if you make a careless remark, it will be hard to make a mistake, and you will hurt yourself, and your fortune will surely get worse and worse. The following ten bad ways of speaking must be quit.
1. Don't talk too much
Illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth. Don't talk too much, you will lose if you talk too much.
It is recorded in Mozi that Mozi's student bird asked Mozi, "Is it good to talk more?" Mozi replied, "Toad and frog bark all day and night, making them thirsty, but no one listens to them." I saw the rooster this morning, crowing on time at dawn, and the world shook. (People got up early. What are the benefits of talking more? It is only useful to speak when the time is right. "
Mozi tells us that there are not many words, and people who can talk always say the right words at the right time.
Second, don't speak lightly
Don't speak lightly. If you change your words, you might as well not say them. Don't promise lightly. If you promise to change, it's better not to promise. Don't speak rashly, people who speak rashly will call for blame and humiliation. Don't make a wish to others easily. Make a wish easily, and you will lose your credit.
Third, don't talk wildly
Don't be careless, Hu Kan talks nonsense. Hu Kan blather, often regret. In the Qing Dynasty, Mr. Shanyin said, "Don't be wild in your behavior, and you should do whatever you want." Whether you are arrogant or modest is directly related to your personal fortune. People show others nothing but words and deeds, and words are the most direct, so don't talk wildly. Madness is eye-catching, madness is hate, and it is easy to cause disaster.
Fourth, don't be outspoken
Don't be outspoken regardless of the consequences, otherwise it will also cause trouble. Speak frankly, turn a corner, if you are cold, speak warmly, take care of others' self-esteem and put others' self-esteem first.
five, don't say anything
speak implicitly, don't leave no room. Know people don't have to say everything, leave three points for others, and leave some words for yourself. Don't be harsh on others, leave three points for others and some tolerance for yourself.
six, avoid leaking words
don't reveal secrets. Things are done in secret, and words are lost. For some things that are related to the secrets of others or organizations, it is forbidden to disclose them. This is a matter of ethics and personality problem, and it is easy to cause serious consequences. When things are uncertain, don't say anything definite, so as not to have a bad influence and make people feel frivolous or mean.
VII. Avoid bad words
Don't say rude and slanderous words, and don't use bad words to hurt people. As the old saying goes, wounds are easy to disappear, but bad words are hard to disappear. Bad words do more harm to people psychologically than physically.
VIII. Caution
Arrogance means arrogance and self-righteousness. Laozi said: "Those who cut themselves are useless, and those who are proud of themselves are not long." Self-boasting people offset the credit, and conceited people will not make progress. A boaster is either proud or ignorant. Either way, it is not good for his own growth, and it will also attract others' disgust.
In the late Ming and early Qing Dynasties, Shen Hanguang said, "Self-modesty makes people more convinced, while boasting makes people suspicious." Speak, don't be conceited and self-righteous. Self-conceit and boasting is a sign of insufficient self-restraint.
9. Avoid slanderous remarks
Gossip is to speak ill of others behind their backs, sow discord or maliciously slander, belittle and insult others. All slanderers are villains. Wang Chong, a philosopher in the Eastern Han Dynasty, said: "slanderers hurt the good, and blueflies pollute the white." Don't speak ill of others behind their backs. Speaking ill of others behind their backs will make the world restless.
X. avoid angry words
don't talk when you are angry, because what you say at this time hurts people and yourself. If you say it, it will spill water. Words, don't talk nonsense, when you are angry, you don't think through your brain, so think twice before you act.
When you are angry, take out a blank piece of paper, write and draw casually, and write all your thoughts and decisions on paper. Write whatever comes to mind, and take it out every other day. If your thoughts and decisions haven't changed at this time, then do it. If you think it's angry words, just fold it into a paper plane and let it go.
My uncle is a man who has no tongue ... When he saw me in the senior high school entrance examination, he praised his daughter for being so good. I'm not as good as his daughter, so what? As a result, his daughter didn't get into high school (more than 2 points). When I was in college, I sarcastically said that I was not as good as her daughter every day, and as a result, her daughter didn't go to college ... This year, her daughter repeated her studies and learned that I didn't plan to go to graduate school, and his face was revealed again ... I didn't want to give her merit at all.