Dillydally and sloppily are common problems in children’s learning. The emergence of both phenomena has a formation process, and it is not a sudden dawdling or sloppiness one day. Improper education methods by educators are an important factor in its formation. The manifestations of dawdling and sloppiness are different, and the specific causes and correction methods are also different. We will discuss them respectively.
There are several situations when children are slow in learning: one is that they have low interest in learning, have to deal with it hard, are tired and helpless, put off when they can, lack self-confidence, and are irresponsible; the second is "chronic", Acting slowly, taking things at a leisurely pace, being unable to get nervous, no matter how urgent you are, you will remain the same; the third type is lack of time and efficiency concepts, and ignorance of the importance of time to life. Therefore, the treatment of dilly-dallying should be based on different situations and prescribe the right medicine. In the first case, efforts should be made to stimulate interest in learning, enhance self-confidence, and improve responsibility. Parents can refer to the topics in this book on cultivating interest to take educational measures; in the second and third cases, efforts should be made to dedicate time and improve learning efficiency. effort. The following is a reference method I provide to parents.
1. Connect with life and study reality, discuss with children the harm of procrastination, and understand the basic principle of "time is life, time is wealth". In a society full of competition, those who are slow and inefficient will be eliminated and their lives will be difficult. The bad habit of dawdling is harmful for life.
2. Strengthen dedicated training to improve efficiency. Help children determine the time, tasks, and goal requirements for each study, complete it by time, and evaluate the results. Every time you study, combine the three. The requirements of the three are different according to the age characteristics and personality characteristics of the child. Let your children enjoy the benefits of improved efficiency and increased play time.
3. Add timed activities. Children's dilly-dallying is not only reflected in learning, but also in all aspects of life, such as dressing, eating, packing schoolbags and stationery, doing laundry, etc. Therefore, to overcome the problem of friction, we need to approach it from different angles. Starting from the actual performance of the child, increasing timed activities is a feasible method. Set how long it takes to do something in advance, and then do it as quickly as possible while maintaining quality and quantity. Afterwards, parents and children evaluate together, adjust the requirements, and do better next time. For younger children, if parents and children conduct timed reading, timed memory, timed answering, and timed labor competitions, there will be better results.
4. Let your children study and play with efficiency-minded children to exert influence among the children. You can contact the parents of children who value efficiency in advance and ask them to put forward higher requirements for their children and encourage their children who are lazy in the process of learning and playing games.
There are three basic reasons for the formation of children's sloppy behavior: first, the sloppy phenomenon in childhood was not corrected in time and formed a stereotype; second, the sense of responsibility is not strong, there are too many elements to deal with, and there is a lack of real responsibility. Consciousness; third, there are too many homeworks, too many assignments, and I can't finish them quickly, so I am busy nagging, forgetting things, and making mistakes again and again.
To correct sloppiness, you can take the following methods.
1. Use life examples to let children understand the relationship between speed, quality and efficiency, and the consequences of carelessness. If some relatives and friends are engaged in precise and meticulous work, you may wish to take your children to see how they work. Asking relatives and friends to speak out will have a greater impact on your children's thinking. In scientific and technological undertakings, there is also a large amount of empirical material.
2. Guide children to form the habit of self-examination of learning results. Some children's homework mistakes caused by carelessness are often checked out by parents or other elders and corrected one by one. This method is not only ineffective in overcoming the problem of sloppiness, but may also lead to the child's dependence and become more sloppy. The correct approach is to guide children to check and verify learning effects by themselves. The parent's inspection should be after the child's inspection, and do not point out the error specifically, but delineate the scope of the error and let the child verify it by himself. Especially develop the habit of doing it right the first time.
3. Guide children to formulate their own measures to punish sloppiness. For example, if you have problems with homework or exams due to sloppiness, you can cancel a certain outing plan or cancel an entertainment activity such as watching TV or a movie; you can also punish yourself by reciting two mottos, famous sayings, and proverbs about being serious and not being sloppy. Or learn to tell a related story.
4. Carry out "fine work" training. There are many "fine jobs" in study and life, and you will definitely not do well if you don't take them seriously. For sloppy children, their problems can be overcome through "small work". For example, write block letters, draw meticulous paintings, sew clothes buttons, wash rice, pick sand, choose vegetables to wash, calculate utility bills, use brain games, etc. Let your children choose this type of thing to do purposefully, and with regular training, they will become more and more careful.