The biggest problem of kind people is that they think everyone is as good as themselves, and they are very self-righteous. There are days and nights in this world, and naturally there are selfless people like angels, and there are also people born with bad bones, so please remember: don't think too much about people, not to show enthusiasm for you, but to be friendly is a good person. In fact, this may be the foreshadowing of the other party in order to achieve their own goals. Therefore, as the old saying goes, harming others is not good for yourself, and preventing others from being bad for themselves! ! ! Communicate with people (honest people are the most careless) and think more about the purpose of their words or body language! Have a bottom in my heart In addition, when you think that the other person is a good person, or that the whole world is a good person, then you deserve to be bullied, because you are stupid and kind to others, but you hate yourself!
It's true that people are good at being bullied, and that horses are good at being ridden!
Some bad guys are smart. They pick soft persimmons when they bully others. If you have poor working ability, no background, introverted personality, unsociable and unsociable, you will attract a group of people with malicious intentions. They like to pick such people to bully, because there is no cost, and no one will fight against the weak. If you are not smart enough, or you are too kind to pull your face down, even if it is.
When those people bully others, they don't think it is wrong. Their mode of thinking is that the bad in their bones is innate and cannot be changed. On the contrary, I think you are abnormal and immature, and it's all your fault. In fact, your only mistake is "too weak"!
Just as Iraq was bombed, the houses and lives of those refugees were bombed. What mistakes did they make? Have they ever done anything to hurt others? Have you ever done anything to hurt them? Invaders always have countless high-sounding reasons to prove to the world that they are right to bully you, and it is wrong for you to resist!
In the final analysis, it is because he is too weak to defend his strength. The knife is in someone else's hand and the mouth is in someone else's hand. No matter what he says, people around him will think it is right. Even if he makes fun of you maliciously, people around him will laugh at you. And you are angry, but you still make fun of him. They all turned to the general with no expression. If they can't hear you, they laugh at you, not at him. At this time, do you still think that all this is because you are too "honest"? Not only is the bully better than you, but you don't have the strength. People around you can help him bully you, and you can get some benefits, but you have nothing, nothing, nothing to help you. At best, you will show friendship and gratitude, but for those who are extremely "realistic", it is useless. They want to take this opportunity to please bullies and make use of their resources and contacts to make a fortune from now on. So there is a saying that "people are poor and ragged, and everything they say is wrong."
Kindness, compassion, justice, some mercenary people don't have these in the dictionary at all. They may be born, but not when they enter society. Because these didn't make them rich, they threw them away.
Only if you have the strength, there will be no trouble for you. The stronger the people, the more friendly the world is to the weak people. On the contrary, the more cruel it is to the weak. I saw a kitten crushed into a piece of paper by a car on the road, and some people took pictures with their mobile phones. Look at the world and see how cruel it is. This is the truth of this world. Weak life can't even protect itself. Honesty without strength, kindness without strength, is worthless!
It is not easy to change an honest man. Many people say that others' greatest enemy is themselves. Only by defeating the original self can life get better. If you don't change, you won't be able to protect yourself, even your family.
Ask yourself: if one day, you have a girlfriend and her girlfriend is bullied, and you can't even protect yourself, how can you protect her? In the end, will she leave you without saying that we are not suitable?
If one day, your girlfriend sees you being teased and humiliated by other men in public, you can only bow your head or pretend to be innocent, will you feel better? What will she think of you in her heart?
What will you do if you have a child and the child is bullied? Do you blame children for not being sensible?
If you are bullied by your colleagues, can you only let others bully you, trample on your dignity and slowly let yourself get depressed?
If you want to avoid this situation, you must make up your mind to change it.
First of all, "have courage". Have the courage to face the bully and the cowardly self. Lack of courage is actually due to insecurity. Insecurity is because there is no strength! Strength is self-confidence, family background, contacts, skills, abilities and income, all of which are real things. Because bullies dare not bully people who are stronger than themselves, only dare to bully people who are weaker than themselves or at the same level. Only in this way will they not pay a painful price. That's why these humanoid cockroaches are smart and specialize in eating soft persimmons.
Life will not get better and better because of your patience, but will get more and more painful.
First, if you want to change your honesty, you must change your thinking. An honest man must first change his mind if he wants not to be bullied. Don't think that the more honest a person is, the better. Everything should be measured. You were bullied. How are you now? Therefore, you should learn to change yourself appropriately.
The first step to change yourself is to have "jungle thinking". Although human society is highly developed, human society, like nature, is full of competition and silent battles, so you must change yourself and stop being silly like a white rabbit, otherwise you can't protect anything.
Once in contact with people, immediately remember four words!
The purpose of his talking to you! Humiliate? Hurt you? Or normal communication. People communicate with each other for a purpose. Even people who have only known each other for five minutes or have never met, people can tell who you are from a few words you say. IQ, EQ, and ability will be clearly written in your manners, your eyes, and your face, so an experienced person can see you at close range just by saying a few words to you, and see you thoroughly in less than five minutes.
Your history with him, whether he ever hurt you, humiliated you, or bullied you in public. Please remember: to choose someone who forgets history is to betray yourself! The end result is to be hammered to the ground by the other side again! So don't be naive to think that you will become friends with people who have bullied you. This is ridiculous. Others are nice to you only for profit.
When he is talking to you around, look around, what is the occasion and who are there. If what he said to you is not serious and makes you feel hostile, then there is no doubt that he just wants to make a fool of himself in public.
Is a person a ghost? Is this person a well-behaved person or a bully? You should know well, work in a place or take care of it for a long time, talk less, observe more and laugh more in the early stage, and get to know the people you often meet. No matter whether this person is a human or a ghost, people can cooperate with each other and exchange interests. Ghosts will only harm people, and will only try their best to humiliate and hurt you in public and say whether they are ghosts or not. Usually you can see the difference between what he says to you and what others say. If you like to distinguish right from wrong, you can behave yourself and talk well in front of others. When I come to you, I will make all kinds of jokes, suppress your language, talk to you in strange ways, and use your language loopholes to suppress you and make you feel uncomfortable. Talking to him is like taking part in an argument. He has been suppressing you, and you have been defending, which makes you feel very tired. Then there is no doubt that this person is an evil ghost to you! Try not to talk to evil spirits. If he oppresses you, don't be polite to him. If you don't respect others, just say that you don't treat them like people. Because he is not a human being, it is useless to be polite, moral and talk well with him. Shut up if you don't want to talk well! ! In such a word, try to suppress him in language. His purpose is to humiliate you with words and find confidence in you. "Don't talk to ghosts" is like casting pearls before swine. This is also an old saying: talk to people when you meet them, nonsense! don't put the cart before the horse
Second, learn to refuse. After you have established an idea, you should put it into action. Learn to refuse first, don't do what you think you shouldn't do, and don't tell others what is what. The more embarrassed you are to refuse others, the more embarrassed others are to hurt you. Don't be afraid, don't think about what you will do if you don't do it. How dare he do that? He can kill you? He was shot, hurt you, and then you killed him. This is a society ruled by law. As long as you are reasonable and don't take the initiative to cause trouble, no one is afraid. Don't do what you don't want to do. Don't go against your heart It is foolish to make yourself feel that other people's affairs are bad.
Third, keep the bottom line. Don't let your infinite tolerance become the capital for others to bully you. If you are honest and have no bottom line, it will become a habit for others to bully you. You should let others know where your bottom line is and what you can't tolerate. When you touch your bottom line, you should resist appropriately and show anger.
Fourth, try to make yourself successful. This is also the most important point. If you don't want to be bullied, you must live up to your expectations and make yourself successful through your unremitting efforts. When your position goes up, even if you are honest, no one will dare to bully you again. This society is very realistic. Everyone only dares to bully people who have no skills, just like working outside. Bosses and leaders dare to scold ordinary workers casually and treat them as human beings. You will also find that the more you meet villains, the more you meet non-experts, brains and emotional intelligence, and a person who is not enough will be miserable by them. All kinds of preferential treatment for skilled workers are both salary increases and flattery, so don't be born without skills, or you will have no dignity. This is also the most effective way to make people dare not bully you. Without skills and professional knowledge, your life will have no dignity, because you will have nothing.
Don't force yourself to be a good person, it's stupid! Don't do what you don't want to do, just like you go back to the dormitory to buy food because you are embarrassed to give it to others. In fact, you don't want to do it in your heart Since I don't want to, happiness is the most important thing. Don't force yourself to be a bad person. Some people will use people to do things honestly for themselves, ignore such people with no quality, go out and don't take people seriously. It is true that people are insidious.
6. Develop a good habit of thinking more. Honest people don't think much, which is also the reason for being bullied. When things happen, you should think more, say only three words to everyone, reflect on what you experience every day, and think more about the reasons and purposes behind it. As the old saying goes, if you are poor, you will change, if you change, you will pass, and if you are big, you will reach! The same applies.
Seven, don't be too kind, don't think too well of people, forget the pain of scars, and finally get hurt. You should see a person for who he really is. If a person really treats you as a friend or even a person, it is impossible to ridicule you for anything. He didn't respect you before he spoke. After all, he regards you as an enemy, so don't count on such people. You just need to know that you are enemies forever.
Eight, meet people only say three points, not all true! Only when you have suffered a loss will you know that this sentence is a wise saying! If you talk to a careless and talkative person and see that the other person is also an easy-going person, you will be unprepared and have nothing to say. Others will judge your strength by what you say. The more people don't respect people who understand, the more they bully others. Because they have nothing to hide, they should learn to hide themselves at ordinary times, whether in front of young people or old people. Don't talk if you can't talk. If you have to talk, say something polite. Don't tell the truth, or others will cling to you and communicate with others. When you treat others as friends, others treat you as a fool. Say more polite words, thank you. If you have a sense of distance, people will think that you are dishonest and don't ask anything. Remember at ordinary times: Silence is golden. Do more and talk less. Don't be afraid of silence. It's none of your business. Will pretend, will pretend to be deep, will pretend to be mature, will pretend to be indifferent, will pretend to be polite, will pretend to be enthusiastic. In short, pretend to hide your true self and let unimportant people see your most hypocritical and fake side, but don't overdo it. The simplest thing is that silence is golden! Remember, silence is golden! Silence is golden!
The more honest people are, the easier they are to be bullied. If you want to protect yourself, you must change yourself appropriately and do the above, and no one will dare to bully you casually in the future.
In fact, being bullied in society is inevitable. Both students and adults will be bullied. I've seen it many times. What we can do is to be "strong enough", don't care so much, don't be disgusted by those humanoid cockroaches, and focus on improving ourselves and making money.
Honest character is not so easy to change, it is a long process and a transformation that makes people better and better. This process may be painful for you, but it is worthwhile, because you will grow. * * * Encourage
Update: Exercise can make you change! Butterflies flapping their wings will trigger a tsunami, and jogging is bound to help rebuild themselves. I have started to run freely every 1 one or two days, and it is easier to stick to it every half hour.
The most important thing to communicate with people is to relax. If people don't relax, their thinking will be stiff and inactive, and like a fool, they will naturally be unable to talk.
If you want to exercise more, there is a big reason for being bullied because your aura is too weak. If you want to keep exercising, exercise can change a person's posture, mental outlook and vitality, so that the gas field will come up and life in a small town with malicious people will be easier.
In fact, a big reason for being bullied is that your physical fitness is too poor. People are smart. Others can feel your intelligence, your mental state ... from words and conversations, and then instantly judge whether you are strong or weak. If you are weak, you will look down on you from the bottom of your heart (imagine, if you meet garbage pickers in your life, your academic performance is worse than yours, and you really don't want to pay attention to them. Evil will want to bully them, and then it will develop into verbal disrespect until bullying you to relieve your pressure. It takes energy to get along with others in life, but you don't need to consume energy for a weak person, so make yourself dirty and bully the weak to relieve stress and gain energy.
Therefore, life lies in exercise, and exercise can enhance your aura. A person's experience, whether a person has a good life, whether a person's ability and strength are all written on his face, his posture, his aura, his verbal expression, and his treatment of people. Exercise (jogging, swimming, any exercise) can improve his aura and make people's physical fitness better.
You can observe whether the people around you, those who look annoying, their expressions, their behaviors, their words and deeds reveal the smell of carnivores: cunning, cruel, unkind, like wolves or lions, leopards and so on (strong), that is, people feel refined, like geniuses, energetic and domineering, even if he does nothing, he just sits there. And I am as stupid as a herbivore, so, like the animal world, human society can be a herbivore, but it needs horns. Rabbits will dig holes to protect themselves and try to be as cunning, cruel and black-hearted as wolves. I don't want you to be a bad person, but I hope other carnivores don't treat you as "food"
Don't go it alone. People who go it alone don't get more resources and support. When they are integrated into the environment, they should clearly know that the goal is greater than emotion and be firm, otherwise they are doomed to accomplish nothing! Don't think that success is easy. Success is the result of the right time, the right place and the right people, and it is the improvement of your cognition.