two worlds. She yearned for the life of a rich man, so she married a divorced man who was 20 years older than her and had two children with her ex-wife. As long as we can give him a son, the hotel industry will be hers. Did she marry love? Still married to vanity.
This man loves Li Weijuan's youth, but Li Weijuan loves that he can give her good material life enjoyment. Of course, vanity was satisfied, but in the end it was lost to love. Because vanity makes love humble, is she really happy? Maybe only she knows the answer.
A person who loves climbing, material life and vanity is unequal in love with the other half and humble before appearing.
Three. ideal and reality
In the movie, the heroine Kevin·Z and the hero Chen just wander between ideal and reality. From the beginning of Kevin·Z's stalking to Chen's surrender, the process of getting to know each other and falling in love is full of sweetness.
Under the influence of love magic, Chen bravely took a brave step to love, breaking the idea that he had never talked about love in college, and breaking the tolerance that life can only be carved once without centimeter error.
But after graduation, facing the reality, I found that he had to return to a life that could only be carved once. In fact, the reality has always existed, but Kevin·Z's love made him hide.
Kevin·Z said, you don't even ask if the girl you love is willing to suffer with you? He was sentenced to death. But Chen doesn't want to, because his love is humble and he is used to poverty. Because he doesn't have good conditions, but he loves him deeply, so he can't tolerate his own failure, even one centimeter. Reality made him bow under the ideal of love, and he chose to escape very humbly.
Just like in the end, the successful person Chen said to Kevin·Z, Can I still love you? This affectionate question is enough to express his inner humility.
When faced with the choice of ideal love and real life, as men, most of them may make the same choice as Chen. Because of humble love, the more they are afraid of losing, the less they can tolerate their own failure, because failure means losing her. However, when you choose to work hard, don't you still lose her?
There is a deep gap between ideal and reality. There seems to be no choice but to choose one. If you choose the hardships of reality, you will lose your ideal love.
How to do, just won't humble love a person? 1. Brave farewell to the first love complex.
The first love complex is so beautiful that we are reluctant to lose it. The first one is far more profound than the second one and the third one after it, but it's only your first love. Can it really represent the love of a lifetime?
The answer is: no, it is said that people may fall in love with several people in their life, but only one person will finally get together. People who can accompany you for a lifetime have experienced many twists and turns of love and met at the best time and place.
It is said that first love is the death of love, and we can't live without it, but let's imagine for ourselves, is first love really inseparable from it? You still have your parents, your brothers and sisters, and your life goes on. It is painful to separate at first, but no one can resist the washing of time, and everything will fade.
Say goodbye to the first love story bravely. In fact, you still live happily without him, but your heart is unwilling. Long-term pain does not go away from short-term pain, but if it is not suitable, let go boldly. Hello, I'm good, everyone.
Second, give up vanity and get love.
Many people ask, can vanity really exist with love? I can't do it without multiple choice questions.
I want to say, if you talk about love with vanity, your starting point and opportunity are impure, and you have a purpose, will this kind of love be equal? Many people often choose to satisfy their vanity in the end, but they have no love foundation. It's called working together.
Lose vanity. Two people like each other on the basis of equality, regardless of background and without any purpose, then love and then be together, and love will be happy and long-lasting.
Third, choose the person you love and work with her.
Men always want to be with her in an equal posture, a posture that can protect after spelling out the future.
But as we all know, when you succeed, things change, and women don't know where they have gone. I don't know where love can stand the toss of time. If you miss it, you will miss it forever.
When a man doesn't want a woman to suffer with him and wants to give her happiness after he spells out a sky, he might as well ask her. If she is willing to suffer with you, it means that this woman you meet deserves your redoubled efforts to love. Then face the next life with her, don't wait, hold her in your arms at this moment and never let go.
Choose to work with her for the future. Whether it is a man or a woman, love will only get stronger and stronger, and you will be moved to tears for making this wise choice in the future.
Are you still in humble love at last?
Please say no to the humble.
Say your love and let her know!
Love is to fight for your future with her, even if it is a thorn all the way.
Love is not leaving out each other in your future plans.
Love, please hold it in your hand, don't let her go!