"It's a pleasure to have friends coming from afar?" This is the attitude of the sage Confucius towards his friends. If you are like-minded, you can become good friends even if you are thousands of miles apart. But in the Analects of Confucius, Confucius also warned us that "there are three beneficiaries and three losers". Friends are straightforward and considerate, and it is good for friends to listen more. Will provide friends, be kind and gentle, and will lose friends. Click Confucius to think that making friends should choose people who are honest, loyal, honest and knowledgeable. Such friends had better help each other, study together and make progress together. On the contrary, you can't associate with flatterers, duplicitous and glib people. Otherwise, it's easy to go astray and it's not good for you.

Make friends carefully and follow the good ones. The advice of the ancients still makes sense now. Actually, we should be careful not only in making friends, but also in other interpersonal relationships in our lives, such as neighbors and relatives. Unlike friends' free choice, neighbors and relatives are objective. Many times it is not our choice. I believe many people have heard or experienced this kind of dialogue. Especially the neighbors' aunts and aunts, they talk about my parents' short bookshelves every day. In fact, nagging is always beyond reproach. As the old saying goes, "whoever doesn't talk about the people behind him doesn't talk about the people behind him."

But some neighbors are ostentatious and say good things behind their backs. When I turn around, I like to gossip and speak ill of others behind their backs. Such a double-dealing person is out of the category of nagging and gossiping, which is a manifestation of moral deficiency. We'd better stay away from such neighbors.

As the saying goes, "A distant relative is better than a close neighbor". When any family in life needs help, neighbors live together every day, and they can naturally help when they are in trouble. But there is a selfish neighbor who dares to ask you something, whether you have the ability or the time. If you can't help him, you may get angry again. Besides, even if you help him, you may not be thanked. Because in his mind, your help seems to be taken for granted. But when your family is in trouble and wants to ask for help, it will refuse you and even say many reasons to pay tribute to you. In life, you must keep your bottom line for such neighbors and don't bother yourself.

Narrow-minded neighbors tend to cling to small things. No matter how many years have passed, this matter is still fresh in his mind and has become a hatred buried in his heart. If your neighbor is narrow-minded, we should stay away from him. Because in the eyes of such people, they are always obsessed with other people's mistakes. Neighbors living together will produce all kinds of small frictions and misunderstandings. Most people may forget it after a while. The two families can make up again. The narrow-minded people are entangled in this, and the neighborhood relationship is getting more and more rigid, and finally they can only become strangers.