There was a lovelorn girl who cried because she was unwilling to give up in the park. A philosopher laughed and said: "You just lost someone who doesn't love you, and what he lost was someone who loved him. His loss was greater than yours. Why do you hate him? He should be the one who is unwilling to accept it." Yeah. "
Let's play a simple turning thinking game - think about it, the joys, sorrows and joys of life can also be different depending on the perspective.
If there is a restaurant near your home, the food is expensive, tastes bad, and there are cockroaches crawling on the table, will you come again and again because it is convenient?
Answer: You will definitely say, what kind of bad question is this? Who is so stupid that he spends money to pay for his suffering? But in the same situation, on another occasion, I might do similar stupid things. Many men and women have complained that their lovers or significant other are immoral, half-hearted, and irresponsible. Even though we knew that being together wouldn't have a good ending, and that we already had more hatred than love, we still "didn't know why" and still wanted to get involved with him and couldn't break up. To put it bluntly, it’s just out of unwillingness and out of habit. Isn’t this the same as visiting a bad restaurant?
If you accidentally lost 100 yuan, and you only knew that it seemed to be lost somewhere you walked by, would you spend 200 yuan in fares to get the 100 yuan back?
Answer: This is another super stupid question. However, similar things keep happening in life. I did something wrong and knew that I had a problem, but refused to admit my mistake. Instead, I spent more time making excuses to make others have a bad impression of me. It's the same reason for being scolded but spending countless hours feeling sad. Isn't it just as boring to get angry about one thing, without hesitation to harm others, without hesitation of money, and without hesitation of time, just for revenge? When you lose a person's relationship, you know that everything is irreversible, but you are still so sad. And you have been sad for several years, and you have to drink to drown your sorrow, and your body is broken. In fact, this is of no use at all, it just causes more losses.
Do you dare not go out just because you open the newspaper and find that there are car accidents every day?
Answer: Of course not. This is called giving up eating due to choking. However, many people have said: Seeing that the divorce rate is so high now, I don't dare to fall in love. That's quite natural. There are also many women who are worried about their significant other after seeing many reports about extramarital affairs. Isn’t it a similar reaction? The so-called optimism means that you have to believe that although the road is difficult and dangerous, I am still the person who can cross the road safely. As long as I am careful, I don't have to be afraid of crossing the road.
Do you believe that success is very confusing and that everyone can succeed and start a career casually?
Answer: Excessive optimism is folly. But it has been observed that after listening to the advice that successful people rack their brains (for example, read more and practice more), someone always asks another question: Isn’t that difficult? We all want to learn English well in 3 minutes and solve all the problems in 5 minutes. Is success so easy? Of course change is difficult. Success is only possible because you are not afraid of difficulties, so you can excel.
Once I was sitting in a taxi and heard the taxi driver sighing to himself when he saw the high-end cars in front and behind him: "Oh, why is it so hard for me to make money when other people are so rich?" I asked on a whim. He asked, "What kind of money do you think is easy to make in the world?" He smiled and couldn't answer. After a while, he said, "It seems that other people's money is easier to make." Looking deeper, no one is successful. It took effort. We really shouldn't complain about difficulties.
Do you think someone who has never played basketball can be a good basketball coach?
Answer: Of course it is impossible. It is impossible for a layman to lead an expert. However, there are many people who don't know anything about a certain industry. They just hear that the industry is easy to make money, and they immediately start a business. I have seen people who have no taste for clothes, or don’t care about clothes at all, but their dream is to open a clothing store; people who never know how to turn on a computer want to make money in electronic stocks, but they lose a lot due to hearsay, but they don’t reflect on themselves. Whether the professional ability is insufficient, I only complain when I don't care.
Similar but not the same question: Do you think that a basketball coach can lead a perfect victory with his eyes closed without going on the basketball court?
Answer: Of course it’s impossible. However, there are many friends who have absolutely no time to take care of it, but they also work hard to invest in opening cafes, restaurants, and start companies that they don’t understand at all. They are eager to spend their spare money and become partners. I always lose more than I make, but I also feel that I am just unlucky, not that my ideas are wrong.
Would you rather regret it than try to see if you can reverse the crisis?
Answer: I am afraid no one will say: "Yes, I am such a coward." However, we often retreat when we shouldn’t, and dare not try to succeed out of fear of failure. Take the Chinese figure skating master Kwan Yingshan's wonderful performance when she won the 2000 World Figure Skating Championship as an example: She wanted to win first place, but before the last game, she only ranked third in total points. In the self-selected song project, she chose to make breakthroughs instead of making fewer mistakes. In the 4-minute long song, the most difficult triple triple jump was combined, and he boldly jumped twice in a row. She may have failed ugly, but she succeeded. Her famous saying is: "Because I don't want to wait until I fail to regret not realizing my potential." Because of this resilience, in 2001, she broke the reporter's prediction that she would "not win in odd-numbered years" and once again Won the Champions League.
You have unlimited time and are immortal, so what you want to do most should be postponed indefinitely?
Answer: No, no, no, who can say yes? However, we often say that when I get old, I will travel around the world; when I retire, I will do what I want to do; when my children grow up, I can relax. We all mistakenly believe that we have unlimited time and energy. In fact, we can get closer to our dreams step by step, and we don’t have to wait until we have time to get closer to it. If we can get closer to our dreams and ideals step by step now, we will not live half our lives but become the kind of person we least want to be in our ideals.
That’s a bunch of stupid questions, isn’t it? But some stupid questions do have a point. In life, everything has the ability to turn, it depends on how we think and how we turn. We won't succeed in 3 minutes, but maybe in 1 minute, life will be different.