My family runs a small supermarket, mainly run by my parents-in-law. My husband and I go to work, so we can help if we have nothing to do. My in-laws have been in town for almost three years, but they seldom buy food. Even in my hometown, my mother-in-law is only responsible for swearing, not buying food. Cooking can be fooled, but when it can't be fooled, push it, say you can't do it, say you can't do it well, and whoever likes it will do it. Her willfulness and arrogance forced my father-in-law and my husband to cook and do housework. But this still can't satisfy her old man's house, and she often calls names. When she was young, she often fought with her father-in-law. Now that she is old, she is much better, but she only scolds and doesn't fight. It may not work. On the one hand, she oppresses her father-in-law at home, on the other hand, she reaches out to our small family. She has to take care of everything from what my children eat to what they wear. The most exasperating thing is that she always thinks that I am an old lady married by her family and should serve her son unconditionally. In her eyes, her son is her day. She made me feel the same way. It's unbearable.

Before getting married, I occasionally go to her house for two days. She stepped up to instill in me "women's uselessness" and "women's attachment". She said, "Zhu Xiao, a man at home is heaven. Women are born to serve men. What can we women do to earn money or by what? Before you got married, your father and I served my son. Once you get married, my son will be in your hands. You should take good care of me. Don't have to go to work to earn money. There is enough food and vegetables for you in our field. " She thought I would be satisfied as long as there were food and vegetables grown in her family.

One Spring Festival, I saw with my own eyes how the old couple served their husbands. At that time, during the Spring Festival, my uncle and her husband were drinking, and as a result, he was drunk. After returning home, her mother-in-law blamed him for not turning iron into steel. But he just fell asleep. She made me wait. We are just boyfriend and girlfriend. Let me wait in bed at midnight. It is estimated that the whole village will spread the word the next day that we are living together. Twenty or thirty years ago, the countryside was very conservative. I want to consider my reputation. Besides, their family is sitting around the fire drinking tea. Why should I condescend to serve them? Besides, he said he didn't drink tea. How to serve him in bed?

Just because I refused to serve, my mother-in-law flew into a rage, stared at me with big eyes, blew her beard and glared, and said a lot of malicious words. I am a cruel woman and don't know how to love men. At that moment, I wanted to run and never live in such a beautiful family again. However, the next day, facing the tenderness of my husband after waking up, I gave in again.

You know, they let me know what "service" is the night I refused. My husband doesn't want to drink water, but he sleeps too much. As a result, the old couple, one with his son's waist in the back, and the other kneeling in front of his son to feed water. The husband is tall and strong, and the father-in-law behind him is short and thin. It is difficult to hug him, but he still patiently coaxed: "Come, my dear son, have a drink." The mother-in-law in front knelt in front of her son, struggling to hold a bowl and a lamp, and coaxed in a cadence: "Come on, Wei, open your mouth. Take another sip, take another sip! " Husband refused to drink, and they both cried while coaxing.

I was shocked by this scene. Nothing like this has ever happened in the family where I was born. My father likes drinking. He was an alcoholic when he was young. When he was drunk, he just walked askew, drinking tea pot by pot, smoking, and then going to bed, never disturbing his family. My brother has never been drunk-because he can hardly drink, he blushes after drinking a little and never drinks at all. I didn't expect to marry someone like this. Husband can drink half a catty, but no one can refuse at the wine table. He got off the wine table and couldn't even find the toilet. I can't find him in the middle of the night after drinking, either sleeping on the floor or throwing up on the toilet. I am bored to death. You said you couldn't drink well. What do you want to do?

My husband is so drunk that I don't care at home. I can't wait for him to come back drunk every night and then stagger to the bathroom to kiss, can I? But no matter how late it is, his parents will call me and ask him: Are you there? Are you drunk?

I was very angry and said to his father, "why don't you call him?" I'm going to bed. "

He shouted at me angrily, "Can you sleep if my son doesn't come back?"

I said, "Why can't I sleep? Son, who's watching? Who will be in my class tomorrow? "

As a result, both of them thought I was a bad wife and ignored her son. My mother-in-law is taking care of all the details of our life: from buying a house and renting a house, relatives coming and going, to washing my son's school uniform, how much did my daughter eat last night ... just because the supermarket can't leave, otherwise she will personally guide me. This long-winded phone call is made several times a day. I get angry when she doesn't answer it, and I get angry when she answers it. She complains every day, bursting with negative energy and pestering me to talk.

Actually, she is really lazy. She and her father-in-law need me to buy them clothes and send them food. Jiaozi and steamed stuffed bun, I'll cook them and send them there. All diseases, big or small, are waiting to buy medicine for them with my medical insurance card. Usually meals are cooked in the supermarket, which is easy and labor-saving. She didn't want to cook, so she ate pickles and drank boiled water to deal with it. Cook for a day. I forgot to eat the fish and meat I bought in the refrigerator during the Spring Festival ... but she put all her energy on me and asked me every day, "How did you serve my son today?"

Haha, I am speechless. You are really a great mother. Why do you have to transform me into your son's "selfless nanny"? At midnight the day before yesterday, my husband had a fever and I slept in my son's room. The next day, he scolded me half jokingly and half seriously: "What do you want? I know you are sleeping in the middle of the night without waiting for me to take medicine! " I also jokingly asked him, "We have been married for sixteen years. Please think about it. When have you ever served me? "

He really thought it over and said to me, "Don't blame me. Because you have never been sick at all! "

what can I say? His mother always asks me to wait on him and interrogate me every day as soon as we meet. Can she serve her son well? How much did he eat? What are you wearing? But she never thought I needed to care. Occasionally, my sister-in-law pays a New Year call to me and listens to her brother-in-law. My mother-in-law was very uncomfortable and called her husband and mother-in-law behind her back. She felt that her daughter was wronged in her husband's family and her mother-in-law ignored her. Unlike my happiness, she controls everything.

In fact, I want to say loudly: "Mom, you are driving me crazy! Your love is like a rope, so tied! "

When I went to the supermarket yesterday, my in-laws were very angry when they heard that her son was drunk again the night before yesterday. My father-in-law said, "Don't go to work, wait on him at home, and I will follow him wherever he goes. He drinks, you see. " I am brushing WeChat and protesting in a low voice: "I am fine ..."

The mother-in-law was very angry and shouted, "How can you talk? Isn't it enough not to ask you to work? You have no eyes for my son. Who else can you see? "

I'm out of breath with anger. I don't have the energy and time to be with them and ignore them. Because before this, my mother-in-law had just scolded her father-in-law for fear of making her angry, so I didn't say anything and scolded her very fiercely. To tell the truth, my heart is always uncomfortable.

I told my husband afterwards, and he said, "It's normal." I muttered to my daughter, and she said, "Don't listen. They will die after living for ten or twenty years. How is the strength compared with the old people? "

Oh, you see, I am the only one who is abnormal in this family!

In other words, my mother-in-law has always taught me that "men are heaven and women are servants." But that's not how she practices. She quarrels with her father-in-law almost every day, scolding lightly and crying easily. The cold war is a common occurrence. I talk about serving my father-in-law, but I am fooled in my daily life. But she has the energy to set standards and let her daughter-in-law serve her son. Maybe my daughter-in-law thinks it's too easy to come, and she doesn't deserve such an excellent son? Subconsciously, she may think that because I love her son, I will lose myself and give everything.

But she was wrong. I am an independent woman, and I will never parasitize anyone.