How to choose between the person who loves you and the person you love? This is an eternal problem, but there is always a lack of wise choice.
People who love you have been pursuing you, always looking forward to being with you, and always silently dedicating themselves to you, just for your smile and recognition. Choose a person who loves you, and he will cherish you because of the hardships he has suffered, and even give up everything for you, which will be safer. The reason why we say "safer" is because people's hearts are changing all the time. Maybe he just wants to play with you, not get married. Maybe he admitted that the theory that "what you can't get is always the best" lost its freshness after getting you, and then abandoned you and left you alone in pain.
The person you love, on the contrary, is giving himself to him and expecting his praise. This kind of role exchange is a dangerous investment compared with choosing the person who loves you and choosing the person you love. One of the reasons is that he can get an item he needs-a wife, which he may not cherish. What he gets is something that can and is allowed to give up. It may not be appropriate to say that a wife is an object here, but it is true, because in the eyes of some men, a wife is rarely a person. Unless a man loves this woman very much, his wife is an object. It is the product of marriage and the need of political reproduction. The second reason, the so-called "things falling from the sky are ominous." The person you love will regard you as Sister Lin Tian, but still dare not accept you, because he thinks you may be "problematic". Of course, these are all solvable factors, so it's not that you can't choose the person you love, but that you choose him. You must make sure that he falls in love with you from the beginning, so that you can be happy.
Appeal is not a wise choice. Just to provide you with reference, assess the situation and choose the right person, which is the guarantee of happiness. But remember, no matter who you choose, even the one who loves you, don't take it lightly. It is wise to learn to protect yourself and minimize possible injuries.
I hope you can understand that the choice of love is also the choice of hate. Only when you are strong can you ensure that your life is comfortable and less troublesome.
From far and near, the dull sound of metal hitting the ground, with heavy shackles and covered injuries, staggered into the dark cell under the rough push of the jailer, and then the cell door was closed. The cold lock cut you off from the outside world, and the jailers left one after another, leaving sarcastic words: "Sima Qian, you only have one night to consider whether to choose castration or beheading." Think about it.
In the dark, you sit against the wall. Although I can't see the expression on your face clearly, I know that at this moment, your heart must be extremely contradictory, and you are facing a major choice.
As time goes by, you get closer and closer to death every second. The moon climbed into the night sky and shone clear in front of you through the small window in the room. I heard you whisper almost dreamily: "I think of the past." . . . . . "You must have thought of the scene above the main hall again. At the beginning, in the face of Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty who was furious, Manchu officials knew that "Liling forced landing" had to be done, but they collectively lost their voices. You're the only one who stood up and said it. You firmly believe that the descendants of your old friend, "Flying General" Li Guang are by no means afraid of death. You are eloquent, but you broke the dragon's face and ended up today. I look at you, your eyes are awe-inspiring and your expression is firm. I know you have no regrets.
The night is getting deeper and deeper, and unknown insects are singing in a low voice. Now you are caught in endless contradictions and entanglements, indeed. To be fair to your friends, you have no regrets, but you don't know what to do with your own ending. Do you choose to die in awe and keep your last dignity, or live your own life with humiliation? Tears are gone, teeth are broken, I thought you would lead a knife to self-determination; Physical disability, dull heart. I thought you were going to the grave. At that time, I believed that "a scholar can be killed, but not humiliated", and respecting honor is better than life. I thought you would choose death.
The sky is turning white, and the long night will pass again. After a long silence, you suddenly chanted, "There is no end to hating selfishness, and you are ignorant of the world, which is beyond the reach of future generations." When your father died, there was a scene in front of you: you held your hand tightly and your eyes were full of eager expectations. You know, at that moment, you have been responsible for helping your father fulfill his last wish and revise the historical records. But what you are thinking of now is the unfinished historical records, and what you are thinking of is "Wen Wang tackled Zhouyi"; Zhong You wrote Spring and Autumn Annals; Qu Yuan's exile is a tribute to Li Sao. Zuo Qiu is blind, and there is the foot of Sun Tzu's Art of War in Mandarin, which has been revised. "You think of dying care and the tempering of steel; Think about unfinished ambitions! I know that as long as you make a choice, there is light in your eyes.
On that day, when the first ray of sunshine came out of the ground, the prison door was opened, and you looked at the jailers who came to take you to be punished with ease. He said quietly, "Let's go, I've decided-castration!" " "At that moment, your face is full of sacred light!
People often say that life is like a long road, and every time you walk through a crossroads, you will experience a turning point; Every time we experience a turning point, we need to make a wise choice. At this moment, I am standing at this turning point. My heart is trembling like a butterfly's wings, and the breeze rubs against my ear bones. I don't know why, I heard a voice: "How would you choose and how to solve this turning point?"
I looked up at the boundless sky, as if I saw a nebula hundreds of millions of light years away, but it was actually a thousand light years away. I seem to see Su Shi, who was demoted, calmly responding and heroic in the face of the turning point of life. On Huangzhou Road, he chose to go forward bravely and never flinched, "going home, rain or shine", which aroused the deep resonance of millions of people; I also seem to see Julius Caesar, standing on the Rubicon River, galloping on the battlefield all his life, facing thousands of severe tests on the battlefield, seeing how he used his superb wisdom to resolve crises again and again, and seeing his determination and perseverance in the face of turning points. That resounding decision made the glory of ancient civilization and a dazzling highlight in human history.
The stars are shining as if to say to me, "What about you? What about you? " Standing at this turning ferry, my predecessors' sails have set sail, and the surging tide has wet my skirt. I know that when encountering accidents and challenges, I need my cheerful and optimistic heart and unshakable will to overcome difficulties. And all this comes from the confidence and attitude towards life. Life is like a song, there should be more high-spirited melodies and less depressing notes. Life is like a poem, we should have more passion and less sadness. Life is like a painting, with more bright colors and less gloomy tones. Life is like a tree, it should be more green and less withered. Life depends on yourself. On this road of life, there will be many intersections, or helplessness at the time of sadness and low tide. Facing the crossroads, you should be brave enough to accept it, and don't panic blindly. If you encounter misunderstanding, you should be able to resolve it tactfully and not make trouble without reason. The road of life will extend infinitely in the distance. If you indulge in sudden panic or self-pity, you will lose your determination and courage to move forward. Only by sticking to the end can we open up a new road, and the only constant is that firm heart.
Every choice is the beginning of responsibility, "choose what you love and love what you choose." In the future, we are bound to encounter more choices, and we expect ourselves to have enough wisdom to objectively analyze and judge our own life blueprint.
In the course of four people's lives, there are often times when they need to make choices, and I have met them.
Before the final exam of grade four, my father said to me in order to inspire me: Little monkey (my nickname), don't you like massage very much? You've done a TUINS puzzle before, but it hasn't been framed yet. Since you like this puzzle so much, fine! As long as you get 95 points in Chinese, 96 points in math and 96 points in English in the final exam, I will send you a beautiful photo frame. I listened and said confidently: Don't worry, I will definitely get your photo frame. In the next final review, I am more diligent and serious than before, and I can't wait for that day to come.
Finally finished the exam. On the day of the opening ceremony, when the teacher handed out the test paper, I got 95.5 points, 0.5 points more than my father's score! I can't help laughing in my heart. Then hand out English test papers, alas! This time it was terrible, only 95.5 points, 0.5 points less. But don't be afraid, my Chinese is 0.5 points more, and my two subjects are just even. The most tense moment came, and my palms were all sweaty, but as soon as I received the math test paper, I jumped for joy, because it was exactly 96 points, and I could get my father's photo frame. I let out a cry, and my classmates were shocked by my abnormal behavior and turned to look at me inexplicably. Finding my gaffe, I quickly sat down.
However, when I read the math test paper carefully, I found that the teacher deducted 2 points on a cross topic. Actually, my math score should be 94. At this moment, I thought: If I take the test paper to the podium to correct it for the teacher, then I won't get the photo frame that I miss day and night, but if I don't pick it up, I will be a dishonest child. What should I do? After a fierce ideological struggle, I decided to take the test paper to the podium to correct it for the teacher, because both the teacher and my father once said that a person's honesty is more precious than anything else.
When I got home, I told my father about it. Dad not only didn't scold me, but also said to me: Little monkey, you chose the right path when you made a decision, and you bravely stepped onto the platform, so dad decided to give you a photo frame award, which is a reward for your honesty and courage. I was so happy that I couldn't speak, and tears blurred my eyes.