"A poor family gives birth to a noble child" is a wise saying that people have summed up from practice. Today, with the continuous improvement of living standards, it is of great significance to review this proverb.
"A noble child comes from a poor family" is the embodiment of environmental education and the crystallization of wise education. We all know the truth: "Being determines consciousness." It is not difficult to imagine that what people in the palace think and do is absolutely different from what people in the hut think and do. Environment and living conditions are very important for the formation of one's ideology, especially for children with immature world outlook and outlook on life. What is gratifying now is that there are more and more smart parents who have a deep understanding and cognition of "poor children are born" and attach great importance to the cultivation of children's comprehensive ability. No matter how superior their family conditions are, they pay special attention to cultivating their children's independent ability, practical ability, communication ability and mental endurance, and consciously let their children suffer hardships and exercise, just like a rich man has realized.
However, there are quite a few parents who neglect the cultivation of their children's comprehensive ability. They are eager for their children to succeed, and they "overprotect" and "overproduce" their children. Little did they know that the "dragon" is not a pet, nor is it a habit. The real "dragon" was trained in the rough seas. The ancients said: "Heroes have suffered a lot since ancient times, and they have never been arrogant"; There is another saying: "Heaven will take great responsibility in the world, and it must first suffer from its mind and work hard on its heart and bones." Unfortunately, some parents have not understood these two wise sayings left by the ancient sage, and some parents take care of their children as flowers in a greenhouse and feed them like birds in a cage, and their children's free space is completely deprived. Whether it is necessary or not, they make up calligraphy for their children today and art for their children tomorrow; I have to mend the piano for my child in a few days; Whether it is necessary or not, pick up the car for the children all day; Give the child whatever he wants, whether it is necessary or not; Some children don't wear famous brands, some children don't eat them fluently, and children are spoiled as "little emperors" and "little princesses". At home, this is the biggest and supreme. Even the ethics is reversed, and the son becomes "father" and the father becomes "son"; Some parents also regard test scores as the only criterion for their children to become "dragons" and "phoenixes". As everyone knows, high scores and low energy are fools! Because of the parents' overindulgence, children live a carefree life with clothes to reach out and food to make ends meet. There is no pressure to survive, and they don't know the hardships of life and where the wealth comes from. In this way, it is very easy to form a bad habit of being lazy, greedy, selfish, vain and greedy, and not recognizing family ties but only recognizing money. Once a character is formed, it will destroy the future and destiny of children's life. If children are brought up to this level, it can't be said that it is the ignorance of parents, and it can't be said that it is the sorrow and sin of parents. Examples of "spoiling a child like killing a child" abound, from the children of the Eight Banners in the Qing Dynasty to the sons of today's giants. If you think about it carefully, you can't help but wake up.
why do you say that there are more expensive children in poor families? A simple understanding is that children from poor families, as soon as they come to this world, are faced with pressure and lack, not only the lack of material, but also the dignity in the eyes of others. A decent and rich life is their greatest wish. Surpassing poverty and living a decent life is the driving force for their struggle. This kind of motivation can produce great tension, which will make people burst into amazing energy in the face of difficulties, challenges and opportunities. Overcome difficulties and achieve success with a positive attitude and tenacious endurance.
China's richest man, Mr. Li Ka-shing, was born in a humble family. He didn't study for a few days. When he was a child, he poured tea for customers in a bar, which is now known as a tea teacher. Later, he went to his uncle and became a wage earner. The vicissitudes of the world and the hardships of life have created a pair of business acumen for him. When opportunities and challenges come, the wisdom and courage given to him by the poor show incisively and vividly, and he becomes a business elite with both morality and wealth.
it doesn't mean that the rich can't produce talents. A rich family can also produce more talents. Bill Gates, the richest man in the world, is a good example. Bill Gates was born in a rich family, and his parents attach great importance to the cultivation of children's comprehensive ability. When he was a child, he was never given any superior conditions, and he was often asked to do some hard work. After he went to college, his parents asked him to work part-time and work to maintain his study and life during college. As far as Bill Gates' family conditions are concerned, it is not a problem for hundreds of college students. But why let him work-study, self-reliance? It is because his parents want to make Bill Gates an adult. It is said that this kind of education is almost the same in every family in western developed countries, and it is also emerging in economically developed areas in China. I heard that there is a student from a rich family in Beijing. His school is six or seven kilometers away from home. Since he was in the first grade of junior high school, he has been walking to school every day, and his academic performance is very good. He was rated as a three-good student every year and was admitted to Tsinghua University last year.
it can be seen that the fundamental problem of "poor families produce noble children" and "rich families produce talented people" lies in the concept and effective methods of educating children. At present, there are two popular sayings in society. One is, "No matter how poor you are, you can't have poor children", and the other is, "No matter how rich you are, you can't have rich children". The former expresses parents' simple love for their children, while the latter expresses parents' rational love for their children. "No matter how rich you are, you can't make a rich child", which is a wise man's brilliant opinion. Not all parents can understand this sentence, and some understand it, but they may not be able to do it. Whether or not children can be truly trained is very important for parents' cultivation, quality and ideas and methods of educating children.
There is a sketch that says well: "If you want to destroy a person, give him a crutch, and then let him rely on it slowly. After a few months and years, he can't walk without crutches. " This is such a profound and vivid metaphor. Do our parents really want to give their children a crutch?
The ancients said, "Being rebellious and trapped in poverty is a furnace hammer to exercise heroes. Those who can be exercised by it will benefit physically and mentally; Those who are not exercised by it will lose both body and mind. " Another cloud said, "Without freezing cold, how can plum blossoms smell fragrant?" Poor inherit the wind, familiar, right? Cooked wrong? Is it stupid? Is it wisdom? Let's explore and understand in practice!