Adler's famous saying is familiar to everyone.
The key is how to give children a childhood that can heal their whole lives?
It is very important to help children build a sense of trust in the world.
according to research statistics, the good and bad things that each of us has experienced in our life are about the same, half and half.
the difference is whether you are sensitive to good things or bad things.
the same thing, do you pay attention to the positive side or the negative side?
People who establish a trust relationship with the world will see more good things. Pay more attention to the positive side of things.
people who don't have a trust relationship with the world will see more bad things. Facing things, always pay attention to the negative side.
give an example. The weather is cloudy and sunny.
people with trust will say, well, although it is cloudy now, the sun will come out soon.
people who fail to develop a sense of trust may say that although the sun is shining now, alas, who knows, it may rain soon.
Look, how important the trust is to our life.
it is this trust that makes us face difficulties and have hope.
I believe that I can carry it through, and I believe that the future will always be better.
so, how to help children build this trust?
trust comes from a sense of security.
a sense of security comes from a sense of control.
I can control this matter, so I have a sense of security and trust.
Babies come into this world with complete strangeness to the world and complete helplessness.
The way the world treated him at first determined his understanding of the world.
Babies experience the world mainly through interaction with their caregivers (mainly their mothers).
If the world is under his control, he can build a sense of security and trust.
For example, when a baby cries when he is hungry, he will get milk to drink.
when a baby is thirsty, he will have water to drink when he cries.
I peed, and when I cried, my diaper was changed.
if you want to find someone to accompany you, when you cry, someone will be coaxed.
the baby thinks in his heart, well, the world is not bad. I can control it.
so as to establish a sense of trust in the world.
After growing up, the seed "The world is beautiful" has also grown up in children's hearts, with lush foliage.
Even if there is wind and rain in life, his heart is stable and hopeful.
I think, this is, to cure a lifetime of childhood!