Myth 1: Talent is very important.
We generally have a psychology that people who can succeed in a certain skill must be highly gifted, so not everyone is Lang Lang and Ding Junhui, so there is no such thing as gold steel receiving porcelain. According to this view, Yang Kang, who is clever and cunning, should be on the stage of life, while Guo Jing, who is stupid, can only herd sheep on the grassland all his life!
However, the fact is that Yang Kang died in his own accident, and Guo Jing became a hero. Why? Actually, talent is not that important. If you have read Malcolm Gladwell's Alien: Different Revelations of Success, you will find that the so-called geniuses are just an accident, and their success is due to their better resources and 10,000-hour theory.
Although Guo Jing only remembers one of the ten tricks, he is obedient and diligent, and keeps practicing from morning till night. His sureness enables him to study and practice hard every time he meets a famous teacher. Yang Kang said that he deduced too much. Why did he take the lead at first and then fall far behind? Not wholeheartedly. Genius also needs practice. Even Beethoven began to practice continuously at the age of four. There are no geniuses, they are just more diligent than others.
Myth 2: The environment is very important.
We often think that if there is only one child, we should give him the best things, and parents have a kind of psychological compensation. I grew up in a bad economic situation, and I often refused, so we can give everything to our children if conditions permit.
As a result, the craze for choosing schools has intensified in China. The report of "sky-high school district housing" has repeatedly captured people's hearts, and the tiger mothers and fathers in China are really struggling to choose a good learning environment for their children. After all, Meng Mu's concept of "Three Movements" has been deeply rooted in people's hearts. Without a good environment, there is no good education. Without a good education, there is no baby's success.
How crazy this theory is, from the ghost town of our eco-city to the buzz, can be seen. When the eco-city was first built in 2008, people who were optimistic talked about it because of its remote location and high price. At that time, the primary school in Eco-city had one class in each grade, with no more than 30 classes at most. Only vegetation is waiting in the empty street. Everyone says that although the eco-city environment is good, it is really unpopular!
How is the eco-city now? Xiaowai has three branch schools, with nearly 10 classes in each grade, and some even have more than a dozen classes. There are already 40 freshmen in each class. In this way, foreign primary schools are expanding by 1500+ every year, and several more will be opened this year.
Why is the gap so big? This is the effect of famous schools. The primary and secondary schools in Eco-City are all famous schools in Tianjin-Binhai School affiliated to Tianjin Foreign Studies University, Guotai Future School, Nankai Middle School and even the Middle School attached to Beijing Normal University. With the spread of word of mouth, people who buy a house and choose a school flock to it. This is a typical example of a school supporting a city!
So, the question is, is it safe for my children to go to a prestigious school? This can be seen from the comparison of school environment between Guo Jing and Yang Kang. Guo Jing started grazing at the age of four. Mother and son are diligent on the grassland, and their lives are passable. They are tentatively designated as well-off families. Teacher Guo Jing is a district-level teacher. Guo Jing not only learned katar Kung Fu, but also learned archery and horseback riding. The physical education curriculum is relatively perfect, but he lacks theoretical study, and the curriculum is incomplete, at most at the level of rural primary schools. Of course, he met Ma Yu, Hong Qigong and other famous teachers who went to the countryside to teach, but he didn't study systematically, so he only trained for a short time.
As for Yang Kang, as the little prince of the State of Jin, his living environment is naturally excellent, and the courses he has learned are also complete and comprehensive: interpersonal communication-how to cheat the teacher, filial piety class-how to break the leg of the little white rabbit to win the love of his mother, and progress-how to safeguard the little prince's reputation, so he killed Wang Chu and so on. His teacher, Qiu Chuji, is not only the first of the seven sons in the town, but also the top master of evil forces in the Jianghu, and he is the chief of the cram school for Buddhist teachers. but ...
Having said that, parents must understand that choosing a school is very important, but what is more important than this is your own efforts? Think about the idea that you can sit back and relax by sending your child to a prestigious school, but be careful!
Myth 3: Achievement is the most important.
In China, children's grades are often a barometer of a family. If you are high, you will be happy; if you are low, you will be sad. How many families only focus on grades, but they don't know that the children trained in this way are prone to malnutrition. In fact, three views are more important than grades. Like Yang Kang, Guo Jing.
In principle, Yang Kang has a good hand, but he doesn't play well. I think the fault lies with his mother. On the one hand, she misses the past, on the other hand, she doesn't care about everything. Maybe she thinks it's enough for a child to live without illness or disaster. Maybe this is his ultimate goal. However, it is this single educational goal that makes Yang Kang miserable. Because although living on clothes and vegetables, Yang Kang grew up in a luxurious environment. Apart from Hong Yan Lee, he likes flattery best. In the most important imitation period of life, if Bao Xi does not correctly and forcefully guide the child's three views, the child will naturally grow crooked.
When he is an adult and has the desire to marry a princess and attach himself to powerful people, tell him that your father is not a monarch above ten thousand people, but a poor busker who makes a living on the street. Do you want it?
Li Pingze instilled the concept of revenge in Guo Jing from an early age, always remembering that he is a Han Chinese and establishing a correct outlook on life and values, so he can keep his bottom line at all important moments. And Yang Kang is already Kang, how can he give up everything for a poor future?
Therefore, parents and children can get low grades, but they should be self-motivated; A child can fall behind in his grades, but he must have a kind heart. Three views are more important than grades.
Finally, from the comparison between Guo Jing and Yang Kang, we can see that diligence is more important than talent, and internal efforts are more important than external conditions, so we must cultivate a correct outlook on life and values.
[Reading Martial Arts and Talking about Education Series II]