At five o'clock every morning, she first gets up and runs a few kilometers, goes to the morning market, cooks, sends her children to school, and then goes to work in reverse; Go hiking by bus every Saturday. It is rare to hear her really complain that her husband earns less money, her work is boring, and her children are disobedient, and she has never seen the anxiety and depression caused by hidden comparison on her face. I only see a very ordinary but healthy person in her.
Perhaps her greatest luck is "not afraid", not afraid of aging, trouble, work, dealing with all kinds of people and solving all kinds of small troubles that are constantly emerging, and these are not afraid of ordinary life.
It is not only an attitude, but also an ability to accept and enjoy the dullness of life.
From getting up early to dressing and brushing your teeth, how much hard work is waiting for you for a lazy person, and washing an egg shell is a job; Picking onions is a job; It is a job to put rice from the pot into the bowl bit by bit; Not counting washing dishes and sweeping the floor, I twisted my car out of the crowded car cleaning pile and went straight to work. From opening your eyes in the morning to climbing into bed at night, how many boring, boring and daunting little things you have to do in a day.
We may have a misunderstanding that this normal dullness is abnormal. What's wrong? Maybe we will find the reason, regardless of the differences between people, which all boils down to the lack of goals and motivation in life, leading to boring life; It is because the working environment is not ideal and the quality of people around you is not up to standard, so interpersonal pressure is formed; It's because I don't earn enough money and I'm not successful in society, so I can't sleep at night when I'm anxious; It is because the ideal is too full and the reality is too skinny that I wander blankly in the long river of life and float and sink in unbearable trivial matters.
Maybe we are always looking forward to a big change in life-finding an ideal job right away; Earn a lot of money; Identity has been greatly improved; We hope that this big change will change the dull life, change the little things that are inevitable and have to be done in life, and bring people a sad psychological feeling.
We sometimes devote ourselves to the influence of big aspects and the cultivation of big professional abilities, but we don't know that the ability to do small things and the ability to handle small things are the elements that make up many ordinary lives. Whether life is happy or not, on the contrary, this humble ability to live is powerful and plays a big role.
Happy new year! The indicator that determines happiness is actually the subtle details of daily life.