Such personality problems are called "external attribution" and shirking responsibility. Changing such unhealthy psychology requires professional psychological counseling and psychotherapy.

Be yourself, because we are afraid that anyone will get hurt because of us. That is not the result we want, so we will not defend ourselves, but we must do well no matter what, because we are here to worry about others. As we said, I don't want you to get hurt in any way, so let's face the difficulties together and it will be sunny.

I am Uncle Zuo, a psychology teacher engaged in psychology and mental health education. Let me answer your questions. You mentioned this issue, which is related to a theory in psychology, namely attribution theory, also known as attribution psychology; at the same time, it is also related to a person's self-defense psychology. I answer this question from three aspects.

First, what is attribution?

Attribution refers to the process by which a person speculates and judges the causes of one's own and others' behavior based on relevant information and clues; attribution is not only a psychological process, but also the most common one among each of us. psychological needs.

Secondly, why do some people’s first reaction when encountering a problem is “it’s all your fault”?

American psychologist Hyde, who founded the attribution theory, believes that everyone has attribution tendencies when making attributions, that is, everyone has different sources of control over what happens in their lives and their results. explanation, the kind of person you are talking about is called an external attributor by Hyde; this kind of person believes that the results of most things in life are caused by external forces and have nothing to do with him. When problems arise, they either give up their control of their own lives. Responsibility means blaming external factors, thinking that external factors caused the current results, and never looking for the reasons within oneself.

Third, out of self-protection, that is, self-defense psychology, some people will behave like "it's all your fault" when they encounter problems; The interpretation of the events involved has obvious self-defense psychology, that is, when making attributions, one strives in a direction conducive to self-protection. Especially when difficulties and failures occur, in order to reduce one's own responsibility for the failure, one often makes Adopt defensive attribution methods, make explanations that are beneficial to oneself or place blame on others.

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Yes! In our social family, there are very few people who dare not face problems when they encounter them. Instead, they use a very typical saying: It's all your fault! If there are any problems, it's all other people's fault, and I blame them all. When you have achievements, you don't have to push back and forth. Others can't take away the merits. They may even exaggerate and say what you are doing. The mentality of this kind of person is very obvious. They are very selfish and self-interested. They have no sense of responsibility and responsibility. To be honest, people who lack a sense of responsibility will not achieve greater achievements in the future and their future will not be broader.

This is a human instinct and a stress response

For the person being accused, accusation is an aggressive verbal attack, and shirk and excuse are just Divert the direction of this attack, or weaken the damage of this attack to you

So this is a normal psychological reaction

Of course, if you shirk it without thinking, you will be Labeling people as irresponsible and unreliable will make it difficult for such people to be popular in society and difficult to be entrusted with important tasks

When someone accuses you, you should organize your thoughts and think about it. Answer later

Of course, as the party making the accusation, you should also consider whether it is your own problem, whether the requirements you have given are ambiguous, whether things are indeed difficult to perfect, and you cannot accuse someone arbitrarily

What is the difference between the thinking patterns of so-called powerful people when encountering problems and ours?

We will encounter all kinds of problems in life. Some people can find solutions immediately when they encounter problems; while some people have a blank mind or are timid. ,complain. This is what is called a "powerful person".

In fact, our current understanding is that these powerful people have high IQ, EQ, and AQ, and they know how to take advantage of and build momentum in their lives. Thinking model is a powerful ideological weapon for us humans. As long as we realize the innovation of thinking model, you will find that in fact, everything will be easy to achieve.

For this type of people, when they encounter a problem, they will use the knowledge, relationships, etc. they have mastered, turn their thinking, and use coherent words to express the most important thing at the first time. Best solution. This premise must ensure that you can: discern trends, follow trends, have strong enough energy, including resources, including connections, and accumulation of knowledge.

However, for us ordinary people, our vision limits our thinking. You can never boast in front of experts in an unfamiliar field.

I hope everyone will actively discuss and evaluate my answer.

People who blame others are actually the ones who have been avoiding responsibility for a long time!

First of all, these people are deeply separated from their own inner being and cannot hear any inner promptings. In the process of instructing others, they continue to lose energy. If they accuse others, they will definitely get counterattacks from others. In the end, he must be the one who got hurt, which meant that he had been scolding the person in the mirror, and lately he had been scolding himself.

People who say this, please be careful

People with external attribution traits are an instinctive way of self-protection.

Attribute the crux of the problem to outsiders or force majeure.

In this way, there is no own responsibility.

On the contrary, internal attribution will attribute the cause to yourself, constantly reflect and review, and after seeing it, tell yourself not to do it again next time. It can also protect your emotional stability and prevent it from happening. I have been wallowing in self-blame and guilt.

People with external attributions usually have no real self-confidence, surrender to the strong, and behave a bit externally strong but ineffective. People with internal attributions behave moderately, but their self-evaluation and self-control are usually higher than those with external attributions. Depending on the type of person.

There is no difference between good and bad, just different personalities.

For example, strong sales talents are usually attributable to external factors.

When they faced failure, they attributed the reasons to: the customer was not good, and the information was not provided in time. Anyway, don’t blame me. I was able to get out of my depression quickly and move on to my next order.

When internal attribution encounters a sales failure, it will self-examine and even evaluate the product. It is not enough to attribute the cause to oneself, or the product is indeed defective, so it will take a period of time to strengthen itself or provide feedback on product quality. .

People who attribute internally are usually very responsible.

Blaming people blame others to avoid their own responsibilities.

Accusing personality