How does Xie An teach his children? "Shishuo? Virtue": Mrs. Xie Gong taught his children and asked the Taifu: "How come I haven't seen you teach my children for the first time?" The answer was: "I always teach myself. Son." gt; This is simple but unclear. If the husband often teaches his children, how could his wife not see him? And Xie An's answer was serious, not a joke. So readers will naturally consider the characteristics of Xie An's way of teaching children. Liu Xiaobiao, the first expert on "Shishuo Xinyu", commented on this: gt; According to Taiwei Liu Zizhen, he was clean, determined, and behaved with courtesy. However, the second son was not talented and committed crimes, so he was dismissed from office. The guest said: "Zi Xi doesn't teach others?" Zizhen said: "What I do is what his eyes and ears hear and see, but if he doesn't imitate it, how can it be changed by strict training?" An Shi's purpose is the same as Zizhen's meaning. . gt; Liu Xiaobiao believed that Xie An, like Liu Zizhen, taught by example rather than by words, but Mrs. Xie failed to understand. However, when we examined "Shishuo", we found that there were many examples of Xie An teaching his children through words, and the "Jin Shu Biography of Xie An" stated that An "often taught his children with etiquette and example at home", so Liu Xiaobiao's understanding may not be correct. Let's look at the examples in "Shishuo": gt; 1. "Words": Taifu Xie asked his nephews: "How can I predict people's affairs and want to make them good?" None of them had anything to say. Chaqi (Xie Xuan) replied: "For example, if you want to make the orchid and jade trees grow in the "Jie Ting Er." gt; This is a famous saying, and the allusions of "Zhilan Yushu" and "Xie Jia Baoshu" come from this. The form is a small talk, but it expresses Xie An's ardent expectation for his children to become talented. It can be said to be purposeful education. gt; 2． "Literature": Xie Gongyi's younger brothers gathered together and asked: "Which sentence is the best in Mao's poems?" Nie (Xie Xuan) said: "In the past, I went away, and the willows were clinging to them. Now I come to think about it, and it is raining and snowing." : "'Criticism determines the destiny, and the notice comes from afar', which means that this sentence is more elegant and profound." (Excerpted from Bocai Resource Library) gt; 3. "Words": Xie Gongyun said: "When the wise sage passed away, he was still close." Before his nephew agreed, the Duke sighed: "If Xi Chao heard this, he would never come to Hehan." gt; These two sentences are Xie An's instructions to his disciples. ideal education. He expected his children to work hard to the high standards of sages and establish lofty ambitions to govern the country and bring peace to the country. "The criticism of Mo determines the destiny, and the notice of the distant Youchen" are two sentences in "The Book of Songs? Daya? Yi". Zheng Xuan explained that it means "the great plan determines the destiny, which means that peace will begin in the first month, and the government will be in charge of the country." From a literary perspective, these two sentences are far less poetic than the four sentences of "Yangliu Yiyi"; but from a content perspective, they express the politician's mind, strategy and work style. Isn't the intention of Xie An's two sentences of praising his disciples "more elegant and profound" obvious? gt; 4. "Angrily": The king ordered (to present it) to pay homage to Duke Xie. He was already sitting on the duty of practicing chiseling teeth, so he should lie beside him. When the king moved to sit down, he led him to the opposite couch. After leaving, he said to Hu'er (Xie Lang): "Zi Jingshi has established himself in a pure way, but as a man, he is too reserved and coughs, which is enough to damage his nature." gt; 5. "Pin Zao": Mr. Xie and Shi Xian talked about it, and Wei and Hu'er were sitting together. The duke asked Li Hongdu: "How can Pingyang (Li Chong, the former governor of Pingyang) of Qing's family be like Yue Ling (Le Guang, once the minister)?" So Li Yunran burst into tears and said: "The King of Zhao usurped the throne, and Le Ling personally awarded the seal and ribbon." . After the death of Bo Yazheng, he was in disgrace and turned to medicine. This is probably difficult to compare with. "Xie Gong said to Hu'er: "A wise person is not like others." gt; 6. "Pin Zao": Xie Ji and other people talked about the advantages and disadvantages of "Bamboo Forest", Xie Gongyun said: "The ancestors did not demote the seven sages in the beginning." gt; These three articles can be said to be the so-called "training by etiquette and example" in "Book of Jin" A typical example of "children" is to educate by example. The first one takes Wang Xianzhi as an example and educates Xie Lang to take Xianzhi's restraint as a warning and not to "damage their naturalness" in dealing with people and things. The second part uses Li Chong's comments on the performance of Li Chong and Yue Guang in times of crisis to educate Xie Xuan and Xie Lang on their integrity. This naturally reminds people of the different behaviors of Xie An and Wang Tanzhi recorded in "Ya Liang" when Huan Wen was in danger of "laying down his armor and preparing a meal": "The king's fear was reflected in his color; Xie's tolerance was even more expressed in his appearance." "Appearance", that is really a vivid example. gt;The third is to discuss the issue of the "Seven Sages of the Bamboo Grove". At that time, the trend of commenting on topics was very strong, and "Pin Zao Pian" contains many comments by Xie An on celebrities at that time. In the second case, in order to enlighten Xie Lang, he did not hesitate to put himself on the receiving end of Xie Zhi's jokes, so as to relieve Xie Lang's psychological pressure after learning the truth. Even Shishuo Xinyu, which does not easily give praise or criticism, could not help but praise it as a "moral education". gt; At this point in the article, it is understandable why neither Mrs. Xie An nor Liu Xiaobiao noticed that Xie An worked hard to teach his children. The key lies in Xie An's unique implicit and unobtrusive education method. The common way to teach children at that time was to look stern, give instructions, scold and scold, and even use sticks (such as Wang Yan's wife Guo Huai to her younger brother Wang Cheng). However, Xie An's method is like the spring rain that "moistens things silently". Even the trainees themselves may not be aware that the etiquette of right and wrong, love and hate has been quietly established in their hearts.