Changing yourself is a god, and changing others is a mental illness.

Why is it so difficult to change others?

Because everyone's cognition is acquired from childhood through interaction and feedback with the surrounding environment.

Nietzsche also said this famous truth:

Eyes are prisons, eyes are walls.

It is impossible for a person to gain knowledge beyond the environment.

The so-called empathy is all imaginary empathy.

Therefore, when you are exporting your opinions to someone, don't expect them to fully understand, because your environment is different.

Confucius said: Summer insects can't talk about ice.

For the summer bug telling it about the ice in winter, the bug can only imagine, and it is impossible to have the knowledge gained from personal experience.

So if you want to change a person, the best way is:

Taking him to experience your experience and experience your experience is a hundred times better than instilling it directly.

Just like mentoring, teachers take their apprentices with them. After a series of experiences, words are not as good as examples, so that disciples can get to know the teacher slowly, thus changing themselves and growing up. So the real change is from imperceptible to qualitative change.

Therefore, when we communicate with others at ordinary times, we should also remind ourselves not to easily impose our views on others and force others to agree with them.

This is because:

First, no one can guarantee that his views are absolutely correct;

Second, even if your point of view is correct, you may not be able to try it in other people's environment;

Third, even if opinions are exported, they are put forward in the form of suggestions. Don't ask others to be consistent with yourself.

Fourth, try not to involve religious topics, such as religion, Chinese medicine, bitcoin, climate warming, genetic modification and so on.

Fifth, we can talk about some topics that are purely technical, purely methodological, with clear or verifiable answers.

In short, if you want to change others, try to bring others into your own situation, and it is best to experience and understand with others. This is the best way.