It is certainly reasonable to regard "second place is the biggest loser" as a maxim, but it is unreasonable to ask others to do so.

In 2004, Kobe Bryant and Shaquille O'Neal completely broke up, and Kobe began his journey to lead the team to win the championship. But the road to the finals wasn't smooth.

After more than three seasons of fighting, Kobe has never been able to enter the finals. It wasn't until 2008 that Kobe met Pau Gasol. With the unremitting efforts of the two and the team, the Lakers reached the finals. ?

Unfortunately, Kobe met the newly formed Celtics Big Three. It would be difficult for Kobe and Gasol to beat the Celtics with Pierce, Garnett and Ray Allen.

The Lakers eventually lost the game 2-4. This was the first time Kobe Bryant entered the finals after leaving O'Neal, but it could only become the "background" of the championship. On the night when he lost the championship, Kobe Bryant said a wise saying, "Second place can only mean that you are the number one loser."

If you demand yourself, you will be more independent; if you demand less Others, you won't be so disappointed. Many times, we should not waste time on expecting perfection from others, but we must think more about how to cultivate ourselves. Even if we are not perfect, we all deserve it, because we are the only ones!

When you learn to rely on yourself, when you learn to be independent, when you learn not to be afraid anymore, maybe you will find a new self. Life is a long process of cultivation. We not only need to exercise our bodies, but also our minds. Only with a strong body and a strong mind can you be fearless! A person who has no requirements for himself will have a miserable life; but a person who has strict requirements for himself will have a shining life. Many times, we are not good enough, but lack self-independence and self-demand. Ask less of others and you'll be less disappointed. Don't expect others to do what you want or to live by your standards. This is the most unrealistic thing. As the saying goes, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. Everyone does it in his own way and what he can do is his own choice.