For example, reading the book "Life is like a Journey" and the book "Father and son have been brothers for many years" deeply touched me.
I like easy-going people, and that kind of easy-going attitude will always bring people inexplicable closeness and sureness, which will make people unconsciously relieved and at ease. In a family, the father's personality often has an important influence on many things. There is not a child who does not long for his father's gentleness and generosity, and there is not a child who does not tremble under serious violence. I always thought children were angels. The key is how many parents can educate them patiently, rationally and objectively from the day they are born.
There is a saying: "One of the most wrong ways for parents to communicate is that they don't understand feelings and ignore them."
Before the 1980 s, most children grew up in a free-range way, and it was most important to eat and wear warm clothes. The importance of education varies with parents' cognition. Even if he was born in an intellectual family, his parents may not always be as achievement-oriented as their parents are now. Take myself for example, that's it, but I'm still grateful that they always take the lead at critical times.
After having children, I often think about how to be a qualified mother and constantly recall my childhood experiences, including psychological, ideological and academic. Find out what you lack, what you want most, feel what kind of education and companionship your child needs most, and then adjust yourself to establish a closer parent-child relationship with your child. It seems that I am educating my children. Many times, the reflection brought by children often makes me even more moved. Raising children is an extremely long and arduous process. For me, it can be said that it is self-growth in another sense.
I think children's physical and mental health is more important than their studies. As the saying goes, success comes first.
Under the exam-oriented education, the competition is the score, but it leaves many problems, such as children's mental health, physical health, the purpose of learning, the value of growth and so on. After experiencing more and more heartbreaking events, we really need to re-examine the current educational concept.
Father and son become brothers and mother and daughter become sisters, which can really be a good way of educational communication. Let children trust their parents, let parents know their inner movements, let parents' persuasion turn into a trickle, moisten things quietly, and cultivate children to establish their own correct learning attitude and cognition of the world. Perhaps this is the highest state of education.
"Parents' beloved son is far-reaching. "
There is no doubt that parents' love is the most selfless, but there are thousands of ways to love, and the best one is acceptable and effective.
Every child is an independent individual first, so even educators can't treat them in a standard theoretical way. Education always varies from person to person, so we should teach students in accordance with their aptitude. The expectation of children should be based on practicality, and we should not make excessive demands on children and cause unnecessary pressure. Every step should be climbed step by step, step by step, in order to step by step. As parents, they should have a higher pattern to influence their children, let them contact in the process of growing up, and slowly open their own life pattern. The bigger the pattern, the wider the field of vision. Are you afraid that the road of life will not get wider and wider?
Mr. Wang Lao said: "I am not advocating retro, but the realm of those old literati, which is quite luxurious for us now."
In real life, more emphasis is placed on the importance of mother's influence on children and family, as if a mother should do what she should do, and any problem comes down to the role of mother, which is inevitably biased. In my opinion, both middle school students and fathers are equally important. We can make use of gender differences and personality differences to give full play to their respective advantages and complement each other, so as to achieve a harmonious and happy state of family and education. The absence of either party will cause some regret.
Education is really a big topic. Let's learn from it and think separately. We might as well ask ourselves: What are parents?
Have you ever made a lotus lantern for a child that is more beautiful than a real flower?