But what I love is not love itself, I love this special person. Everything I have experienced with it, the feelings that have precipitated with it over time, and the bittersweet memories will not all dissipate because of the decrease in dopamine secretion.
Eat chocolate, dopamine concentration rises, love is chocolate? Dopamine ... love. People are emotional and thoughtful animals, and people need mutual appreciation and care. This is why dopamine has disappeared and love still exists.
2. Think from another angle, life can be more exciting. This secular society measures people's success by money, and the subject doesn't want to live a lifetime like most people, so the subject's life is meaningless.
The subject wants to live a different life and stand out as a great person, but there are so many people in this world and so few successful people. This probability is so small that the subject feels desperate. Therefore, on the one hand, the subject wants to succeed and get secular recognition. On the other hand, the subjects feel that their chances of success are slim, and even if they settle for the second best, it is not so easy to find someone they love. The subject can't help thinking: if I have to live like all mediocre people, what is the meaning of my life? There are three possibilities about the meaning of life.
1. Life is meaningful, and the meaning is to make big money, be a big official, and be with the people you love. 2. Life is meaningful, meaning is something not mentioned in 1.
3. Life is meaningless. There is no other possibility.
Then one of the three must be correct. So what can be called meaning? It means to make you feel that I have lived my whole life, because I have it, so I have not lived in vain.
With it, my life has achieved real satisfaction, even if I die, I have no regrets. It is what I have been pursuing all my life, and it is also the ultimate direction of all my actions. Sounds a bit like "faith".
But meaning is different from faith. Faith is something you must pursue to achieve, and meaning is something that already exists. This is an existing state.
Assume that 1 is true. So if one day you really earn a lot of money and become an entrepreneur, like Liu, you have money and milk tea, become a ceo, marry Bai and reach the peak of your life.
Then your life is meaningful. Then you have not lived in vain in your life, so you have no regrets when you die.
Then I'll let you die right away. Will you die? You will say: you didn't cheat! Finally rich, finally have milk tea. At least let me have a good time first If I die now, what's the point of making this money? So what you want is not only money, but also the feeling of being rich.
How long do you want to play? I don't think you will be long.
Basically all successful books can fall into this first category.
Generally speaking, a whole book focuses on two things: 1. Stick to your dreams. 2. Work hard.
Success books will constantly imply that your ultimate success is the only purpose and meaning of your life. But it only dares to hint, not to write it clearly.
Because the probability of success is too low, lower than 1%. Moreover, successful books will imply that if you don't succeed, it's because you didn't work hard enough or didn't stick to your dreams.
So I completely pushed the responsibility out. However, the common sense of normal people tells us that there is no necessary connection between efforts and success (at least the success described in the science of success), and the hope of success is too slim.
What's the point of living a person who has no hope of success all his life? There's no point. What's the difference between being alive and being dead? Because this hope is too slim, it is better not to take this as meaning at all than to live in the fear of meaningless life. We can find some goals that are easier to achieve to gain inner peace. This leads to option 2.
If 2 is true. Life is meaningful, and meaning is something else.
What is this? Basically all books on chicken soup psychology can be classified into this category. The meaning of life in these books can be roughly divided into two categories: 1. Love, especially giving love.
2. Scenery along the way. What is the final answer? If you ask here, there is only one last possibility.
There is no point in living. You must understand this order. You existed in this world before you started looking for meaning.
You don't live because it makes sense. You're looking for meaning because you're alive.
Like all objects, stones, trees and animals, you just exist. Their existence is meaningless, and your existence is meaningless.
But as a person, you have thinking, you have self-awareness and you have valuable judgment, so you think you should be meaningful. Besides, when you find that people around you are fooling around, you need a real meaning. You think you are special.
Actually, you are special, but not as special as you think. What's special about you-maybe your current dopamine level is lower than theirs.
Dopamine in the brain determines your way of thinking. When dopamine is low, people begin to think about the meaning of life, the meaning of life.
Try to convince yourself to endure an unhappy life with a sensible thing. If the dopamine level is lower, you will fall into depression.
If you come into contact with people with depression, you will find that what they often say is: What's the point? What is the point of living? If your dopamine drops and you become severely depressed, then you will start to want to commit suicide because you feel that living is meaningless. And if your dopamine level is the same as most people, you will basically feel like most people, so it is good to live.
There are so many beautiful things in life, such as gayscript, delicious, fun and beautiful. Isn't this a good life? If you were taller, you would feel that life is simply too beautiful and doesn't need any meaning at all. Living itself is the greatest luck. You are happy when the sun shines on you, you are happy when you walk on the grass, and a smile from your lover is the whole meaning of your life.
But don't worry, the level of dopamine is not fixed and can be adjusted at any time. Usually we have different ideas at every stage of our growth, and sometimes these two ideas are diametrically opposed.
For example, you are active in primary school and tired of learning in junior high school, which may be the reason for dopamine. Why does all chicken soup psychology tell you to experience the journey and love others when you doubt life? Because after doing this, your dopamine level will rise! Then you won't worry about what the point is! If you say: Isn't that self-deception? Just drag the question to the back.
No, the truth is, the problem doesn't exist at all! Why did you think money and status were meaningful before? It's just that you are right.
After coming back, I finally couldn't resist the undercurrent inside. You are stupid. You like it, don't quibble, don't be divorced from your own psychology. It turns out that you are also a person who is dishonest with yourself. People like you are cute and sad most of the time, but you have the heart and personality that a man should have. So I support you.
Over time, together, over time, two people have more mutual understanding, each has certain characteristics to attract each other and appreciate each other. Compared with love at first sight, you all have mature minds. We have been together for a long time. Let's go back to the first time we met and think about it. Maybe the other person looked at each other so unhappy at that time, but after contact and communication. It turns out that you have a rich heart and she is very happy. We all need each other. Silently, this forms an invisible love. You will feel uneasy if you don't see each other. You will be silently happy with each other's words and deeds. Yes, this is hidden love. And love is not maintained by a single aspect, you have to think about how long you can last. This is a great journey for two people. Two people, who would be lonely without them.
Now, if you like him, love him, there are many ways to show your love, so in general, it is to make her happy. This is a kind of selfless love, a kind of generous love and a kind of deep love. So, if you love him, then you should combine your current situation. After all, she's getting married, which means she has to have a perfect family, so if you think you can give her such a life, she is willing to stay with you. So what's the reason for you to back down?
You have to refuel.
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When men and women first yearn for each other.
Sex hormones secrete testosterone and estrogen.
This desire lasts until you fall in love.
Dopamine and serum amine are secreted.
Serum amine is the most important substance in love.
It can make people almost crazy for a period of time.
In the next stage,
Men and women will continue their relationship.
And hope to get closer integration.
Will develop into sex or marriage.
Oxytocin and vasopressin are secreted at this time.
Oxytocin does not only exist between men and women.
When mothers breastfeed their children, they also secrete it.
This also proves that for women,
Motherhood and love are the same
More interesting is serum amine.
Serum amine will make you unaware of each other's shortcomings.
It will block your view.
……
The hormones I mentioned just now can maintain a high concentration.
Only about two years.
Three or four years at most.
……
5. Seek the classic lines of TV series "The Beauty of Law" 1. The loveliest thing about successful women is that they know the times and have proper limits, and the most unpleasant thing is that they always hide a broken heart under their seemingly powerful appearance.
2. Women have many ways to live, which can be raised by men or married by themselves; You can have a baby or run with a bull.
Women regard love as the greatest pleasure in life, but in men's view, love is not much different from playing ball games and gambling.
Nostalgic women can easily become dissatisfied wives.
5. Woman, why are you doing so well? Better to marry well than to do well, but better to live well than to marry well.
6. Living without a man doesn't mean you don't need a man.
7. Women have two emotions, love and vanity.
8. It is said that love makes women beautiful. In fact, I found that lovelorn can make women more confident and beautiful.
9. Some women are either too stupid to accept or too smart.
10. Usually, a lovelorn woman, no matter how excellent and perfect, will feel useless.
1 1. Wilde hit the nail on the head. Twenty years of romance makes women look like ruins, and twenty years of marriage makes women look like public buildings.
12. Time and hardships can tame an arrogant young woman, but they can't make an arrogant old woman succumb to any secular power.
13. I don't believe women when they say they are stupid.
14. Live like a man in the future: lie down as a lover and stand up as a master.
1. Men only need two things: sex and children.
2. Men have been fighting for two women all their lives, one is ideal and the other is reality. You can't combine them into one, which is the sorrow of men.
3. When dopamine and oxytocin work in the body, men's values are usually confused. They can't tell the difference between a catty of lychee and a house. Just like they can't tell brown lipstick from pink lipstick.
Men in the world are all the same. You have only met men at different stages.
6. Ten ways to improve memory 1. Listening to more music helps to remember. Based on medicine and psychology, Dr. Lazanov studied some music and found that adagio in Bach's and Handel's works can eliminate the tension in the brain and make people enter a state of meditation.
He asked students to listen to slow-paced music, relax their muscles, and read materials that need to be memorized according to the beat of music. Play cheerful music for 2 minutes after learning, so that the brain can recover from memory activities.
Many students who have tried this method feel that the memory effect is very good. Second, recite classics to improve memory. Do we know that people often recite some famous articles, idioms, good sentences, short poems, mathematical formulas, loanwords and technical essentials when studying and even in their leisure time? That is the "hard work" to exercise memory.
When Marx was young, he memorized poems in an unskilled foreign language to exercise his memory. Reciting 10 to 20 minutes every day can also improve memory.
Third, the memory efficiency of mind and body is high. Science has proved that correct repetition is the main method of effective memory, especially when people memorize knowledge with their brains, hands, ears and mouths in learning, the memory efficiency is high and the effect is good. Because in memory, we should not only think with our brains, but also read aloud and write by hand, and unconsciously mobilize more memory "channels" to participate in memory in learning, so that the memory traces will deepen and the memory effect will of course be better.
Fourth, whimsy and strong memory. When we study and read books, it is often difficult to remember some numbers and years. If you are good at associative memory, it is easy to remember.
For example, the pile table and chamber method or the Roman chamber method and the pictograph method are all manifestations of the association method. You can use a stake or room as a storage stake for images. The principle is to connect what you want to remember with what you already know.
The original thing is called "wooden stake", and the new things to remember are connected with wooden stakes. This method is used to memorize a large number of materials and foreign languages. Fifth, chewing more can increase memory. Science has proved that chewing is one of the effective ways to prevent memory loss.
Some people think that chewing can make people relax. If the elderly chew less, their blood hormones are high enough to cause short-term memory loss. If you observe the crowd, you will find that people who chew regularly have good teeth, eat more fragrant, and their learning ability and memory ability will also be enhanced.
Another example is chewing chaff, which Americans like best. Sixth, women's nagging encourages memory nagging to help women prolong their memory and life span to a certain extent.
In the use of language, nagging is also the repetition of something and someone. Frequent repetition will certainly deepen the nagger's attention and memory of something or someone. Experts believe that women are more willing to communicate with others than men; When men get old, they are mostly silent.
Speech is an indispensable way of psychological catharsis, which can prevent memory decline. 7. Clever diet is helpful for memory, and proper intake of "healthy fat" can reduce the occurrence of thrombosis. For example, olive oil and fish oil are good choices to maintain normal blood circulation, and vegetables and fruits rich in vitamins and minerals are also good choices to maintain health.
A considerable number of people are not unable to remember, but lack the memory information transmitter-choline acetate in their brains. If you eat these foods regularly, you can greatly improve your memory.
Eight, people who love to play more have strong memories. Physical activity can improve health, while mental activity can reduce memory loss. Especially those who love to play love activities have a wide range of interests, dabble in many things, have a wide range of knowledge and have a strong memory.
Science has proved that dancing, reading, playing cards and learning foreign languages can increase the number of synapses, enhance the signal transmission between nerve cells and consolidate memory. Nine, exercise and fitness can prevent memory loss. Generally speaking, people who are healthy, love sports and life are full of energy, strong learning ability and strong memory. People can promote brain self-renewal during exercise.
Experts believe that long-term cardiovascular exercise can reduce brain tissue loss and memory loss caused by age. Many studies show that to keep your brain active, you only need to exercise regularly.
Children who exercise three or four times a week generally get higher test scores when they are 10 or 1 1 years old. Older people who often walk perform better in memory tests than those who are accustomed to sedentary peers.
By pumping extra oxygen into the brain that consumes energy, exercise can enhance intelligence. The latest research also refutes the statement that people cannot produce new brain cells after birth.
On the contrary, the study found that physical exercise can actually promote the growth of new brain cells. In mice, the brain enhancement effect caused by exercise is most obvious in the hippocampus related to learning and memory.
X. Family happiness, happiness of body and mind, and prevention of brain aging. A large number of social surveys have long proved that family happiness is a necessary condition for learners to improve their learning and memory ability. In particular, two of a kind of lovers or lovers can make both sides secrete hormones and acetylcholine, which is beneficial to enhancing their own immunity and delaying brain aging. B, 12 Food types that can enhance memory There are countless billions of nerve cells in the human brain that are constantly carrying out heavy activities. Scientific research has confirmed that diet is not only a necessity to maintain life, but also plays a very important role in the normal operation of the brain.
Some foods help to develop people's intelligence, make people's thinking more agile, concentrate more, and even stimulate people's creativity and imagination. Nutrition and health care experts have found that some foods that help to strengthen the brain and improve intelligence are not expensive and hard to find, but cheap and ordinary things, which can be seen everywhere in daily life.
The following foods are very beneficial to the brain, so mental workers and school students may wish to choose foods frequently. 1, milk.
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2. eggs. Brain activity function and memory intensity are closely related to acetylcholine content in the brain.
Experiments have proved that the beauty of eating chicken is that when lecithin rich in egg yolk is separated by enzyme.