So at this time, many of us think it is a commodity economy society. As long as people are old and have money in their hands, that is the greatest and best support. Of course, we can't say that this sentence is completely correct or completely wrong.
It's just that we can analyze that even if the old people have money, only when they have more money can they meet the material needs of our old people, and nothing else is useful. Besides, how many old people have a lot of money in their hands? Because money is not so easy to earn.
In this case, money is not everything. Many old people soon set their eyes on their children and wives, and they are very confident that they will rely on them when they get old.
However, as the saying goes, "The greater the hope, the greater the disappointment." Maybe many of us still don't understand what this sentence means. So today, let's listen to the narratives of three old people at that time, and you will understand everything.
Do you think you can still rely on your children and wife when you are old? Don't be silly. Listen to these three old people.
1.63-year-old Uncle Lu: I have children, but unfortunately I can't rely on both of them. I am not as good as my neighbor.
I am 63 years old. I have given birth to three children in my life. My wife divorced me ten years ago. I haven't thought about remarrying since then. I think I have three children. And they're almost old enough to get married. When you are old, you just need a support in your later years.
As a result, my wishful thinking was wrong. When I am really old, it is precisely when I need to rely on them. My son is either at work or on a business trip every day. The daughter is either at home with the children or doing something else. It's hard to see them at ordinary times, let alone think about other things.
One night, when I slept until midnight, I suddenly felt very uncomfortable. Call the child at the first time, and the child's mobile phone is either busy or can't get through. I didn't mention how scared I was. Fortunately, I knocked on the neighbor's door across the hall.
The neighbors are a young couple. Although he seldom talks to me at ordinary times, he drove me to the hospital without saying anything when he saw this situation. The doctor said at the time that if they came a little later, the consequences would be really unimaginable.
I have three children, but what's the use? I can't rely on anyone at the critical moment, but my neighbor who is not related to me finally came in handy. It seems that "a distant relative is better than a close neighbor" is absolutely true. My child is just a "decoration" for me.
2.70-year-old Uncle Pan: It is said that "couples should come less", but it is a pity that no one can say for sure in the future.
I am 70 years old and have only one daughter. As a result, she married in a foreign country. So far, I only have my wife who has lived with me for decades.
The affection between my wife and I is very deep. Since we got married, we have hardly quarreled, let alone mentioned anything else. They all said, "Don't spend too much time with your husband and wife." Only then did I really realize the true meaning of this sentence.
We can chat and talk together at ordinary times and go for a walk in the park when we are free. Originally, I thought that although I had never done anything important in my life, it was enough for me to have a wife who would never leave me in my later years.
But what I didn't expect was that one morning, my wife went out to buy food and was hit by a car. My wife couldn't do it then. It was hard for others to know the pain in my heart after I knew it at that time.
After dealing with my wife's funeral, I often look at her portrait alone. I have thought a lot, but what can I do now? Maybe this life is doomed to die alone.
I always have a wife to accompany me when I am old, but it's a pity that my wife left me long ago. After all, no one can be sure what will happen in the future. There are too many uncertainties about "few couples stay together", so it is probably unreliable for people to rely entirely on their wives in their later years.
3.67-year-old Aunt Guo: I have a son and a daughter, and my wife is retired and healthy, but what's the use?
I am 67 years old. I have a pair of children. They are married and have a family. My wife is two years younger than me and has retired. I should be very happy by rights. After all, my old age has been settled and relied on.
Unfortunately, this is just a beautiful illusion. My wife is in good health. Now she either goes fishing every day or joins the choir with other old people. She is seldom at home every day. When she came back at night, she fell asleep and couldn't talk to me for a day.
Every weekend, my children are mobilized by the whole family, old and young, but they say they will come home to see me. In fact, they just don't want to cook and come to my place to eat. I made a big table of dishes myself. They don't clean the table after eating.
Usually, after they leave, I will spend several hours cleaning the house alone. I lie in bed at night and it's hard to even turn over. How can you stay with me? This is obviously asking me to suffer. All right!
I have a healthy wife and children around me, but what's the use to me? To put it bluntly, I might as well not have them. Want to rely on them to support the elderly? Then I never thought about it again. I think we should take it one step at a time in the future!
The conclusion of micro-emotion
Although the accounts of the above three old people are only what happened to them and cannot replace all of us, what often happens to them is a very common phenomenon that many of us old people will encounter.
Therefore, many of our elderly people will feel very confused, depressed and confused once they encounter this situation. At this time, they will feel that their children and wives are unreliable in their later years.
Therefore, when people are old, they are the most helpless and need help from others. Therefore, as children, we should prioritize and truly do our "filial piety" so that the elderly can live a better and happier life in their later years. This is the best thing we should do. If the old people are missing their wives for various reasons, don't be sad. We should also get out of this misfortune and pain and live a good life.