Why do you lose your current mood because of painful regrets, and why do you have to worry about inexplicable worries all the time? The past is gone forever, and it's no use regretting it. The future is still beyond our reach, and no matter how worried we are, we will be sad. Today's mind, today's events and people are real and feel good. Of course, it is wise to sum up past experience and prevent future risks.

Yesterday has passed, but tomorrow has not come yet. Today is real.

The second one who comforts himself with heartache can only be cured by himself

Why lose the present mood for painful regret? It is also necessary to vent your complaints occasionally. But endless complaining will only add trouble and show others their incompetence. Complaining is a fatal negative state of mind. Once one's own complaining becomes a bad habit, one's life will be dark, and not only one's good mood will be gone, but others will also be unlucky. Complaining is no good, optimism is the most important thing.

The third comforting mood is created by ourselves.

We often can't change other people's opinions, but only we can. A bad life does not lie in the sins of others, but in our bad mood. The golden key to making life better is not in the hands of others. Give up our resentment and sigh, and a better life will be within reach. Subjectively, we want to live a good life, but objectively, we don't have a good life. The reason is that we always want to wait for others to improve our lives.

don't expect to change others, be the master of your own life.

the fourth consolation is to do what you should do with your heart

Life is too short to waste. A wise philosopher once said, "I don't even look back when someone scolds me in the street. I don't want to know this boring person at all!" " We should neither hurt others nor be influenced by other people's criticism, but we should learn our skills in a down-to-earth manner according to our own wishes. Especially when you are a teenager, you should go all out to learn your skills and don't be distracted.

Fifth consolation: Don't always give yourself a hard time

Learning to appreciate yourself is the golden key to happiness. Appreciating yourself is not narcissistic, self-absorbed, self-absorbed, and self-satisfied ... Give yourself some confidence, give yourself a little happiness, and give yourself a smile. Why not worry about not being happy in life? !

Always give yourself a holiday and learn to find a happy mood.

Sixth consolation: Don't chase worldly honor

If you look for something recognized by others all your life, you will lose your happiness and happiness forever. Vulgar comments will annihilate your personality, and secular advice will make you feel at a loss. Money for the sake of money will make you disown your six relatives, power for the sake of power will make you bold, and fame for the sake of fame will make you take it by surprise. In the deliberate pursuit, the real me will become pieces fluttering in the wind, and the secular me has become disgusting. Get kitsch, lose truth, strengthen confidence and have yourself.

The seventh comfort is extremely undesirable

Some people often become insane because of excessive worries; Some people are indifferent to anything because they are insensitive. The former often suffers from seeking reason, but dies because of being too clever. The root of stupidity lies in regretting everything. The latter doesn't know what regret is, and lives in a daze all day. There is no difference between living and dying.

going to extremes always fails miserably, and looking for the wisdom of life.

the eighth consolation is not to care too much about other people's comments

There is no painting that is not evaluated by others, and there is no one who is not discussed by others. If you are silent, some people will accuse you of being "very shrewd"; If you are good at talking, some people will accuse you of "boasting"; If you praise others, someone will accuse you of "ulterior motives"; If you criticize yourself in good faith, some people will be furious and think that they are "meddling."

just look at other people's faces, you can't live, you have yourself, and you're not confined to yourself.

the ninth consoling evil thoughts, the deeper the pain

Why can't we live in peace? The key is not to drive away the demons in time. Because you have evil thoughts, you will not restrain yourself rationally, and you will often do stupid things that you regret. Because the dust of the soul is not cleaned in time, the weak-willed will fall into the deep pool from time to time. Because you are often possessed by ghosts, you will let stupidity blind your eyes and enter the wrong fork without knowing it.

if you have evil in your heart, you will be uneasy and get rid of evil thoughts.

The 1th consolation is not to live too tired

People often sigh that living is really tired. Tired, it is mental stress; Being tired is a heavy psychological burden. Tired and not tired are always relative. If you want to be not tired, you must learn to relax. Life is about relaxation. Tired heart makes people fall into sub-health state; Tired heart will make you depressed.

Don't be too tired, learn to free yourself.

the 11th consolation is that everyone has his own way of living

He knows his own pain, his own sorrow and his own happiness. Maybe the hell in my own eyes is the presence in the eyes of others; Maybe the heaven in your own eyes is the hell in others' eyes. Life is so funny. Don't always doubt that spring scenery is in others, the key lies in the adjustment of your mentality.

it's the most important thing to live a good life.

The 12th slave who comforts himself from lust

People always sigh "moths to the fire", people always ridicule "the fish take the bait" and people always laugh at "falling into the mire". But if you think about it carefully, are there fewer tragedies of this desire around our lives? No man is content. People who indulge their souls will eventually lose their true ones! We must always be alert to bad desires.

be good at getting rid of bad desires and don't indulge yourself.

The 13th consolation is to live a relaxed and happy life

If you don't blindly compare with others, you will be carefree; If you don't set your life goals too high, you will always be happy; If you don't deliberately pursue perfection, you will stay away from pain; If you don't always demand yourself, you will live at ease; If you don't always find fault, you will be relaxed.

if you live too tired, you will be miserable and contented.

The 14th consolation is that you will embrace life only if you like yourself.

Blindly arrogant and self-respecting is a life of pride and ignorance, and blindly giving up on yourself is a life of pessimism. It is more difficult to know yourself than to know others, and it is more difficult to like yourself than to like others. Have a healthy and appropriate self-esteem psychology, and will be particularly strong in the face of setbacks. Don't lose yourself for the temptation of the outside world, and don't deny yourself for temporary setbacks. Always evaluate yourself objectively and calmly, and always praise yourself optimistically and to the point.

if you don't love yourself, can you still love others? Like yourself.

The 15th consolation is to look at the world with kindness.

When the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people look at it, there will be no friends. We can't tolerate the shortcomings of others everywhere, so everyone becomes a "bad guy" and we can't live in peace. Looking at the world with an "evil" eye, the world is broken everywhere; Looking at the world with a "good" eye, there is always something lovely about the world. The more you look at the strengths of others, the cuter you will look at them.

All saints should be "three provinces a day" and be tolerant of each other. The 16th consolation is not to please others blindly

It is impossible and unnecessary to please everyone. To please everyone is to offend everyone. Deliberately trying to please others will only disgust others. It is natural to be close to others, and the "speculative" mentality should be changed. If you have time to please, it is better to do things in a down-to-earth manner. It is always unreliable to please others, and it is only when you work hard.

If you please others blindly, you will lose yourself. It is very important to enrich yourself.

The 17th consolation is to let nature take its course when it's done.

It's no good regretting your previous behavior after the uncooked rice has been cooked. The only sensible way is to properly handle the later things and not make them worse. The spilled water can't be recovered, and the wood that has been carved into a boat can't be restored to its original state. Knowing these simple truths, we can deal with the remaining problems calmly.

Regret is no good, don't make things worse.

The 18th consolation material is poor, but the mind is not poor.

Material poverty is not terrible, but psychological poverty is terrible. Poverty is often associated with poverty, and poverty is often associated with short aspirations. Psychological poverty, wealth will also be reduced to poverty, psychological wealth, poverty can also be turned into wealth. Material poverty and hopelessness will soon destroy a person's body; Self-confidence and self-improvement, although temporarily material poverty, but the good days will come soon.

people are ambitious and constantly strive for self-improvement.

The 19th consolation is that there are disasters in it, and there are blessings in it.

Don't be carried away by temporary gains and losses and indulge in temporary victories. You must be prepared for danger in times of peace, and don't be proud of yourself. Intoxicated with victory means stopping, intoxicated with victory means losing vigilance. Never let up on the road of life, victory is just a small signpost. If you want to win the final victory, you just have to work hard, work hard and work hard again.

don't be fooled by a moment's gain. He who laughs last laughs the happiest.

The 2th consolation is that it is important to live fully

Living every day well is the greatest happiness, and happiness comes from feeling good every day. Always worried about the risks of tomorrow, always can't erase the shadow of yesterday, how can today's life be satisfactory? Always compare those who can't compare, always fantasize about those who can't achieve, how can today's mind be quiet? Anything unrealistic is the source of pain, and the biggest killer of life is sorrow and anxiety.

Pain comes from not being full, and if you live a full life, you won't think about it.

The 21st consolation in life should be a moderate degree of joy

Appropriate recreational activities can regulate emotions, but endless joy is easy to turn into harm. Extreme things are the opposite, and poverty is the change. "A happy place is a sick place." "Chess can be idle and easy to be tempted. ..... "Blindly reveling is a superficial life, and what you get is often painful regret. It is a philosophical life to enjoy yourself. Joy and sorrow are not limited to entertainment, but involve all aspects of life.

Joy and sorrow go hand in hand, and a moderate degree of joy will keep joy company.

The 22nd consolation may be happier if you change your way of life.

When you are extremely unhappy at work and feel surrounded everywhere, is it necessary to change your environment? When I am extremely unhappy in my marriage, I always feel like icehouse. Do you have the courage to break through the besieged city? Will you stand up and say "no" when you are used to resignation? People who are confident and self-reliant are good at adjusting their living conditions.

Don't be too timid to live, comfort is the spirit of happiness.

The 23rd consolation might as well be to put aside your troubles for a while

Life is too short, so why do you always live unhappy? It is normal to have troubles, but it is not normal to have no troubles. If you are in a bad mood, you might as well go to a movie, listen to a piece of music, sing a song, play a song, and enjoy the sunshine ...

Go to hell with your worries and have fun first.

The 24th comfort and pleasure is based on oneself

Most people always pin their happiness on external affairs and attach themselves to secular identity. Pay attention to status, property, treatment, reputation and other things in every way. Once you lose these things, it will be a heavy blow, and you will often feel miserable, and the foundation of your happiness and happiness will be destroyed. If we really live like this, then happiness is quite far away from us.

Why do you want others to evaluate your happiness and grasp yourself?

The 25th consolation is that happiness is happiness

Many people are deliberately pursuing the so-called happiness; Some get it, but the price is enormous. Many philosophers have said that happiness is a feeling, just like "Buddha" in your heart and mine. The feeling of happiness decreases with the degree of satisfaction, which is closely related to people's mood and mentality. The sages said: the harder you get, the deeper you love, the happier you are, and the harder you think. A person always feels unhappy, which is his greatest sorrow.

Happiness is a kind of feeling. If you are not satisfied, you will never be happy.

The 26th consolation is "get over it" to have a happy mood.

"Do the cause of joining the WTO with the spirit of being born", and the famous sayings of Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism make people more cheerful, open and detached. "Hard" is always associated with the word "crazy", and its main crux lies in getting into a dead end. "Get over it" is always related to the word "wisdom", and the main reason is that it is still taking a step back. Taoism's "retreat for progress" and Laozi's "Tao always does nothing and does everything" are really great wisdom in life! Excerpt from daquan. com

What's hard to think about? There is retreat and progress, and you can bend and stretch.

the 27th consolation trouble is to have a hard time with yourself

The more people worry, the more troubles they have, and the happier they are, the more happiness they have. If you worry only about troubles, then troubles still exist objectively, showing no signs of decreasing. On the contrary, because of the chain reaction of troubles, your mood becomes heavier and more distressed. If you keep turning bitterness into pleasure and change the mentality of "doing one thing and complaining about one thing", you can get your own happiness.

Time is wasted when you are in trouble. Laugh at life.

the 28th one to comfort oneself and treat oneself

Don't expect others to heal oneself. Only when you convince yourself, can you completely cure your heart disease. Frustration, mistakes, misfortunes, hardships … are the only way to have a deeper understanding of life and a better understanding of its connotation. Only those who conquer themselves have the strength to conquer everything.

to heal the pain of the mind once is to sublimate the mind once, and the winner will be stronger.

29th consolation: Never despair

There are unexpected events in the sky, and people are doomed to misfortune. It is a miracle that they will not get sick all their lives, so ordinary illnesses are extremely normal. I occasionally suffer from diseases and encounter quacks, and I am suspected to be terminally ill, and I am in pain. The disease did not take my life away, but intimidation made me half dead. We should be optimistic and cautious about the disease, and never listen to the wind as rain.

if people eat whole grains, how can they not get sick? Don't scare yourself, don't sit in the right seat.

There are always regrets in the 3th consolation of life

Shi Zhenlin, a Qing dynasty, said in "Essays of Xiqing": "There are regrets in life: being young, having no good friends, being strong, having no good deeds, and being old." "It's a pity to be poor. Second, face-to-face spit is for the sake of rank, and knees are for the sake of honor." "It's a pity for rich people. Second, they are embarrassed by the righteousness, and the heavy responsibility is defeated by greed." "It's a pity for a wise man: ridiculing is thin, boasting is arrogant, and being angry is impetuous." "It's a pity for a chivalrous man: helping the murderer get a bad name, spending a lot of money to get a bad name, and Nayong customers get a bad name." Excerpt from the 31st consolation of Daquan.com, "Let go, and you will have a good mood"

If the mental load is too heavy, there will be too many troubles. Love what you see and want what you see, can you not worry? Clean your heart in time, and don't let the dust of your heart accumulate too thick. You know, life is too short to get everything. Unfortunately, not all people understand.

you must give up what you are worried about and travel lightly.

the 32nd consolation is to act more rationally and less impulsively

You can't do things only by your own feelings, let alone by your own feelings. Being impulsive is bound to cause trouble. Sometimes your perception is wrong, things are not as simple as you think, and appearances are always easy to confuse people. Rational work will not be repeated, rational work will not make big mistakes, and rational work will not make you regret it. cut