Having never experienced this world, I think people will always shoulder their responsibilities. When Ming Lan was a child, she trusted her father. When she is treated unfairly, she thinks that her father will finally make a decision for her little mother, and she will win her father's praise and live a decent life.
And after a series of things, from Fluttershy was framed to Xiao Niang died in childbirth, after a series of things, she realized that the heart is not so simple, and sometimes your closest person may not be able to count on it. On the boat to Bianjing, sitting in the cold wind and crying, maybe at that time, she understood that there was no one in the world to rely on and Wan Li had nowhere to go home. At that time, she flinched at the world, and perhaps at that time, she decided not to expect love from others. Living well is the expectation of the biological mother who loves her the most, and the loving grandmother may just be a blessing from heaven.
Since she was a child, she has been used to human feelings and intrigues. Rather than being open-minded and transparent, her expectations of human nature have dropped to a very low level. Among all the people, the fourth sister Moran has the favor of her father, and the fifth sister Rulan has the favor of her eldest sister. Although Ming Lan was brought up under her grandmother's knee, she was always careful, obedient and sensible, and did not let her elderly grandmother worry and be embarrassed. We think she is bitter, grandma who loves her thinks she is bitter, Gu who knows her thinks she is bitter, and even Momo, a close-fitting woman around her, thinks she is bitter. However, I don't think Ming Lan is suffering. Maybe she felt bitter when she was a child, but when everyone around her was calculating, she was also growing, or adapting. People are unpredictable. All kinds of care today, maybe when you turn around, sewage spills on you, which makes you hard to argue. She has no ability to change these, but she doesn't want to be the kind of person she hates. The only way left is to adapt to and accept this world of intrigue. So the deeper she knows about human nature, the less confident she is.
Being polite and close today does not mean that you will not be slandered and framed tomorrow. Many times, human feelings are a burden, but what if human feelings are just a means? What if it's just being polite? You can ask me to be polite and cautious, but how can you ask me to be sincere? Without expectation, there is no disappointment. Perhaps it can be said that in order not to despair, she killed expectations. It is really "unworthy on earth". So when Gu Er was nice to her later, at first she just regarded it as a novelty between newlyweds, so that she wouldn't be too serious and stay awake. Later, Gu Er was a little nicer to her, and she said with anxiety and some trepidation, "He doesn't need to be so nice to me".
In the environment where she grew up, everyone was selfish. The more understanding, the more reasonable the surface, and the more desolate the heart.
Ming Lan is Ming Lan instead of Moran because of her grandmother's education and because she has her own principles. Sheng Changbai, the second brother, once commented on Ming Lan, "Although she is gentle and humble on weekdays, she is the most filial, but once she makes up her mind, she will never waver easily." . Ming Lan once told Gu Er that only two people can keep her together for life. One is her little mother, the other is her grandmother, and the third is Gu. Isn't it heavy enough? These are her principles, as long as they don't hurt my vital people, what is a little grievance? Those who love me are bought with their lives, and those who don't love me, even if they are blood relatives, why should they take it to heart? It is these people who are willing to repay kindness that give Ming Lan the strongest backing in this world. When a person understands what is most important to him, it is when his world begins to expand.
Holding a sword to save Zhang Yi's life is because Zhang's experience at this time is so similar to that of Xiao Niang. She risked her life to save Zhang's life, but she hated that she couldn't save Xiao Niang, but she got Zhang's unexpected friendship. She forced her father to punish the murderer around the house because her grandmother was the closest person in the world. She thought that no one would seek justice for her grandmother except herself, so she exhausted all means. In the end, when she was about to bear it, she didn't think of her second brother's patriotism and the support of Gu standing behind her. At the later full moon banquet, although Gu lost his title and was deeply imprisoned, he lost his life. However, my best friend, cousin Zhang, cousin Yang and Xiao treated her as usual. I think Ming Lan was happy at that time, and her desolate heart began to warm.
I think only Gu can warm the heart. Trying to care for someone who has a similar experience with himself is actually saving and comforting himself. Gu Er's life experience is worse than Ming Lan's. He also lost his mother and father in his early years. When I grew up, I thought I was strong enough, and I was chilling by my stepmother and Zhu Manniang, a pillow woman. It was also desolate, but at that time, the world of men was far greater than that of women. He has Sheng Changbai, who is better than his own brother, and a group of Cao Gang brothers such as Stone, and later made friends with a group of brothers in Yuzhou. There are tens of thousands of people in Qian Qian, so there is no need to be confined to the mud pond of Houfu. So he knows her, he is kind to her, so he is also redeeming himself. What Gu Er wants to do is to warm her sad heart as before, because she is still alive, and she will live as much as possible, really. So Gu Er was so happy when he said "We are husband and wife" and "I may have caused you trouble" in Ming Lan.
When Zhu Manniang asked to share a room for one night, Gu was very angry, because he knew her, so he was not so angry as pity. Because such a orchid never expects a person to belong to himself, to belong to himself. Therefore, Gu tried to stand behind him, but he never retreated, whether in his own home or in Sheng's home, whether in Aunt Kang's home, whether in Sheng's home or in Zhang's family. He wanted Ming Lan to sincerely believe that he always appeared on the cover again and again. He did it. Two desolate hearts lean together to keep warm and even warm more people.
We always want to be mature, but how many ups and downs does a person have to go through to mature. Slowly, we learned to take part in accidental amusement, learn to be versatile, and learn to be sophisticated. Others say that you are mature, but at this time, you will find that we are more afraid that someone is really good to ourselves than being stabbed in the back by an acquaintance. Because we are afraid that we can't repay this sincerity, and that we are used to calculating this sincerity. So the road of life is getting more and more lonely.
The reality is not black and white, everyone has his own position, and there is nothing wrong with standing on the other side's side. There will be timid sincerity hidden under the mask of hypocrisy. We always want to see through people's hearts and everything, and then what? Desolate? Maybe everyone is complete at birth, but in the process of growing up, it is a process of constant loss and constant search. We live a life full of holes and piece together a complete self.
But can you see clearly and be doomed to desolation? Everyone has a most unshakable existence in his heart, perhaps a person or a thing. It is a road sign, let us find ourselves, and let you not forget your initial heart. It is also a fire that warms your heart and keeps you warm. Maybe it is family, maybe it is friendship, maybe it is love. Take this as the backing and embrace the goodwill of the world. I hope you can see clearly and still love the world after seeing all the human feelings.
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