Good manners consist of small sacrifices. ——Emerson

If you don’t learn etiquette, you can’t stand up. ——Confucius

The reason why mortals are more noble than animals is because they are polite. ——"Yan Zi Chun Qiu"

The most appetizing thing at a banquet is the etiquette of the host. ——Shakespeare

Discourteousness is the bastard child of ignorance. ——Butler

Interest is a strategy devised by smart people to keep a distance from fools. ——Emerson 1. Harmony between Generals and Prime Ministers - Asking for forgiveness under the thorns Lin Xiangru was a minister of the State of Zhao during the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. He was very knowledgeable and talented. In the two diplomatic struggles of "returning the intact jade to Zhao" and "meeting in Mianchi", he defended the dignity of Zhao State and ranked higher than the famous general Lian Po. This made Lian Po very unconvinced. He said to others: "I, Lian Po, are invincible and invincible in all battles. I have made great military exploits for the State of Zhao. Lin Xiangru is just talking with his mouth. What's so great about it?" Climb on my head. I must insult him." After hearing this, Lin Xiangru tried his best not to meet with Lian Po. He avoided Lian Po every time he went out, and sometimes even pretended to be sick and refused to go to court. One time, Lin Xiangru went out and saw Lian Po's carriage and horses coming towards him from a distance, so he quickly asked the driver to go around the path. Lin Xiangru's people felt aggrieved by his humiliating behavior and asked to leave and return home. Lin Xiangru insisted on staying and patiently explained to them: "Compared with General Lian and the King of Qin, which one do you think is more powerful?" Everyone said: "Of course General Lian is not as good as the King of Qin." Lin Xiangru said: "Yes, all the princes in the world Everyone is afraid of the King of Qin, but for the sake of Zhao, I dared to rebuke him in the Qin court. How could I be afraid when I saw General Lian? I understand your feelings, but have you ever thought about the powerful one? The reason why the State of Qin does not dare to attack the State of Zhao is because there are two people in the State of Zhao, General Lian. If the two tigers fight, both sides will lose. I do not care about personal grudges and give way to General Lian in the interests of the country. " After hearing these words, everyone felt relieved and gave up the idea of ??saying goodbye and returning home. Instead, they respected Lin Xiangru even more. Later, someone told Lian Po what Lin Xiangru said. Lian Po was deeply moved and ashamed. He felt that he was so narrow-minded and felt sorry for Lin Xiangru, so he decided to apologize to his face. One day, he took off his war robe, naked with a thorn stick on his back, came to Lin Xiangru's house, threw himself on his knees on the ground, burst into tears, and said to Lin Xiangru in a sobbing voice: "I am a despicable rough man with little knowledge. I'm short-tempered, I didn't expect you to be so tolerant to me. I really don't have the face to see you, please beat me hard! You are willing to beat me to death." Lin Xiangru saw this scene and hurriedly helped Lian Po up. , the two hugged each other tightly. From then on, the two people eliminated the barriers, strengthened their unity, and worked together to defend Zhao State. The powerful Qin State did not dare to invade Zhao State easily. 2. Unity and friendship - the calm Liu Mingchuan Liu Mingchuan, the governor-general of the Qing Dynasty stationed in Taiwan, was a major contributor to the construction of Taiwan. It was he who supervised the construction of Taiwan's first railway. There is a thought-provoking story about Liu Mingchuan's appointment: when Li Hongzhang recommended Liu Mingchuan to Zeng Guofan, he also recommended two other scholars. In order to test which of the three of them had the best character, Zeng Guofan deliberately invited them to Zeng Mansion for an interview at a certain time. But when the appointed time came, Zeng Guofan deliberately did not show up and asked them to wait in the living room, but secretly observed their attitudes carefully. The other two seemed very impatient and kept complaining; only Liu Mingchuan was quietly and calmly admiring the calligraphy and paintings on the wall. Later, Zeng Guofan asked them about the calligraphy and painting in the living room, and only Liu Mingchuan could answer it. As a result, Liu Mingchuan was recommended as the governor of Taiwan. Note: People who are impatient must lack the spirit of perseverance and perseverance to overcome all difficulties, and naturally they will not be able to accomplish anything great. If we hope to make a difference in the future, we must first hone our patience and perseverance. 3. Kong Rong let the pear Kong Rong (153-208), a native of Lu (now Qufu, Shandong), was a famous writer in the late Eastern Han Dynasty and one of the seven sons of Jian'an. His literary creations were highly praised by Emperor Wen of Wei Cao Pi. According to historical records, Kong Rong was not only very smart when he was young, but he was also a model of brotherly etiquette, mutual help and friendship. When Kong Rong was four years old, he often ate pears with his brother. Every time, Kong Rong always took the smallest pear. Once, my father saw it and asked: "Why do you always take the small one instead of the big one?" Kong Rong said: "I am the younger brother and the youngest. I should eat the small one and give the big one to my brother." Let’s go!” At a young age, Kong Rong understood the principles of courtesy, mutual help, unity and friendship between brothers and sisters, which surprised the whole family. Since then, the story of Kong Rong letting the pear go has been passed down for thousands of years and has become a model of unity and friendship. 4. Cheng Men Li Xue "Cheng Men Li Xue" This story comes from "History of Song Dynasty? Biography of Yang Shi": "When I met Cheng Yi in Luo, Shi Gai was forty years old. One day I met Yi, and Yi sat in silence. You Zuo stood up and left. When Yi woke up, the snow was a foot deep outside the door. "Cheng Men Li Xue" tells the story of Song Dynasty scholars Yang Shi and You Zuo seeking advice from Cheng Hao and Cheng Yi. Yang Shi and You Zuo originally had Cheng Hao as their teacher. After Cheng Hao passed away, they were already forty years old and had passed the Jinshi examination. However, they still had to go to Cheng Yi to continue their studies. The story happened on the day when they first came to Songyang Academy to pay homage to Cheng Yi.

According to legend, one day Yang Shi and You Ye came to Songyang Academy to meet Cheng Yi, but they met Mr. Cheng with his eyes closed and sitting up to pretend to sleep. At this time, it started to snow outside. The two people were eager to ask for help, so they stood aside respectfully without saying a word. After waiting for a long time, Cheng Yi slowly opened his eyes and saw Yang Shi and You Ye standing in front of him. He was surprised and said: " Ah, ah! Are the two of them still here?" At this time, the snow outside the door was already more than a foot thick, but Yang Shi and You Ye didn't look tired or impatient at all. This story, called "Cheng Men Li Xue", was widely circulated among scholars in the Song Dynasty. Later, people often used the idiom "Cheng Men Li Xue" to express students' respect for their teachers and their sincerity in learning. 5. The story of "sending goose feathers thousands of miles away" happened in the Tang Dynasty. At that time, in order to show support for the Tang Dynasty, the leader of a minority group in Yunnan sent a special envoy, Mian Bogao, to donate swans to Taizong. When passing by the Mianyang River, a kind-hearted man Mian Bogao released the swan from the cage and wanted to give it a bath. Unexpectedly, Mian Bogao spread his wings and flew high into the sky. , wailed loudly. His followers advised him: "It has flown away, there is no use crying, it is better to think of a remedy. "Mian Bogao thought that this was all he could do. When he arrived in Chang'an, Mian Bogao paid a visit to Emperor Taizong of the Tang Dynasty and presented him with a gift. When Emperor Taizong saw that it was an exquisite satin bag, he asked someone to open it, and saw a few goose feathers and a A short poem: "Swans pay tribute to the Tang Dynasty, the mountains are high and the roads are far away. The treasure was lost in the Mianyang River, and he fell to the ground crying. Restore the Holy Son of Heaven, and be able to spare Mian Bogao. The gift is light but the affection is heavy, sending goose feathers thousands of miles away. "Taizong of the Tang Dynasty was puzzled, and Mian Bogao immediately told the whole story. Taizong of the Tang Dynasty said repeatedly: "How commendable! It’s so valuable! Sending goose feathers from thousands of miles away is a light gift but a heavy gift! ” This story embodies the valuable virtue of integrity of the gift-giver. Today, people use the metaphor of “sending goose feathers from thousands of miles away” to describe a gift that is thin, but the affection is extremely strong.

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