The philosopher Kant said: "Being angry is punishing yourself for the mistakes of others." The elegant Kant probably would not have storms, and his mood would always be clear and clear. When someone else makes a mistake, and we are furious about it, it is ourselves who make the mistake.

Modern Dale Carnegie does not advocate tit for tat. He said: "There is only one simple way to truly hate others, which is to play to the other person's strengths." If you hate the other person, you want to eat flesh, sleep on the skin, knock the bones and suck out the marrow, but the result is just It can make oneself exhausted and exhausted. The "hatred" Carnegie mentioned is another form of "tolerance." Hatred of others is not about gnashing your teeth to feast on your opponent, but about absorbing the other person's strengths and turning them into calcium for your own physical strength.

No matter how much the wolf plays the role of "kind grandmother" and vows to "be vegetarian from now on", it is difficult to change its nature of eating sheep. However, if all the sheep are killed, the sheep will be prone to plague; the two tigers ** Fighting is not inevitable, but once the hero is lonely, the ferocious tiger will degenerate into a sick cat without being locked in a fence. Treating opponents as friends is a higher level of tolerance.

President Lincoln was known for his tolerance towards his political opponents. Later, he finally aroused the dissatisfaction of a congressman. The congressman said: "You should not try to make friends with those people, but eliminate them." Lincoln replied with a smile: " When they become my friends, am I not destroying my enemies?" To put it bluntly, open opponents may be our potential friends.