People's personality and psychology are very complicated, and the causes are different, and they are not static.

If you want to change your "timid" personality, you must first accept yourself.

This acceptance does not mean "I want to be the best, I want to be excellent, and I will get rid of all my defects …".

By accepting yourself, I suggest you admit that "I am just an ordinary person with defects".

However, generally speaking, if a person is timid, it is difficult for him to admit and face this. Want to change, it means unwilling to accept or difficult to accept.

So it is necessary to change our thinking.

Just like you love sports, you have to admit that you have an impulsive habit of three minutes of heat. If you can't insist, don't curse yourself for being useless.

When things happen, you are rather timid. Admit that you are afraid, flustered or nervous. There is no need to justify or find reasons for this. Tell yourself it's normal.

Repeat it in your mind and try again in a similar situation in an unintelligible way.

We all have shortcomings. Everything has cracks.

Only accept yourself, don't make excuses, don't avoid the importance, don't avoid it. To change yourself.

1. Don't take yourself too seriously. No one will care whether you are timid or not. A large part of the reason why you are timid is that you take yourself too seriously and feel that you are inferior to others in some ways. Actually, you should have, but you didn't. So, don't worry too much about what you want to do and say. Hurry up and do it, or you will regret it.

2. Be confident. Attitude will determine your fate. What conquers people is not your external conditions, but your self-confidence, your state, your words and deeds.

Don't compare the advantages of others with your own shortcomings, and don't envy the cards in others' hands. When God gave you something, he already secretly won the bid. We should see clearly what we have, enlarge our advantages and play our cards well.

4. Live with a normal mind and a peaceful mind. From now on.

First of all, personality is not easy to change and relatively stable, which is the basis of mental health.

Secondly, to change this mentality, it is mostly exercise.

Take me for example. I didn't dare to speak in front of people before, but later I had to communicate with people at work. Slowly, through work and exercise, this obstacle was gradually eliminated.

Thirdly, if there is no obvious psychological discomfort and physical reaction, you will not consider social phobia and other issues, but it reflects your lack of confidence.

How to improve self-confidence? The simple and effective way is to find your own strengths and strengthen them. Make yourself a leader in a certain field.

Finally, no one is perfect, and everyone should strive to grow up. When they are timid, they should encourage themselves in their hearts and use the psychological hints of mindfulness to improve their psychological endurance.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

Cowardice is the expression of cowardice, and its main characteristics are fear of authority, lack of sense of boundaries, inferiority and so on. Timid people are generally flattering and attach too much importance to other people's opinions or feelings.

If you want to change this situation, you need to do:

(1) Overcome inferiority by enhancing self-confidence;

(2) Establish border awareness, determine the principles and bottom lines in all aspects of life, and dare to maintain their bottom lines in real life;

(3) Establish your own sense of authority. Improve your professional quality and become an expert who speaks with strength or technology. When you become an expert or authority figure in a certain field, you will automatically overcome your fear of authority.

(4) improve the ability of emotional processing. By writing an emotional diary, learn to deal with emotions rationally, learn to distinguish other people's emotions from their own, carefully analyze the reasons behind the emotions inspired by others, and deal with them through correction.

(5) Regular strength training can effectively improve self-confidence and control.

In fact, each of us is sentient beings, just ordinary people.

Some people may look richer or have higher status, but when you really get close to him, get to know him and get to know him, you will find that he is just like you.

Everyone has troubles in life, such as eating and sleeping, and some parents have temporary headaches.

Maybe some people are rich second generation, and they can get these wealth positions without much effort. But if you want to break through the pressure and anxiety of your father to prove yourself, you will find that they also have a lot of troubles, and even they may prefer to be born in an ordinary family and not be limited by their parents' reputation for life.

When we are not familiar with them, we can only see their "beautiful coats" and "precious crowns". In fact, we don't know them.

For example, the chairman of our company, when I didn't know him well, felt that he was particularly dignified, powerful and far away from me.

Later, because of business trips, I often ate at the same table and listened to him chatting with others.

Talk about how his parents are partial to other children in the family, how his little sister is, why he did it, and so on. You will find that he also has many ordinary people's troubles, and suddenly his image becomes vivid, three-dimensional and cordial.

Let go of this sense of distance, awe and even inexplicable hatred in your heart, and understand them with a normal heart, and your prejudice will naturally disappear.

Everyone will have their own unique place. Maybe you don't have such a high position and so much wealth, but you are caring and helpful.

If you help the weak get "recognition", then do they "recognize" the behavior you helped or you?

This kind of "identity" is actually not so real.

When you have no interest relationship with others, others still like you and appreciate you. I think this is the real recognition.

No matter how good I am, I am also timid. Sometimes I dare not cross the road for fear of being hit by a car. I'm afraid my girlfriend will lose her temper, so I just listen and dare not do anything, so often our quarrels end soon; Because of cowardice, I dare not contradict the leader, so the leader thinks I can bear it very much; Because of cowardice, I walk in the street, only looking at the road ahead, not looking at those tall and fierce smokers, so I practice fast and fast. Because of cowardice, I have always been cautious in investing and have never invested in stocks. Because of my level, my colleagues, like me, have no level, but they lost miserably.

It's all good! I'm doing well now, but I don't think it's necessary to change. Timidity is a shortcoming, but there are always advantages! I love thinking, writing, living, playing League of Legends, playing basketball and practicing.

Finally, I want to say that cowardice is related to family education. My father is very timid, so I have developed a very timid character. Timid doesn't mean I'm not responsible, nor does it mean I'm not fully accepted by the world.

I think chatting with people, walking more and even climbing mountains can exercise people. At the end of last year, we climbed once. Before the mountain was closed by heavy snow or even could not climb down, we planned to climb Wudang Mountain at the end of April. We used to be scared, but now we enjoy it.

Judging from your question, the more timid people are, the more introverted they are. Let me analyze why they are timid. In fact, many of them are also caused by introverts.

But I also want to emphasize that not all things are good or bad. Cowardice is often regarded as fear and cowardice, but it is also necessary to be timid in the face of different situations. A gentleman is a real hero if he can be flexible! Timidity is retreat, not timidity is not rashness!

Let's analyze the reasons for the embarrassment:

People like 1 appear more in introverts. Why? Because they have one thing in common, they are all good people and don't want to make trouble, so when they are in trouble, they mostly run away, because they don't have to face the risks brought by trouble themselves.

This timid character is also a timid character, which may be caused by long-term oppression or being at the bottom of society, and it is a cowardly mentality.

The root of this timid character is weak ability, narrow vision, poor interpersonal relationship and unsociable.

Relatively speaking, the figure will be thin, and I will be afraid when I meet some scenes.

So how to improve it?

1 people who are timid should strengthen their self-confidence through exercise. Health will give you a sense of strength. To give an inappropriate example, I used to argue with others and say something. My body is too excited to speak. I am afraid to argue with others because I tremble when I am nervous. However, after two years of persistent exercise, this situation no longer exists. I have good physical fitness, full breath and loud voice when talking to others. At least I have enough self-confidence.

Make more friends and build your own network. It is said that many people make things simple. When your contacts are large enough, you will have many choices when facing some things, and you will not be pushed around casually, nor will you be cowardly.

Improving your ability is the key. When you have enough cognitive ability, thinking ability and problem-solving ability, you will be able to handle complex problems with ease. If you are not afraid, you can handle them better.

Go out and see more, read more books and broaden your horizons. When you look at things from more angles, you will see them more accurately, which is more conducive to your accurate grasp, and you will have your own opinions. No more fear.

When you are healthy, independent, confident, capable and well connected, you are a strong person, and that cowardly and timid you will no longer exist.

Tell a story of myself.

I am a very timid person. Afraid of teachers. When I was a child, I was afraid of teachers. Truancy is a common occurrence. The neighboring villages are all famous. Anyone who sees it must hit twice. Then he smiled and said that your boy played truant again.

I remember not doing my homework once. Dare not go to school. It happened that my father was at home that day. I'm afraid of being beaten. Pretend to leave with a schoolbag. Then play hooky for a day. Later, I was sent home by my neighbor. Beaten up by my father. I've been beaten by my dad countless times. And he plays hard every time. But I'm not afraid.

Then my dad asked me. Why aren't you afraid that I will hit you so hard? Is the teacher as good as me?

I said no, the teacher's fight is better than yours. Not worth mentioning.

Complete this sentence. I laughed myself.

Really.

Then I began to understand. No more truancy.

Yes, compared with my father, the teacher's performance is better. It's really not worth mentioning.

I also fought with my teacher in the second and third day of junior high school. Hit the teacher on the head with a stone. Tear the pants of the female teacher.

No more truancy. But study is just as bad. I guess it's because I'm not afraid of teachers

This is my story. Encourage each other

If you are a coward, you should be a coward. If you don't be a coward, no one will give you a standard for being a man, doing things and getting along with others. You should change with change, or change with change.

The concept of a coward is that this person is timid because of lack of self-confidence and lacks the courage to undertake. First of all, we should open our hearts from the inside out and shape a positive, optimistic and confident character. Women can be ugly, but they must live beautifully and wonderfully. No matter when, profound knowledge, good cultivation, elegant conversation and a loving heart will definitely make a person live a beautiful and wonderful life. Don't be melodramatic on the way to struggle. You can do what others can do well. Believe in yourself and I can, and God will not let you down!