1. Ideals that are too strong can easily turn into fantasies. If we compare people to a boat, then in the ocean of life, most of the boats are rudderless. They are always aimless. Drifting of purpose. Faced with the ups and downs of the wind, waves and tides, we are helpless and can only let them drift. The result always ends in sinking. Only those very few life ships with clear navigation marks can find their way out in the darkness. Reach the other side of success. When a person has too high expectations of himself, he is prone to failure and loses confidence in himself. Therefore, you must first review whether the requirements for yourself are "realistic". If they exceed reality, you must improve immediately. Napoleon I once said a famous saying: "A soldier who doesn't want to be a marshal is not a good soldier." This is the best explanation of "ideal". From a certain perspective, all those who achieve great things in the world are because they have a heart that "want to be a marshal." If you have an ideal and finally get what you want, otherwise you will remain mediocre forever. It is a good thing to have ideals, but you should not let your ideals expand uncontrollably, causing an irreversible situation. I believe that this name is Paul de Senneville. Most people don't know him. According to himself, he is a mediocre person who can't do anything. However, he has the ability to turn stone into gold and a moderate ideal. One day, a tune floated in his mind, and he roughly hummed it himself. , and recorded it with a tape recorder, and asked someone to write it into a musical score. It was called "Adelina Ballade". Adelina was his eldest daughter. After the music was composed, he found an entertainment company in Romanville. The piano player at the venue recorded it. This actor was very poor. De Senneville gave him a stage name, Richard Clayderman... I won’t tell you much about what happened next. You all know it! The record sold 26 million copies in the world at once, and De Senneville made a fortune easily. He said: "I am ignorant, know nothing about music, can't play any instruments, and I don't know music scores. , and I don’t even understand harmony. But I like to hum, humming some simple tunes that the public likes to listen to." But how to have moderate ideals? We might as well work hard to achieve it from the following 10 points: 1) Don’t be right. Those who achieve great things have too high expectations and set realistic goals that can be achieved. 2) Those who cannot accomplish great things without strong motivation. From this, it can be seen that the ideal should be in line with one's own personality and there is no need to force it. 3) A person has strong expectations for himself When you are not very satisfied, you often lose self-confidence and occasionally have greater ideals. Therefore, you must first review whether the requirements for yourself are "realistic". If they exceed reality, you must improve immediately. 4) Overly large ideals will affect your health , the goal is too high, eroded by strong ideals that are impossible to achieve, and as a result, you are prone to diseases such as gastrointestinal ulcers. 5) Realistically set goals that can achieve great things, and try to focus on achieving significant results. 6) Get great things At the same time, don't lose to the "victory effect", that is, don't indulge in the glory of victory for too long. 7) It's okay to achieve great things in exchange for great efforts, but don't continue to impose on yourself in order to achieve good results. Too much pressure. 8) Occasionally find time to relax and "jump out of the circle of hard work". It is difficult to do this to maximize your abilities. No one can maintain their abilities at their peak forever. 9) Do not use consumption Methods with too many abilities will only get the title of "Desperate Saburo". 10) Usually those who cause big troubles will speed up the next results. But only by maintaining a normal mind can you ensure that you do not regress and maintain good results!