Reciprocity, respecting the elderly and caring for the young, raising eyebrows, respecting each other as guests, being kind to others, being courteous, and treating each other wholeheartedly

1. Reciprocity [ lǐ shàng wǎng lái ]

Explanation :Shang: Pay attention to. It means that etiquette should allow you to come and go. Now also means to answer the other party with the same attitude or approach.

From: "Book of Rites·Qu Lishang" by Dai Sheng of the Western Han Dynasty: "Etiquette requires reciprocity. It is not etiquette to go but not come; it is not etiquette to come but not go."

Translation : There should be a back-and-forth in etiquette. It is not etiquette for the other party not to return the gift after giving it away. It's not etiquette if you don't return a gift from someone else.

Example: Wen Qing was concerned about the face of her colleagues, so she had no choice but to reciprocate politely and deal with it reluctantly.

2. Raise the case to raise eyebrows [ jǔ àn qí méi ]

Explanation: Case: a tray with legs in ancient times. When serving food, hold the tray as high as your eyebrows. Later, it was described as husband and wife respecting each other.

From: Ban Gu of the Eastern Han Dynasty, "The Book of the Later Han: Biography of Liang Hong": "When I rent a pound for a man, every time I return home, my wife will have food for her. I dare not look up in front of the pound, but raise my eyebrows to raise the case."

Translation: For a man. Every time he went home, his wife prepared food for him. She didn't dare to raise her head in front of Liang Hong and raised her eyebrows.

Example: The next day, Gongsun Zang went to the hall to thank his relatives and held a banquet for drinking. At the end of the banquet, we returned to the new room, where we arranged the wine again, husband and wife.

3. Be kind to others [yǔ rén wéi shàn]

Explanation: with: praise, sponsorship; for: to do; shan: good deeds. It means encouraging people to learn well. Now it means helping people with kindness.

From: "Mencius Gongsun Chou 1": "To take what others think is good is to do good to others. Therefore, a gentleman can never do good to others."

Translation: To absorb the advantages of others To do good means to do good together with others. Therefore, the best thing for a gentleman is to be kind to others

Example: I think you priests are also kind to others, and you will never embarrass me.

4. Humble Corporal [qiān gōng xià shì]

Explanation: In the old days, it meant that high-ranking officials were humble and polite to those with low status but talents.

From: The Biography of Wei Xuancheng in the Book of Han Dynasty by Ban Gu of the Eastern Han Dynasty: "A young man is eager to learn and pursues his father's career, especially a humble corporal."

Translation: A young man is eager to learn and pursues his father's career, especially Be humble and polite to people of low status but with talent

Example: He walked to the car in person, closed the car door himself, bowed deeply and said goodbye, which was quite a courtesy to the corporal.

5. Treat each other wholeheartedly [jié chéng xiāng dài]

Explanation: sincerely: treat each other with all sincerity; wait: treat. Treat others with all your sincerity.

From: "Ten Thoughts on Admonishing Taizong" by Wei Zheng of the Tang Dynasty: "Since you are worried about Yin, you must treat your subordinates wholeheartedly. Once you have achieved your ambition, you can indulge yourself and be proud of things."

Translation: Probably when you are deeply worried, you must treat it with all your sincerity. After you have achieved your goal, you will indulge yourself and become domineering and arrogant.

Example: You must treat each other with sincerity in order to get the other person's sincere friendship. .