We are "gods" in human form. Everyone is unique. You can create the world you feel.
Our thought is a great power, because it can change the world in everyone's eyes. The Buddha said that all laws are guided by the heart, and the heart is the master, and all laws are created by the heart. Nightingale said, we will be what we imagine and think.
For us, the universe is kind and indifferent. It can hear our cries and satisfy our thoughts, but it doesn't care about our real wishes. It follows the law of attraction, just like the faithful servant in Aladdin's lamp.
Our external world is a reflection of our inner world; Our relationship with others also comes from our relationship with ourselves. You can't treat others better than yourself. Everything starts with yourself.
Our thoughts create our lives, and our language shows our thoughts. Thought is also energy, it will attract those things that conform to its own model, while rejecting those that are not harmonious. And your words will show, strengthen and consolidate your thoughts. In order to recreate life, it is very important to control your own thoughts. When we control our words by eliminating complaints, we can actively create life and attract the desired results. Darwin said that the highest state of moral culture is when we can perceive that we should control our own thoughts. Montage said, why are we the masters of fate and the commander-in-chief of soul? Because we have the ability to control our thoughts.
Your attitude, that is, the external expression of your inner thoughts, determines the relationship between people and you. Just as beauty is in the eye of the beholder and a yellow-faced woman is in the eye of the beholder, the world changes because of our views, and the interpersonal relationship in our eyes will also show the characteristics given to them by our imagination. Our perception of others determines what they will look like in front of us and our relationship with them; Our words will let the other party know what we expect of him and his behavior. If there is criticism in such words, his behavior will truly reflect what we criticize. The difference between a lady and flower girl lies not in her behavior, but in how others treat her. For a professor, she will always be a flower girl, because he has always regarded her as a flower girl and will always be like this. For her husband, she can be a lady, because his husband has always treated her like a lady and will always be like this.
Choose to complain = give dark power, silence without complaining will turn the world around, and when you can trust actively, it will bring power back to light.
Complaining is to express sadness, pain or dissatisfaction. All dissatisfaction is just the beginning, but it can't be the result. However, people who complain sometimes don't realize they are complaining. According to Dr. Robin Clusky, "Whether a particular statement reflects resentment ... depends on whether the speaker is dissatisfied." Complaining and not complaining may be exactly the same, the difference lies in the intention and hidden energy you convey in your words. We often complain, but the person who thinks he is optimistic is the one who can best reflect his life value. But few people understand that the frequency of their complaints is actually very high, and this bitter attitude is actually not conducive to the further development of our lives in a favorable direction.
Complaining will focus on what we don't want and talk about negative and wrong things; Our concern is that that thing will expand. When you complain, you are actually rejecting what you want in the name; Your complaints will push you away and drive you away from saying what you want. When you complain, you are looking for something that you say no, but still attracts you with incredible thinking. Then you complain about these new things and attract more unwanted things. You are caught in a "complaining cycle", which will be self-fulfilling in the future-showing complaints and causing complaints; Expose and incur complaints; Show complaints ... and so on, endless. Many people are used to paying attention to injuries and shouting "pain". You shout "pain" and the injury appears; If you complain, you will encounter more things you want to complain about. This is the "law of attraction" at work. When you go through these stages, when you give up complaining, when you stop paying attention to injury and shouting "pain", your life will bloom like a beautiful spring flower.
Complaining will attract those who complain and repel those who don't complain. Birds of a feather flock together, and similar people will attract each other. People who don't look alike will repel each other. Complaining will infect each other and bring troubles to others that you don't realize. Complaining is like bad breath From someone else's mouth, we will notice. But when it comes from our own mouths, we can turn a deaf ear. When you find your friend is a complainer, it is wise to avoid him. When you are surrounded by happy friends, you will be infected by their optimism sooner or later.
Complaining brings people seemingly beneficial but actually useless returns. Complaining is to gain sympathy and attention, and to avoid doing things that you dare not do. For example, by complaining and "playing the obesity card", you can gain sympathy and recognition, and you have a legitimate reason not to talk to girls. Complaining makes people taste the sweetness. However, it is useless to complain after all. In fact, two-thirds of diseases are caused by patients' psychology, and the word psychosomatic is a combination of Psyche and soma. The mind and the body are interrelated, and the body will show what the mind believes. When you complain about health problems, you throw negative words for your body to hear. This negative rhetoric will be branded, and your mind (brain) will also introduce this energy into your body (body), causing more health challenges. When the word disease is taken apart, it means discomfort, illness and relief. It is also important not to indulge in painful experiences for too long when seeking the help of therapists. A psychological study found that talking about neurosis symptoms really aggravates and increases these symptoms.
Complaining points out one's own shortcomings. What you say will make you understand. Complaining is like quarreling, it takes two slaps to make a sound, and people who complain often have problems. When you want to point out someone's negative characteristics, first explore whether you have the same tendency, and then appreciate the opportunity to detect this shortcoming and cure it. It is also for this reason that the advantages of others will attract you. You will see these advantages in others, because you have them yourself, which is also your characteristic. These positive characteristics may be latent, but if you focus on it, find it in yourself and cultivate it well, you will make these advantages appear with your concentration.
Complaining can't change the world. The attempt to change the world is just complaining. You can't make a person change. People change because they want to change themselves, and trying to change a person will only make him stick to his existing behavior and refuse to give up. If you want them to change, you are complaining. Complaining is hidden in the hope of changing the appearance of others. To stop complaining is to stop seeing others feel sad, sad and miserable and feel powerless, because I can't change others, only I can save myself. So if you want someone or the status quo to change, that's complaining. If you want everything to be different from the status quo, this is complaining, not just stating the facts. Just as the person you can control is yourself, the person you can change is yourself, so you can only change the world in your heart and eyes, but it is enough for you. You can't make another person change. People change because they want to change themselves, and trying to change a person will only make him stick to his existing behavior and refuse to give up. Share with you another traditional proverb in our south: "Don't try to teach pigs to sing, it's just a waste of time and will make pigs angry." If you want others to change, you must first change yourself.
Complaining can also have unpredictable consequences. Criticism is a sharp complaint, usually directed at someone and intended to belittle him. Some people think that criticism can effectively change another person's behavior, but in fact, criticism is more likely to have the opposite effect. Nobody likes to be criticized. Moreover, our criticism will often only expand, not eliminate the events we criticize. Outstanding leaders know that people respond more warmly to praise than to criticism. Appreciation can motivate people to become superior in order to gain more appreciation; Criticism consumes people. When we belittle others, we actually acquiesce that that person will remain the same in the future. For example, if we criticize someone for being lazy, they will accept the fact that they are lazy when they contact us; This is equivalent to giving them the right to acquiesce, they can show actions commensurate with the label of "laziness", and lazy behavior will appear repeatedly.
Complaining is not the right way to deal with fear. We are afraid of God's random retribution, so we are afraid that if we say everything goes well, it may end up very bad. In fact, the opposite is the truth-words and words of fear can lead to things we don't want. And reducing complaints is a powerful weapon to overcome anxiety. "Unsafe" is the antonym of "safe". Safety means being comfortable with everything and accepting things as they are. Over the years, I have been trying to change everything around me and become a safe person. Now I begin to understand that "feeling safe" means accepting things as they are, not trying to change them. The most important lesson I learned from this experience is that to get rid of anxiety, I must be satisfied with my insecurity. I no longer suppress myself, no longer make excuses for myself, and no longer use criticism and complaints as an excuse to shift my attention to others, but accept the pain and anxiety at this time and support myself. When I feel uncomfortable, sad, weak or unhappy (I often feel this way), I begin to tell myself, "It doesn't matter, just accept your feelings frankly, it doesn't matter if you feel this way." What a miracle! When I learn to feel safe (comfortable) about my insecurity (discomfort), my insecurity will be less and the duration will be shorter.
Complaining is not the right way to vent your anger. Each of us has a troubled soul, and he is the voice of condemnation. To learn to be friends with this elf, we should encourage and praise him now. I said, "If you want to find fault with me, you are the best." I know you find fault with me because you love me. "Just as you won't criticize others for making positive changes, you won't criticize yourself for making such positive progress. Sometimes, when my inner voice really can't resist criticism, I will keep a diary and get it off my chest. Then I didn't argue or fight back, but praised what the angry voice wrote: "Good boy, the way you attacked me is really clever!" "I believe you attacked me because you just wanted me to show my best side. You're welcome. You can express your thoughts at any time. " These critical views have disappeared, and there is no stubborn opponent.
To reduce complaints is to create happiness. When you complain less and less, the complaints you create in your mind will also decrease. You can make up for the lack of interest in life by taking the late train and heavy rain as the leisure time specially given to you by God. Reducing complaints is success. Churchill said: "success means going from failure to failure, and still not changing your enthusiasm." Less complaining means self-esteem. People who have no sense of security, question their own importance and are uncertain about their self-worth will brag and complain. They will announce their achievements, hoping to see the eyes of the listeners project admiration. They will also complain about their difficulties in order to gain sympathy; Or use it as an excuse to escape the goal that you yearn for but have not completed. They will complain because they feel they don't deserve what they want. They lack self-affirmation, so they push away what they want by complaining. People who respect themselves, agree with their strengths and accept their shortcomings are carefree and don't have to identify themselves through other people's eyes-these people don't brag. They feel good about themselves and don't need to tell others how great they are. Similarly, they don't need to complain, so as to gain the benefits of nervousness. When you value yourself and your world more, you will show some influence and attract more financial resources for yourself. You should know that you have the right to get anything you want. Stop making excuses and continue your dream.
Reducing complaints can increase friends. Complaining will hinder direct and frank communication between people. Lincoln once said, "The best way to destroy an enemy is to turn him into a friend." Milton's famous saying: "The environment is produced by the mind, and the mind can turn heaven into hell and hell into heaven." Maybe this is heaven-otherwise, at least I can turn it into heaven.
The best way to deal with complaints is not to complain. When you are with other people, your conversation begins to turn into negative content, just sit down and observe. Don't rush to try or change others. If you have nothing to say, keep silent. If you don't talk, everyone will praise you for being smart; When we keep talking, not only do we not make our words sound wise, but we just show that we are not comfortable enough to bear to let silence temporarily control the situation. To know whether a person we know is special to us, one test is to see how long we can get along with this person without talking. We are just content with their existence and enjoy their company.
Good for evil makes you full of love. Remember, if someone criticizes you and attacks you, it is because they are insecure. They feel that they are in a weak position, so they use sharp words to strengthen themselves. In fact, they feel extremely weak. They project their fears and anxieties on others, and they will hurt others because they are hurting themselves.
Reducing complaints is to welcome the arrival of love. The opposite of complaining is gratitude, not love. Love is to accept unconditionally and pay attention to the bright side.