First, the purpose of counseling is to avoid and eliminate the incentives for students to have impulses and troubles because of emotional out of control. This method is especially important for the following students.
(1) It is very difficult to cultivate this kind of students' self-control because of their low innate self-control. Time-consuming and slow. The methods of persuasion are: a. Love melting method, that is, using the love of teachers and classmates to melt the hard "bumps" of these classmates. Teachers should care about their studies, their health and life, and their interpersonal relationships. We should talk with them more, ask more questions, and educate other students to get close to them, get to know them, study and play with them, so that they are not "hot" or less "hot". B. Shift the target to vent, that is, when they lose their temper, the teacher skillfully shifts their sharpness to avoid their collision or injury. The teacher can comfort them first and then postpone them. C. Exercise to get rid of qi, that is, exercise is used to release accumulated heat in the human body, consume excess energy, and play a good role in fitness and ambition. It is observed that people will be more calm within three days after experiencing a strong physical activity. D. Diet selection, that is, choosing certain foods, such as cigarettes, wine and peppers, can make people's blood pressure rise, heart rate increase and excitement, so their self-control is also reduced, and it is best not to touch or touch less.
(2) There are many similarities and differences between students with endocrine disorders and students with weak innate self-control, which are as follows: a. Drug therapy or psychotherapy should be combined; It is more important to show love to those students who have lost their loved ones, and we should comfort them more. C. games or entertainment. If you are a primary school student, you can let them (better than the teacher) play hide-and-seek and the blind touch the elephant. D to carry out adolescent health education and sex education, and do a good job of unity between boys and girls.
(3) Other types 1. Students with one-child syndrome generally have the following characteristics: bossiness, willfulness, stubbornness, too strong self-esteem, too strong self-awareness, too confident, poor self-care ability and inability to bear hardships. To cultivate this kind of students' self-control, we must first combine family education and get family support. Therefore, we should visit more families and hold parent-teacher conferences. If possible, let students live on campus and lead a collective life, let students manage themselves and educate themselves; Secondly, we should educate them to set lofty goals as soon as possible and strive for them; The third is to carry out frustration training so that they can withstand difficulties and setbacks; The fourth is to carry out legal education and moral education. 2. Backing effect, self-superiority, radiation-based backing effect means that students' parents or other relatives become cadres or have honors or "golden gods", so students are complacent and supercilious. Most of them have nothing to hide, don't accept the teacher's discipline, don't study hard, and get a little criticism, they will glare. The education of this kind of students should first carry out legal and moral education; The second is to invite people with status and prestige to assist education; The third is to eliminate their sense of superiority, and suggest that parents limit their unreasonable demands and pay attention to their types of friends. In case they are criticized, parents should help them, not protect them. The radiation of self-superiority is the idea that students are superior to others in appearance, posture, sound quality, intelligence and talent. They are self-righteous, supercilious, do not listen to objections, are jealous, and some are good at playing tricks on others to find fault with teachers. The way to persuade is to make the best use of the situation, put more pressure on the burden and make more suggestions. Confucius' words and deeds, "Three people must have a teacher", "saints are impermanent" and "eager to learn and eager to ask questions" are all good teaching materials for such students. In short, we should encourage them to give full play to their advantages and use the right methods to strive for early success. 3. Competition syndrome Reasonable competition can destroy people's progress, but its side effects should also attract our attention. All kinds of competitions, competitions and exams at school, the ranking of usual exams and the pressure of entrance exams will make students feel different degrees of fear, which will lead to inner pressure, nervousness and irritability, and sometimes some students will feel lost. The method of counseling is: pay attention to students' emotions before and after each competition and arrange rest reasonably. Comfort and enlighten those students with unsatisfactory grades in time; For those winners, they should be advised not to be too excited to ensure that students are psychologically relaxed and balanced. In addition, the beautification, purification and greening of schools are also important aspects of counseling, which should be paid attention to.
Second, the purpose of induction is to let students know the role of self-control, abandon bad emotions, and actively and consciously cultivate self-control.
(1) Teachers set an example. Most students have the habit of imitating the teachers they admire. Therefore, teachers should have elegant and generous manners, have calm courage in the face of emergencies, and have a demeanor of not being angry and arrogant, so that students can learn from each other and gradually cultivate self-control ability.
(2) Use famous words to guide students' famous words, aphorisms, aphorisms, proverbs, aphorisms, etc. A considerable part is to persuade people to cultivate themselves. If used properly, it can become a signpost for students to pursue and improve their psychological quality. Teachers can write these famous aphorisms as slogans as school mottos or let students copy them down as mottoes, so as to refer to practice at any time.
(3) Infecting students with stories There are many stories in the world that are soft and tough, forbearing to eliminate disasters, and fighting violence with violence. Their functions and influences are subtle.
(4) Set an example. All politicians and educators attach great importance to the role of role models, and workers engaged in psychological education regard them as stimulants and cardiotonic agents. Teachers should be good at observing and understanding, take the tree with strong self-control among students as an example, so that other students can effectively hear and see, imitate their behaviors and thoughts, and at the same time, they can respond to students who take the tree as an example. The method of induction is as described above. As long as the teacher can properly induce, students' interest will be aroused and practice will be much easier.
Third, the purpose of practice is to guide students to learn to be generous and keep balance at all times. Methods of practicing self-control can be divided into direct and indirect.
(1) directly 1. Hold a debate. The content of the debate can be rational, routine and informative. The method is that teachers or class cadres ask questions for students to debate first, and those who make mistakes such as mouth-grabbing, rudeness, unreasonable troubles and satire can be deducted as appropriate, and those who don't speak will also be deducted; 2. Anger law. Teachers should pay attention to "gossiping" and "turning black and white" and see how students can correct their teachers. Teachers can measure the score of "Qi".
(2) There are many methods of indirect practice, which have been mentioned in the section of "Guidance", such as frustration training, hide-and-seek and sports, and of course there are many other methods. No matter which practice method, the teacher should explain its meaning and method, and then grade it.
Fourth, the purpose of reinforcement is to require students to maintain their developed sentiments and form habits.
In order to strengthen students' self-control, we must strive to make students learn to guide themselves, educate themselves and educate them to understand their emotional cycle. Sometimes some criminal cases can be used as negative education to educate students. Strengthening means can be through inspection, evaluation and calling on students to supervise each other. We should praise and reward those who are excellent, and patiently guide and educate those who are not good until they change.