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"In a limited world, anything that grows will eventually destroy itself." This is Buffett's investment motto. The stock market is like this, and so is the growth of children. Don't always try to take shortcuts, there are no shortcuts anywhere worth going. Don't always want to go beyond the objective laws, for the sake of maturity. Growth is a process that takes time and things to polish, and it cannot be done overnight. Chunhua Qiushi is a natural law, and parents should have the courage and patience to wait for flowers to bloom. Children grow up day by day, and every day is the accumulation of the future for children, which has special significance. If we treat children with the gambling mentality of "getting rich overnight" in the stock market and don't tolerate the ups and downs brought about by the immaturity of children's growth, it will inevitably lead to the distortion of educational behavior, which may eventually lead to both human and financial resources. Respecting children's right to development requires courage and patience, as well as parents' self-cultivation.
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When we get along with children, we often add some thoughts and wishes to our children invisibly. The children accepted, and we were all very happy. If you don't accept it, you will have emotions. If you can't control yourself, you will lose your temper and end up unhappy!
We should always grow into kings and make ourselves strong enough. At that time, we will not be disturbed by other people's emotions. ...
Think tank testimony: try your best to do your own thing, respect other people's things, and obey God's things! The law of children's growth exists objectively, and we can't change it, but we can only abide by it. Any encouragement can only be counterproductive. Enjoy the slow time of walking with snails, quietly appreciate the scenery along the way, lead with a calm mind of no hurry and no rashness, and watch the children grow up slowly and radically!
Sentiment: For example, a child's graduation from primary school to university has always been arranged by his mother. He just obeyed mechanically, without any objection. Ask him what he would do, and his answer is "ask my mother". Some parents have indeed become children's remote controls, eager to achieve success, why not respect their children's development laws? Although it takes courage and patience, it also needs the cultivation of parents, but practice once!
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Some children will have anxiety and fear when communicating with strangers, which are manifested as nervousness, blushing, stuttering and shortness of breath. This state seriously hinders children from expressing their own feelings and needs, and also hinders children from understanding the feelings and needs of others.
? The emergence of this state stems from the communication with parents in childhood. Some parents are used to talking to their children in a tone of command, threat, judgment, ridicule and irony; Some parents turn a blind eye to their children's conversation, thinking that their children are naive and boring, so they perfunctory their children. Children feel that their feelings are not understood by their parents and their needs are not met by their parents. Children will be closed, nervous and unconfident when talking to their parents; When I talk to strangers, I copy this kind of psychology, fear of saying the wrong thing, anxiety and fear.
When children talk to their parents, parents should put down their work, look into their children's eyes, let go of adults' thoughts, enter the fairy tale world and concentrate on communicating with their children. This is because the energy of love is flowing, children get full love in communication, and young life will shine with confidence. This is more important than parents asking their children to learn knowledge.
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Parents often hold the idea of "loving children and giving them higher expectations" and do things that violate the laws of education and children's growth. Too much intervention and premature maturity are irreparable sequelae!
"Respect for children's right to development requires courage, patience and self-cultivation"-it requires enough courage and determination to resist the secular atmosphere and the phenomenon of deviating from the educational track. This kind of strength and determination comes more from the inner understanding and respect for the child's physical and mental development! It is a wise choice for wise parents!
2018.12.15 sentiment sharing: plant a millet in spring and harvest 10,000 seeds in autumn. There is no shortcut on any road to success. On the issue of children's education, parents can't support their grandparents while making money to give their children the greatest material satisfaction. Parents should wait patiently for the flowers to bloom and accompany their children with superhuman perseverance and patience. For children, every day has special significance and value. Respect for children's right to development requires parents' good self-cultivation.
Today's sentiment: I think parents' self-study is training, and dealing with children's daily life is training. Every child is the most beautiful existence, let flowers become flowers and trees become trees. Let children grow up to be the best themselves.
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Learning sentiment
? I don't quite understand Buffett's investment motto, because I haven't studied it! [Covering your face] But I don't want the child to go to ruin! Everyone's life is limited. In this limited time, there is no regret at the end of live high's wonderful life! Don't walk in this world! ?
? I am working hard for my dream now! I hope I can walk around the fields at the last moment of my life, so that I don't have to bother my relatives to take care of me all the time; At this last moment, I hope my relatives will not feel sad because of my departure. When they think of me, just show a smile of memory!
? Life experience tells me that the most obvious rule of life is to change forever! There is no unchangeable knowledge, no omnipotent technology, and no skills to become famous overnight! What you have learned, if you don't practice it, will become a rigid dogma sooner or later!
? We should believe in children's ability. As long as he is willing, as long as he likes, as long as he works hard, he will definitely solve all difficulties! What we can do is to encourage and recognize him, or tell him to live when he is frustrated.
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Think tank proverbs sentiment: For educating children, parents should clearly realize that children really have no shortcuts to choose from, only companionship, watching children walk step by step, let him know that success needs to be paid, and all happiness is hard-won, otherwise, children will not know how to cherish and understand. It can only be said that sometimes, the shortcut you think is just to let the children walk a few more roads.
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Parents of Chinese-style families have a common problem, that is, "I hope my children will succeed and my daughters will succeed", and they all hope their children will be human beings. But there are thousands of species in the world, and everything is unique. Our children are all the same. They are all unique. Children grow up day by day, we just need to wait patiently and guide slowly. Rushing too fast can only backfire! When the flowers bloom, even if they haven't, they may grow into towering trees! We should follow the law of children's growth. Every day of growing up is a kind of life experience, which is meaningful.
Learn today's proverb: There is nothing in the world that can be done overnight, and there is no fruit that can be matured overnight. Children grow up day by day. Slow down and feel the joy and trouble of growing up. Life is so full! Twenty years back in time, I was only ten years old. I don't have much embellishment about my growth record, but I am full enough: climbing trees and picking pears with friends, touching cicadas in jujube gardens and so on! Yesterday, my mother and I were sorting things out. I found the letter my sister wrote to me when I graduated from junior high school. My mom said throw it away. What's the use? I said I couldn't lose it. When I am eighty years old, I can recall those tender times and memories! Now studying every day can make me reflect, and it can also remind me of my own growth path! Cultivate yourself and grow up with your children! Follow the law of growth, slow down! ! Waiting for flowers to bloom: my little girl Niu Niu is one year old and one month old, and she still dares not walk by herself. Children as old as girls or ten days older than girls can walk by themselves. My aunt always jokes that the girl can't walk. I said, what's the matter? Sooner or later, she will go by herself. Don't worry! I hold her more, and she is closer. Little Niu Niu went to visit her neighbor's dog two days ago. I have always told her that dogs can learn to talk, and she will say "brother" these two days. She will grow up slowly. I just need to be with them. With three brothers and sisters, I am very satisfied and happy.
Parents' cultivation begins with accepting themselves and perceiving themselves, which requires courage and patience, as well as treating their children. Accept the child's good behavior and bad behavior. If the child is naughty, I always feel that he is messing with me. I always say, you have to be yourself, but on the contrary, now I realize that change begins with perception!
Feeling: "In the limited cognitive world, anything that grows will go to self-destruction", but the only way to achieve the goal is to learn. Children's learning ability needs time to precipitate, parents' company and us around, not our complete arrangement, not making arrangements for him. When a child has his own independent and calm judgment, his learning ability will gradually form and our goal will be realized.
2018.12.15 understanding of proverbs;
Family education is a science. As parents, we should not only master modern educational concepts, but also follow educational laws, which is conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind. We should be good at discovering children's characteristics and strengths, and be able to take advantage of the situation and carry forward them.
Admit differences and respect them.
Every child is unique. There are no identical children in the world, just like there are no two identical leaves. Some children are quiet, some are active, some love learning, some love playing, some are introverted and some are lively. These are the characteristics of children. It is precisely because of these different characteristics that the world is colorful and colorful. Parents should not prematurely label those playful children as "bad children". "There is Watt under your whip, Newton in your cold eyes, Edison in your ridicule ..." Education is to recognize, respect, treat and value differences. Just don't regard children's characteristics as shortcomings, so as parents, we should first find their characteristics with our heart. Everyone has his strengths, but no one can do anything. A good education is to be good at discovering children's intellectual advantages and carrying them forward.
Take a child's characteristics as a specialty.
Parents admit the existence of differences, that is, each child's personality and characteristics are different, but many parents like to compare their children with other children and always compare their children's shortcomings with other children's advantages, which actually ignores the differences between children. Comparatively speaking, you will be more angry, more agitated and less confident, which will lead to tension and unhappiness between parents and children, and education will be impossible. Parents should accept and acknowledge the differences between their children and help them learn to learn from each other. We should take the characteristics of children as our specialty. Parents should not attack and suppress their children after discovering their characteristics, but should guide them to play and use them and turn their own characteristics into specialties.
Let children have their own friends.
When growing up, children need friends. As the saying goes, "whoever is near Zhu Zhechi is black". Parents pay more attention to their children's friends, and generally hope that their children's friends are good students with excellent academic performance, which can bring beneficial influence and help to their children. However, sometimes parents will find that the friends their children associate with may not always satisfy them. Some parents like to let their children choose their friends according to their own wishes, which will bring some psychological pressure to their children and even cause their rebellious psychology. In fact, the most important thing is that parents should change their attitudes, let their children have their own friends and respect their choices. Of course, while respecting choices, parents should also take care of them. Only when children have their own friends will they have more experiences. In the interaction with partners, children will learn how to get along with others, how to care for and help others, how to solve contradictions with others, and how to learn from others ... Only in this way can children get happiness from it and have a healthy personality. Children without friends may have all kinds of problems.
Respect the law of children's growth
Children's growth is regular, and family education must follow the rules. Respect children's nature and the law of their growth, otherwise they will be punished by law. For example, many parents want their children to love reading, which is of course based on a good starting point. But there are also many parents who don't respect their children's wishes, and some even take a rude intervention attitude. Some parents think that children's reading fairy tales is too naive and unreal, so they should read famous books and classic works, or regard reading as a tool to improve their writing level, ignoring the role of reading in children's all-round development and sound personality cultivation. In fact, children need fantasy and fairy tale world in childhood. If you let them read those profound literary works too early and deprive them of the right to read children's works, the result can only be that children are tired of reading and even learning.
2018.12.15 learning comprehension: many times, we are always drawn by external material appearances and forget the development law and significance of life. Melons will be sweet when they are ripe. I remember my daughter discussing his deskmate with me yesterday, and wanted me to tell the teacher how bad his deskmate was, and there were all kinds of small frictions between them. Speaking of this, perhaps many parents will give the teacher a response, satisfy the child's wishes and change desks. When I listened patiently, I found that my daughter was a very tolerant child. Although she is talking about all kinds of things at the same table, she speaks with relish. At the same time, I also found that she enjoyed the process of telling me, and also figured out various ways to solve problems with her deskmate, including telling him problems and tolerating small problems at her deskmate, but she didn't forget to help her with her studies. Of course, my deskmate sometimes doesn't believe what she says. In the process of her daughter giving lectures to her deskmate, she learned exercises and review. It turns out that what she said is still right. On the other hand, if every child is a good boy in our eyes, obedient and sensible, and loves to learn, there is nothing wrong with it. Everything will develop according to our expectations, and it seems that we will be relaxed and have less troubles, so it seems that there will be less fun, and there will be no opportunity and motivation to improve ourselves. We should look for the existence value of problems in problems-people always improve themselves in problems. The meaning of life is not how excellent you are, but how many people you have helped to become excellent, adults, children and an excellent environment. Learn to ask questions in communication with children, and you will find that many problems can be solved by her. Don't underestimate a child's ability. As parents, we just need to give clever guidance.
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I came across an article saying how many points a famous school can improve in a limited year, as many parents and teachers wish! What is the price?
In the words of a professor, 30% of people in Peking University have become "hollow people". Although admitted to a key university, I don't know who I am, what to do, and what to do. Their fate can be imagined, or they can break free and fight for their own world. Maybe my parents will arrange for me to find a so-called stable job after graduation. Perhaps silently endure the adventure island with high expectations of parents, and may even bear the cold eyes of others and even parents! Who is to blame?
2018.12.15 learning sentiment: don't set limits for children, don't set limits for yourself! Walking on the road, you will eventually get where you want to go. Direction is more important than speed. Find the right target and go all the way. With the children. And my family, and you. Happiness is already there.