Maybe you will wonder, if everyone is silent, how can we communicate?
In fact, Goodman is not denying the communication effect of words, but dialectically looking at communication from a psychological point of view: we can't simply understand communication as a dialogue with voices, and communication is more likely to be in an awkward position because of loud arguments and voices.
He studied many couples and found that one of them must be a good communicator. The so-called master of communication means that he especially respects the other party's right to speak, that is, he can always listen to others gently and give them some appropriate responses after listening to the other half's statement.
In the traditional family relationship in China, parents often play the role of "authority", which means that they have more right to speak.
My colleague's son has always been among the best in senior one, but he only got the twelfth place in an exam. The news came as a bolt from the blue to colleagues.
So, he went home, didn't give his son any chance to defend himself, and opened his mouth to the "bomber" mode-didn't he listen carefully in class? Have you played too much? Is it puppy love? ……
Ten minutes later, the child was scolded and cried, and finally timidly spit out the sentence stuck in his mouth: "Gastroenteritis was committed during the exam and sent to the infirmary."
Colleagues never thought there would be such a reason. Now they are so guilty that they dare not face their children at all.
As a parent, he longed for his son to be a dragon. However, if he doesn't listen to his children and scolds them, it may leave a shadow on his young mind.