everything depends on yourself. Life does not depend on fate and past trauma, but on your own way of thinking. Life is not that difficult, you make it complicated.

1. What matters is not what you have naturally, but how to use what you have flexibly.

2. The most important question is not where it comes from, but where to go.

3. Although people can't understand and explain their opinions about themselves and various problems in life, they still live by their own laws of action.

4. How you feel is up to you.

5. Don't interfere with other people's projects, and don't let others interfere with your own projects.

6. Children will constantly test and find successful methods, and even use them repeatedly when they grow up, which forms their life style. I feel right. When I was a child, I felt that if I smiled every day, adults would be very happy, so I would be very happy, so I developed a character that I like to laugh every day. If I am angry every day, maybe I will develop a bad temper of being angry every day in the future.

7. I always see the beautiful side of each other from a distance. When I am bored with each other, I always notice the annoying place of each other.

8. I feel this way for my friends, lovers and relatives, because the longer I get along with them, many living habits of both sides will be exposed one by one because I am unprepared. This time, I will erase the hazy feeling one by one and see his original clear forehead, so many times, hurtful words will be spoken, making the relationship difficult to handle. This is what we should pay attention to in our daily life, and we can't ignore each other's feelings just because we are too close.

9. While others think you are thin, you think you are fat. This is a sense of inferiority. Originally, I was always in an inferiority complex. Maybe I was used to being called when I was a child, so now I am in this feeling, and I don't know anything about it. We should correct our mentality and treat ourselves correctly.

1. People with a sound mind will only devote themselves to what they can do now, even if they feel 1% wrong with each other. On the other hand, people with an unhealthy mentality will only complain about the past and speak ill of others, and constantly emphasize that they are victims, so as to gain sympathy, but they do nothing. Recently, I have emphasized that I am a victim, but I didn't speak ill of others and didn't do nothing. I still stubbornly completed the task. I feel that I am still a person with a slightly imperfect mentality. I still need to practice again and become a person who cares about what I can do now.

11. Originally, anger is a two-stage emotion. First, the loneliness, annoyance and sadness in the first stage are revealed. Once the other party cannot understand it, it will turn into anger in the second stage. At this point, it's best not to express yourself with the emotional anger in the second stage with you as the subject: why did you eat it without asking me first? Instead, we should use the emotions of the first stage and take me as the main language to express: alas, I want to eat too! What a pity! Changing the way you speak in this way can also bring courage to the other person.

12. Talking and scolding blindly will only make the child lose self-confidence, be deeply hurt, lose courage, and even take away his courage to challenge difficulties. He just wants to avoid problems and make more inappropriate behaviors. Similarly, the way of punishment and threats will only make children feel resentful, become more difficult to communicate, and become more and more arbitrary.

13. * * * Singing means seeing with the other person's eyes, listening with the other person's ears and feeling with the other person's heart.

14. Once people find an excuse to pass the buck, they feel relaxed. It's all parents' fault; Blame the boss for being bad and the subordinates for making mistakes; It's all the other half's fault; Wrong is wrong when you are born. As long as it's not your own fault, your mood will be suddenly enlightened, right? But this ease can only last for a moment.

15. All troubles are interpersonal troubles. In fact, even hermits care about other people's eyes. All troubles can be summed up as interpersonal troubles. When you think about what kind of person you want to be, you must be very concerned about the eyes of people around you. Because I want to change myself, I want to be a progressive person, and I want to be a person that others like.

no one will do anything for you for no reason. So-and-so doesn't worry about doing anything for me, that is, you only think of your best evidence. In this passage, I have a deep feeling about the previous sentence, probably because I feel that I am alone and everything depends on myself.

17. Adler said that people use everything to avoid the failure in life

18. Don't always avoid the subject at hand, there will always be times when they have to face it. Just like when you have a toothache, it is impossible to cure tooth decay even if you take more painkillers. You must face up to the problem and treat it thoroughly.

19. If you really want to compare him, compare him with the present, and then praise him after his transformation. This book is marked with blue bold lines, and all the key sentences are very reasonable. What children hate most is to compare with other people's children, and they have been there before. Every child basically has a child from another family in his childhood, and you will never be better than him. This kind of comparison is very hurtful to children most of the time. So just compare the present child with the past one, and praise the progress, but don't exaggerate and cultivate conceit.

2. Only by convincing each other rationally is the way for mature adults to achieve their goals. Only by communicating with each other rationally can we get a win-win result. Reason can finally solve the problem. Everything that starts with sensibility, whether crying or making a scene, can't solve the problem. To calm down, the two sides sit down and see the problem rationally to find the reason.

21. Only oneself can create the life along the way, and only oneself can create the future life.

22. The way to experience the result is far more effective than punishment. If it's time for dinner and the child is still outside and durian doesn't want to return, don't reprimand him, just confiscate his dinner. However, if the agreement is too harsh and unreasonable, it will only make the other party think that this is a punishment rather than an agreement. In addition, when letting the other party experience the results, remember to nag at the side, which will also make the other party feel that it is a punishment.

23, no one will do anything for you for no reason, so-and-so doesn't worry about doing anything for me, which is the best evidence that you only think about yourself. Everyone is the master of his own life, and everyone can become the center of the world, so you don't enjoy any privileges.

24, the so-called lifestyle (personality) refers to life habits, habitual behavior patterns, etc., that is, personality and personality in general. However, the impression of personality is too strong, so Adler boldly uses the word lifestyle instead. He believes that life style is not a natural thing advocated by the law of causality, but something that can be decided according to one's own wishes, so there is the possibility of change at any time. There are always people who fall in love with your imperfect sentence

I heard two songs on the way. One is that you say I'm perfect, but you love someone else, so my perfection is not perfect, but I still love you so much, which is boring; A song says that there is a person who is very kind to me and loves me very much. I should love him without hesitation, but I can't forget you who is not good to me, being melodramatic. First, are you a masochist? As for the second one, holy shit, I don't have to say anything, just do it and see when I die, and everything will be fine. What the hell are the songs nowadays?

There are always people who fall in love with your imperfections.

First, learn to fall in love with your imperfections, because the imperfect you are the most perfect you.

second, I hope someone can accept your immaturity and fall in love with your imperfection.

third, I have been confused, taken seriously, and felt helpless. It takes a circle to understand that people are not perfect and should not change themselves for whom. If you find the right person, he will tolerate all your imperfections and even fall in love with you with flaws, so don't be hard on yourself, don't be unwilling. When you can support others in your heart, there is no such thing as being unwilling.

Fourth, when you are alive, just be yourself. Don't be afraid to be an imperfect self, and don't be afraid to be different. Becoming popular often means compromising on many things. Be yourself and the right people will fall in love with the real you. No matter who you are, there will always be people who like you and people who hate you. Who cares so much? This is our life, so live it brilliantly!

5. I met the best you at the best age; But the perfect you fell in love with the imperfect me, and I will look at the years again when I let go of the imperfect, only to find that you were so perfect that I didn't believe it until I met you.

6. Xi Huan you never feel tired, and you never regret falling in love with you. You are my eternal pursuit in this short life, waiting for the crane to be strong and protecting the seal to be king. I use my imperfect self to protect the perfect you in my heart, and I am single-minded. Jackson Yee

7. Young people always feel inferior and have no confidence because of the lack of family, and the person they like is always perfect and scary. I hope I can live confidently and calmly at the age of 3. Envy doesn't matter. It's love. Although I'm not perfect, I fell in love with you who is also imperfect, but it's because of everyone's imperfection that I enjoy more freedom. About .5+.5 = 1. I have always yearned for this just right feeling. Everyone has their own career and life, can think independently and stick to their own principles, love each other but not rely on them. I am fine without you, but I will be better with you.

eight, love is to look at you with perfect eyes and fall in love with you. Although not perfect, it is the truest and most beautiful you, and you are unique at this age

9. There will always be a man in this world, who will fall in love with the truest you and accept the imperfect you 1%. Even if you are not beautiful enough, you will always be the most beautiful in his eyes

1. Life was indestructible. Only when you fall in love with someone will your armor crack and reveal your soft soul. And through that tiny crack, I saw such a you-an imperfect but unique you.

eleven, there will always be people who fall in love with the imperfect you and accept the imperfect yourself ~ ~ ~

twelve, when you became famous, everything you did, intentionally or unintentionally, was brought with a halo that was magnified hundreds of times, attracting countless people to see the radiant you and fall in love with you.

thirteen, falling in love with imperfect you is the best thing I have ever done. I wish someone would say this to me, so that at least I won't push myself so hard.

XIV. Although the world is not perfect, who needs perfection with you? Thank you, a person who fell in love with Tianjin pancake fruit, a person who recognized the duckling as a chicken, a person who was angry with me every day, a person who came back from a different place in the middle of the night to celebrate my birthday, a person who worked hard to buy me delicious food ... a person who loved me very much.

15. It's really touching to see that you are still here. Think about it carefully. If you really fall in love with someone, you won't care what he looks like. I just hope that one day someone will have me in his heart and that imperfect me. I hope to meet the most suitable you at the most suitable time.

why do you expect someone to fall in love with you if you are not perfect?

seventeen, it is because of your imperfection that someone will fall in love with you.

18. None of us are perfect, but please believe that even so, some people will fall in love with this imperfect you. Everyone is not perfect to talk about

being bored. Inexplicably annoying, looking at those trivial things every day, I feel meaningless. It's not the weather. I feel like I'm at a tipping point, which may explode or fall down. Everyone is not perfect, but it is great to be able to control and adjust yourself. I'm straightforward, and I'm honest. I don't like this depressing feeling, and I don't like cynical dialogue. I like plain and steady. Adjust yourself, continue to work hard, and your potential has not yet been tapped.

Everyone is imperfect.

First, each of us is imperfect, and we often make mistakes. There are many reasons to forgive ourselves. However, I often grasp other people's mistakes and magnify them infinitely.

second, everyone has everyone's problems, and everyone is not perfect. However, I still want to try my best to be better myself. Put yourself in front of you and sew slowly, stitch by stitch. Not proud or humble

Third, everyone is not perfect, but they all deserve to be loved. Everyone makes mistakes, and it is good to change them.

Fourth, when Xiangbei defeated Shanwang, it was not so important whether they won the national championship or not. Everyone's youth is not perfect, but at least we have tried.

5. Negative energy also needs a place and a way to vent. Since each of us is imperfect, we need to accept the imperfections of ourselves and others frankly, and blindly pursuing perfection will make us anxious and depressed.

6. Everyone is imperfect, hesitates, gets annoyed occasionally, and hurts others when he is in a bad mood. But in the end, they will summon up courage, face reality, gradually recognize themselves and continue to cheer!

7. Maybe everyone is not perfect, but that's who we really are.

8. I'm not a smooth talker, let alone a schemer. I can't treat anyone in a duplicitous way. Everyone is not perfect, and there will always be practice to see the individual. At a young age, I haven't experienced the storm and talked about the word "life". I changed from knowing what I had at the beginning to being hazy in my heart, and more and more I found that I didn't know what I wanted or what I had. I couldn't figure out how some people stood in my heart and couldn't tell right from wrong. Rather than hating others, I began to hate myself now, being incompetent and weak. Gradually, I never had that simple and cheerful giggle again, and I lost my original intention.

9. Don't be angry. Everyone is not perfect, everything is not perfect, and what you think is perfect will become someone else's imperfection. Everyone has different ideas, so keep your obsession and don't accidentally hurt yourself because of trivial things around you.

1. It is true that everyone is not perfect, but what we appreciate most is that these young people are honest with themselves and others, and the good and the bad are so natural and generous to show their hearts, which is very beautiful.

11. On the way to work: each of us is not perfect, find our own shortcomings at work, improve ourselves, overcome the weaknesses of human nature and be better ourselves

12. Everyone is fragile, so it is not shameful to be fragile. Allow yourself to be fragile, allow yourself to rest, allow yourself to cry. If not, remember to ask for help. Everyone is not perfect, so don't be too hard on yourself.

XIII. Everyone is not perfect, and everyone has shortcomings. You have to understand this, and then slowly let go of your own strength and care about others.