She revealed her scars with great candor and pointed at them and made witty remarks.

The sooner you act, the less painful it will be. We must fight a mobile war against life's problems. No matter what, don't sit in the mud and cry. "Take action first."

Believe in the power of family tradition. Enthusiasm, energy, adventurous spirit, organizational skills, and emphasis on professionalism are important success qualities that have been prominently reflected in the three generations of this family, and they have been passed down from generation to generation without loss.

The most useful education for children is to let them see you working hard to become a better version of yourself. Other than that, nothing matters.

Working women have an outstanding advantage when it comes to their children’s education, that is, because they don’t have much time to spend with their children, their children will have more opportunities to develop their talents (thinking of this, I no longer feel sorry for I am anxious about my children going to cram schools and doing homework).

Even if she can still be a supermodel catwalk at the age of seventy, as long as she is a woman, she will always be dissatisfied with herself here or there. The truth is: people only notice the best parts of you. So, feel free to be confident.

The real winners are the Stoics. Someone once asked Diogenes what he learned from philosophy, and he replied: "Be prepared to meet every fate." The life case of Meyer Musk also illustrates this point. The real winner is neither a "silly fool" nor a resentful woman, nor blindly optimistic nor self-pitying, but a person who has enough courage to calmly solve all challenges one by one. Her story is just like what Aurelius wrote in "Meditations": "The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing."

Cherish friendship. Children will leave home, lovers will break up, and jobs will be retired, but like-minded close friends will remain. A true friend may not be able to hug you for warmth, but he can certainly make you awe.

Be good at seeking help and support from others. Asking for help is a very basic survival ability. Asking for help is forming a network and building trust and connections with more people.

The pursuit of beauty is a very important life issue. Assuming that she is still the mother of Elon Musk, but not as beautiful as she is now, then this is an educational story of a single-parent family, not an inspirational story of the growth of a hard-core woman.

Aging has its dividends. For Stoicism, life is also an antifragile system. As people age, their self-perception becomes more accurate and their ability to recover from failure should become stronger.

No matter how bleak everything seems, there is always light ahead. If it's too dark, let yourself be a light.

I hope that when my dear readers read this book, they will experience less pain caused by struggle and more joy of surviving than I did.

A good farmer is good at planning. ” South Africans always say this. There is no big or small plan, as long as it involves changing directions or solving problems, this proverb is very applicable. In short, no matter what the obstacles are in front of you, you must give it your best Go ahead and find the best way to overcome difficulties.

People who dare to take risks can often have a more exciting and happy life. In the beginning, I took many risks and experienced many hardships. I persisted until the end and achieved both personal and professional success. You don’t have to make every change in your life precise. You can solve problems when they arise. Life is full of all kinds of problems. The thing is, you just have to plan your first steps.

Don't slow down as you age just because you're a woman

If you don't look the way you do. So perfect, focusing too much on your appearance will only bring you a lot of insecurity, which is likely to make you unhappy and prevent you from discovering your other wonderful potential, such as your intelligence, sense of humor, and zest for life.

My advice is: be kind to others, learn to listen, always stay positive, and avoid talking about your sob stories as long as you show confidence, respect for others, curiosity, and a smile. You can become a very attractive person. Everyone has talents to share with others. If you think you have nothing at this moment, please look back on your past and find some part of your life that you are confident about. moment. Find that part, study it, and share it, and your life will be richer. If you have a specialty, hobby, or special interest, study it and mention it often when you talk to others. Do these things with passion, and you'll become more interesting and smarter. You don't have to be an all-rounder, you just need to be good at one thing.

Why not try something that makes you. A look you're afraid of? You won't try it again anyway, and you don't have to wear that outfit forever.

Remember, it doesn't matter if you want to wear makeup or not! If you skip sun protection, you're asking for trouble

Whether it's wearing a hat or applying sunscreen, the best way we can protect our skin is to use sun protection

If you do. To feel confident inside and out, start by practicing better posture. Stand up straight, lean your shoulders back, and put on a happy expression on your face.

When someone is talking to you, look them in the eye and don't look away. You could call this the "confidence game."

Sometimes, too much pressure can lead to nothing being accomplished. You should improve on the things you are good at and don't try to be perfect at everything.

My father never follows what others say. As long as he has a dream, he will take action. My mother is the same person. She already had her own career and life goals even before she met her father.

Having a plan doesn’t mean everything will go smoothly. But if things go wrong, you can at least have an idea for another plan.

My dad always said, "There's nothing the Haldemans can't do!" This is what my siblings and I live by. I have always done my best to be a role model and show this to my children. Now, there’s nothing the Musks can’t do!

We never panic when something breaks, just fix it and move on. In life, we often fear things that may not happen. What is there to be afraid of? Even if bad things happen, just try to find a solution.

We have learned how to live far from the comfort of home. When you have to do something, you should face reality.

Comfort is not a necessity in life, and you can live well despite scarcity.

Additionally, what I learned is this: You can always cut back on expenses, don’t go into debt, and don’t envy other people who live in luxury, you just have to live your life to the best of your ability and expect success.

You can set a goal, but don’t get discouraged if you don’t achieve it.

If you want to make a change, you need to learn to say: "Why not?"

Regardless of the opportunity, others will always advise you: "Why not try?" But you What should be considered is what will make you happy. Everyone's life calls for different possibilities, and unless you're brave enough to try, how can you possibly know what's ahead?

You don’t need a five-year plan. If your plan is too long-term, it will make it very difficult for you to take the first step. Most importantly, you have to take action. Instead of focusing on the distant future now, you should focus on your next step.

If you want to feel better, you have to turn things around and make real changes. Whether it's making a small change, like learning to meditate, or making a drastic change, like overhauling your diet, or moving to a new place and starting over. All in all, you need to have a plan.

There is no need to feel guilty. Rather than complaining about giving up work, it is better to let children see what kind of optimistic attitude towards life they can have.

I raise my young children the same way my parents raised us. I want them to be independent, kind, honest, considerate, polite, hardworking, and more Do good things. I never treated them like babies, scolded them, or told them what they should learn. They just need to let me know what they are learning or not learning. I don't check their homework because that's their responsibility. Now I can be very sure that what I did did not harm the future development of my children, and I, my brothers and sisters, and my children all benefited from this - learning to take responsibility from an early age.

As they grow older, children have clearer and clearer plans for life, and everyone is willing to take responsibility for the future independently. Without me even seeing the application materials, Tosca chose the high school she wanted to go to, and all three children independently completed applications for college, scholarships, and student loans.

There is no need for us to overprotect our children, as this will only cause them to lose touch with reality and responsibilities. My children have benefited greatly from being able to survive on their own because they have seen with their own eyes how much their mother had to do to keep a roof over her head, have enough food to eat, and afford second-hand clothes. , I struggled so hard alone.

If your child is not used to reaching out for clothes or opening his mouth for food, this is actually a good thing. Don't spoil him, you just need to let your child learn to take care of himself while ensuring safety.

Whether it is for school admission or job hunting, children should be allowed to prepare all documents themselves. Children should learn to take responsibility for their own future, and parents just need to be supportive.

As a parent, you can teach your children good habits, but you can't help them decide what they want to do in the future.

Throughout my career, I have strived to help others succeed. Those who help others always help others, and surprisingly, sometimes I get support from others too. However, please remember that the purpose of helping others is not to get something in return, you should only do it because you enjoy it and it will make other people do better.

People sometimes feel panicked by unrealistic imaginations, but terrible things can actually happen at any unforeseen moment. Don't dwell on this.

You can plan thoroughly and prepare carefully, but you also have to understand that no one can predict what will happen.

Being grateful for the kindness from strangers will make you happy. As I was writing this book, I realized how many people had been so kind to me. Looking back on the past, all the scenes at that time come to my mind. My life has become much less stressful because of people’s kindness. They helped me get out of many uncomfortable, painful, or difficult situations without ever expecting anything in return. They are good people and I have met countless such good people. Please be grateful for the good things in life. When you're in trouble, learn to seek support from family, friends, and even strangers. In return, you should be kind to strangers around you.

Your luck can only be created through your own efforts!

There is a proverb that says: "Twenty-one years old means reincarnation as a human being." This sentence means that you need to be responsible for your own future. The harder you work, the easier luck will find you.

There is no absolute "yes" in the world, but if you don't ask, the answer is definitely "no".

Some women may be shy, lack self-confidence, or fear rejection, so they are unable to proactively pursue what they want. Men don't seem to have such a problem. No matter how annoying or incompetent they are, they feel good about themselves, think they deserve promotions, raises, and more benefits, and can naturally ask for an office with a window in the corner—I see them do this all the time. .

Whether you insist or not depends on the situation, and not everything must be "fucked to death". If you ask and the other person's answer is "no", then you should let go and move on with a different goal. But if you have confirmed that this is your true goal, then you should keep pursuing it.

Ninety-five percent of the things you worry about will never happen.

Don’t dwell on the blows. If you feel disappointed, look the other way. If you've been dumped or failed in your job search, put it behind you and move on. If you've been turned down for a home mortgage, you just have to keep working to improve your credit rating.

The great thing about aging is that you will experience many blows and you will pass through seemingly endless darkness. Eventually, you'll recover faster and faster.

Being with real friends is a comfort. You feel like you are at home and can completely relax and be your true self.

We don’t need to make every meal perfect, and the same goes for your life. One unhealthy meal won't completely ruin your healthy life. As long as you eat healthy eighty percent of the time, you'll feel great all the time.

If you live long enough, you will find that annoying problems recur again and again throughout your life. When you encounter something terrible, or someone shows malicious intent towards you, you can say, "Let's take a number." It's not like similar situations have never happened before. No matter how painful it was at the time, it won't be as painful when you experience it again. But now you can face these calmly and let go of everything that goes wrong.

Our family has dealt with the death of loved ones many times, which is inevitable because we are a large family. When we face death for the first time, we are so heartbroken that we cannot believe that we will ever recover. But human potential is endless. You can recover, and you can even calmly talk about those family members who have left, but have not left in your heart. This is part of the benefit of growing older.

Whether it is health, career, or life, there is no one-step solution in the world. All you can do is work hard, stay optimistic, and be sincere to others. By the way, you also need to have enough common sense and the ability to make plans.

Plans can be made, but not every plan can be realized, so you must learn to make another plan. Life is full of ups and downs, just like riding a roller coaster. Going up is always exciting, while going down is like living in hell. If you are at a low point in your life, you must learn to make a plan to escape. As you get older, failure becomes less tragic and painful, and certainly less hurtful because you have experienced it before.