In this world, can anyone really have a smooth life without setbacks and suffering?

I think there must be no.

As Li Bai said in his poem: "The road is difficult, the road is difficult, and the road is divergent. Where can I find peace now?"

On the road of life, if there is a smooth road, there will be low spots.

Someone once asked: "How can I make my life smoother?"

In fact, as early as the Warring States Period, Guiguzi told us three maxims:

Don't be angry when encountering adversity, don't be surprised when something unexpected happens, and don't defend yourself when you are slandered.

Whenever you encounter something unsatisfactory, think about these three sentences, and blessings will surely come uninvited, and your life will become wider and wider!

01

Not to be angry when encountering adversity

Not to be angry or complain when something does not go your way is a kind of cultivation.

You must know that people will always encounter unpleasant things or unpleasant people in this life.

However, some people easily become irritable and restless when they encounter something unpleasant, so irritable that they lose their temper with anyone.

This is quite childish! Losing your temper will not solve any real problem, but will make it worse.

More than 2,000 years ago, Confucius once warned the world: "Don't vent your anger and never make mistakes."

A truly smart person is the first to respond when things go wrong. The reaction is not to complain or get angry, but to calm down, figure out the ins and outs of the matter, and then think of countermeasures to solve it.

I saw a piece of news some time ago:

When a couple was driving home, the wife accidentally drove the car onto a fire hydrant, causing the car to overturn. As a result, both of them were injured.

While the husband was still in shock, after checking that his wife was fine and healthy, he suggested that he and his wife take a photo to keep as a record.

Think about it if it were a husband who likes to lose his temper when something happens, he might blame his wife from the beginning for not being able to drive, and even start a quarrel. From the accusation of "can you drive?" to Why did you buy the car in the first place, and how did you borrow the money to buy the car?

In adult life, there is a kind of cultivation called not to get angry when things happen.

Not being angry, being able to see through, think openly, and let go are both a skill and a pattern of life.

Faced with all kinds of difficulties in life, learn to control your temper, not get angry, correct your mentality, and face everything optimistically, so that you can live happily!

02

Don’t panic when encountering unexpected changes

Not panicking when encountering sudden changes is a kind of magnanimity.

No one’s life will always be smooth sailing. When encountering changes, a person’s adaptability largely determines his achievements.

In the Song Dynasty, there was a man named Lu Wenjing who had four sons.

In order to test which son had the potential to be a prime minister, he ordered his maid to deliberately break a precious jade object in the yard where the four children were playing.

Witnessing the whole process of the jade being smashed, three of the four children said "Ah!" and hurriedly ran to report to the wife. Only the second son was left, and he remained calm and calm, as if nothing had happened. Same.

Seeing this, Lu Wenjing asked him: "The jade was broken, why are you not anxious at all?"

Gongzhu calmly replied: "Father, it has been broken. What's the use of being anxious?"

As expected, he later became an official and became prime minister.

Those who achieve great things are not alarmed when encountering difficulties. This is a rare tolerance.

Just as Weng Tonghe, the imperial master of Wanqing Dynasty, said:

"Since ancient times, the more sages and sages encountered earth-shattering events and dangers, the more calm they became. "Don't be surprised when things change."

In May this year, at an altitude of 10,000 meters, the front windshield on the right side of the cockpit fell during flight 3U8633, causing an instant loss of pressure in the cabin and the temperature quickly dropped to more than minus 40 degrees Celsius. Most of the instruments in the cabin failed.

In such a harsh and dangerous situation, Captain Liu Chuanjian remained calm and composed, and with his excellent flying skills and good psychological quality, he finally landed the plane safely.

As the ancient saying goes, Mount Tai collapses in front but remains unchanged, and the Yellow River reaches its summit without being shocked.

When your life encounters changes, you must learn to deal with them calmly, not be surprised by changes, and slowly develop a strong heart.

03

Not to defend when someone is extremely slanderous

When someone is unreasonably accused or slandered, it is a kind of mentality not to argue or refute the other party.

Living in this mortal world, no matter who you are, you will be commented upon and gossiped about by others. Occasionally, you will also encounter sarcasm, rumors and slander from others.

If you face these slanders and slanders and do not explain or argue, you will not disturb your heart.

After Wang Yangming put down the rebellion of Ning Wang Zhu Chenhao, more and more people slandered and talked about him. Some were jealous of his power, while others were dissatisfied with his teachings.

But Wang Yangming didn't care about this. He just cultivated his mind wholeheartedly and tried his best to pass on the idea of ??"leading to conscience". He knew well that "the turbid will become turbid and the pure will become clear." .

?"The most important thing for a person is self-cultivation. If he is indeed a sage, even if others come to slander him, it will not cause any harm to him. It is like floating clouds covering the sun. How can floating clouds be possible? How about damaging the brightness of the sun? ”

When rumors and slander come, there is no need to seek clarification. As long as you have an open mind, the rumors will be self-defeating.

A truly cultivated person, even when faced with slander from others, is extremely gentlemanly and will face the slander with a calm mind.

Therefore, when you encounter something that does not go your way, please remember these three sentences, always reflect on yourself, let yourself get out of adversity, and believe that blessings will come uninvited.