1. Correctly understand adversity

For a person with a high adversity quotient, the stronger the adversity, the stronger his fighting spirit. For a person with low AQ, if the adversity increases slightly, he will immediately lose his fighting spirit. If you want to be a person with high AQ, it may be difficult to survive when the adversity is too great, because there are not many people with high AQ after all.

Case

Lee Kuan Yew grew up in Singapore, which was originally a state of Malaysia. He went to the United Kingdom to study and served as a member of the Malaysian Parliament after returning. But because Lee Kuan Yew had received modern education, he believed that Malaysia needed reform, and the conservatives allowed Singapore to become independent.

The first thing after independence was that there was no water to drink. I begged Malaysian Prime Minister Mahathir Mohamad to reach an agreement. Malaysia would provide water sources, Singapore would purify them, and half of the clean water would be returned to Malaysia. Lee Kuan Yew's last wish was to see Singapore come home when he was alive. Lee Kuan Yew asked Mahathir of Malaysia, and Mahathir said to think about it, but he still has no answer.

It’s not easy for Lee Kuan Yew. He was kicked out of Malaysia at the beginning, but today he manages the country to be so strong and powerful, ranking in the top 30 in the world, and Singapore ranks in the top 10 among open countries. Coming back to recognize his ancestors again, people can't help but confirm that his AQ score is really very high.

Case

Arafat led the Palestinian guerrillas to fight Israel all his life. He insisted on carving out a piece of land in the Middle East to settle his people and establish a Palestinian *** He Guo, it cannot but be said that his AQ is very high. Under strong pressure from Israel and the United States, Arafat wanted to establish a Palestinian state.

Be good at looking at the adversities you face from different angles.

There are so many joyful and happy things in our whole life. Why don’t we pay attention to them, but keep in mind some of our own traumas? Some people feel that they are the most unlucky people in the world when adversity strikes. Actually, that's not entirely the case. Maybe you are "unlucky" in one thing, but you may still be lucky in other ways. Compared with those who are less fortunate, you may still be a very lucky person. British writer Thackeray famously said: "Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile at you; if you cry at it, it will cry at you." Indeed, if we smile at life with a cheerful attitude, Life will "smile" at us, and we will feel the warmth and joy of life. And if we always look at life with a painful and sad mood, then the entire tone of life will become gray in our hearts.

Water can carry a boat, but it can also capsize it. Good times and bad times will transform into each other under certain conditions. When facing adversity, if we can appropriately change the perspective and way of thinking, and re-evaluate and examine the adversity we encounter from other aspects, it will also help to get rid of the adversity.

2. A correct view of frustration

It is not easy to correctly understand setbacks. When you are in the position of a bystander and see others encounter setbacks, you may sometimes be able to make some more correct analyses. But when setbacks befall you, you must be able to make a correct and clear understanding. It's not easy anymore. Therefore, we should have a correct view of frustration. This is reflected in:

(1) The existence of frustration is universal

Frustration is also an integral part of life, and everyone will encounter it. The so-called "smooth sailing" and "everything goes as planned" are often just people's good hopes; it is commonplace to say that "the sky has unpredictable circumstances, and people have misfortune and fortune". Throughout ancient and modern times, many famous scientists, writers and politicians have been tempered by adversity. Someone specifically studied the biographies of 293 famous foreign writers and artists and found that 127 people encountered major adversity in their lives. . Adversity exists objectively, the key lies in how we recognize it and treat it. If you have a correct view of adversity, understand that adversity is an inevitable part of life, and dare to face the adversity you face and dare to challenge it, you can regard adversity as a stepping stone to progress and the starting point of success, and thus continue to make progress. .

(2) Frustration has a dual nature

The great writer Balzac also said: "Things in the world are never absolute, and the results completely vary from person to person. Suffering is an integral part of genius. A stepping stone is a fortune for the capable, but an abyss for the weak." This is indeed the case. Adversity and hardship in life are not always bad. A calm, comfortable and comfortable life often makes people content with the status quo and indulge in enjoyment; while adversity and hardship can make people tempered and tested and become stronger. "Since ancient times, great men have suffered many hardships, while dandy men have rarely been great men." This is probably the truth.

(3) Don’t dwell on setbacks

If a setback has already occurred, you should face it and find a solution; if it has passed, you should let it go. , don’t always keep it in your memory, let alone stare at it all the time. Painful feelings are like a muddy swamp. The harder you can't get out of it quickly, the more likely it is to trap you deeper and deeper until you can't extricate yourself.