The so-called poor children include the following three points:
1. As the old saying goes, there has never been a Mrs. Fuduo, and there have been few great people since ancient times. Superior material life and a large amount of disposable money will mislead a person's values, make people covet pleasure and form the psychology of keeping up with the joneses, so it is necessary to control the spending of boys' money.
2. As the old saying goes, good people are rewarded. The ancient tradition in our country is that when a woman marries a boudoir, a man has to run around and make contributions. Therefore, in the early training of boys, we should accept frustration education and cultivate tough minds.
3. The standards of saints in the Book of Rites are: self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world. A man has to shoulder the heavy responsibility of his family and country, so he can only cultivate his independence and sense of responsibility when he is poor.
Rich adopted daughters include the following three points:
1. Daughters have been called daughters since ancient times. Ancient families basically spoiled girls and kept the daughters of rich families out of the door. In the feudal society, which advocates that "women are virtuous without talent", teachers are invited to tutor girls in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. In this state, girls are more temperamental, cultured and knowledgeable. Therefore, girls who eat well are more confident. In traditional society, women's status is low, especially after marrying their in-laws, and they are easily bullied by their in-laws. Rich people are more independent in character and can better protect themselves. This is also one reason why poor families want to raise their daughters to be rich.
2. One woman can influence three generations of in-laws. A woman can decide her parents' happiness in their later years, affect their children's childhood happiness and the future of the next generation.