That’s the truth. Which parent doesn't want their children to make a good career, even if they don't expect to repay themselves, at least they will be happy and proud to see them living a good life, which of course will give them more confidence.

Sometimes parents do not expect their children to succeed, and their confidence turns into sighs.

There is a girl from a relative. She has been smart since she was a child. In terms of academic performance, she is the so-called child of other people. She has always been the envy of her parents. The girl has lived up to expectations. She graduated from a key university and then studied abroad. At first, my parents were very happy to work, but gradually they felt uncomfortable. The girl found a foreign boyfriend, and at first she even knew how to call home. Later, let alone the New Year, she rarely greeted her parents on their birthdays, and her parents no longer greeted her. I was as elated as before, watching the children of other relatives surrounding my parents during the New Year and festivals, enjoying the whole family, and lamenting that I might as well let my children be ordinary people.

I also met a girl who worked hard outside for several years after graduating from college. When her job started to pick up, her mother became ill and her father was also in poor health. As an only child, she resolutely quit her job and returned to her hometown to study. While taking care of his parents, he was admitted as a civil servant in his hometown county two years later.

Parents should realize that their children are not tools for comparison and showing off. As long as they do their best to give their children a good life and education, so that they can grow up healthily and behave upright, this is the greatest future of their children and it is also a good example for them. The best reward for parents.

I think this is human nature, especially in our country. This is almost universal knowledge and is understandable. But I want to boldly risk the disapproval of the world and advise all parents to get out of misunderstandings. I have four reminders:

First, the potential of children does not mean that the parents themselves have potential. In this world, everyone is an independent individual, and no one can replace anyone else, not even parents and children. Parents raise their children and educate them to become talents. This is their duty. It is normal for parents to be happy when their children have made great achievements. However, this gave me confidence. Let me ask, what kind of confidence is it? Is it because if your children have a promising future, they will have financial security and be able to "raise children for old age"? Is it because the children have the confidence to show off in front of their relatives and friends when they have made great achievements?

Second, parents’ confidence should not only be limited to their children’s potential, but should not regard their children’s potential as the main reason for their confidence. In daily life, there is a saying that everyone is familiar with: "The first half of your life is like an adult, and the second half of your life is like a child." Every time I hear it, I always feel a sense of sadness in my heart! It's scary to think about it. Isn’t this the contemporary version of the feudal society’s concepts of “mother is valued more than her son” and “husband is valued and wife is honored”? What is puzzling is that since parents can raise promising children, why are they so hopeless that they have the audacity to bet solely on whether their children will be successful?

Third, there is no contradiction between having promising children and having promising parents. The two can go hand in hand. "If children have a future, parents will have confidence." This sentence seems to have a subtext: In order for their children to have a future, parents spend all their energy, financial resources, and material resources on their children, so they don't care about "progress." I can only place my hope on my children. This is obviously an excuse! The weight is unbearable for the children! Just think about it, it's okay if your children are promising, but if your children are not promising, should you let them bear the blame for the rest of their lives? A lifetime of self-condemnation? !

Fourth, parents who are promising can inspire their children to be promising, so that they can be more confident. The family is a child's first classroom, and parents are their children's first teachers. As the saying goes, it's better to show off than to shout until you break your voice. The power of role models is infinite. For their children, the example of parents is like "sneaking into the night with the wind, moisturizing things silently." This kind of "teaching by example" that is immersed in the ears is far better than "instruction by words." Being a parent who is promising, pursuing, state-of-the-art, and well-organized can be an inexhaustible motivation for your children to strive forward. Only in this way can parents not only have confidence in front of relatives and friends, but also have confidence in front of their children!

The above topic is too heavy. Let’s tell a joke: One day, a father used watts to educate his children, intending to encourage them to study diligently. The child asked back: "Dad, why didn't Watt's father invent the steam engine?" Faced with Wuji's childish words, I couldn't laugh.

I hope that parents all over the world will not lose themselves just for the sake of "their children's future". Confidence should come from the pursuit of realizing one's own life value. This is the greatest confidence for parents!

I totally agree with this! I was admitted as a civil servant, and I should be doing well in our village, so my parents are now proud.

1. My parents were worried about my job before graduation

Before graduation, my parents were very worried that I would not have a decent, stable job. So when I was in college, my dad would often go to my neighbor's aunt's house, and would often give him mutton, pork, beef, etc. during the holidays, just so that after I graduated, my aunt would I can be arranged to work in a state-owned enterprise, which will make me money and face.

Every time during the holidays, when I go to my neighbor’s aunt’s house with my dad, my parents always accompany me with smiling faces. At this time, I actually have mixed feelings in my heart, and I also I want to bring glory to my parents, and I don’t want my parents to greet others with such smiles. It was from this moment on that I vowed that I would be admitted to the civil service examination. Only in this way could I become a serf and sing.

2. The arduous road to the civil service examination

My journey to the civil service examination was really sad. After graduation, I stayed at home for three years because I did not seize the opportunity. During these three years, I felt confused, hesitant and helpless inside, and I also felt low self-esteem. Every time I meet my neighbor's aunt, I feel that my family's face is very lackluster.

But hard work pays off. During this year, I worked hard to review. I spent 20,000 to 30,000 yuan to apply for a tutoring class, and finally passed the written test and successfully received the interview. I also spent tens of thousands of yuan to apply for an interview tutoring class. I finally broke through in the interview, successfully passed the physical examination and political examination, and finally became a a civil servant.

3. The parents’ faces are very bright.

After I was admitted to the civil service, my parents’ faces became brighter. When I met my neighbor's aunt, my parents straightened their waists. They no longer greeted her with a smile like before, but more like a smile between equals.

Everyone in the village knew that I had passed the civil service examination and congratulated me, but I did not say that I had spent tens of thousands of yuan to enroll in tutoring classes.

When I told my parents that I was admitted to the civil service, my dad ate the dishes cooked by my mother alone that night and drank six ounces of white wine. He was very happy. And for a week in a row, I sang songs and drank wine every night.

4. My partner is also in the system

When I was unemployed at home, I met the other half of my life. My partner did not dislike me for not having a job. She always thought that I had potential. I didn't want to share my stock, so I decided to marry me.

The reason why I was able to pass the civil service exam was because my wife supported me.

Now that my wife and I are working within the system, my parents’ faces are brighter and their backs are straighter when walking on the road. Parents are very, very happy when their children are successful.

This sentence is so true.

In rural families, children have a promising future, parents don’t have to worry too much about marriage, and they are also very popular in front of outsiders.

The most important things in life are to make progress when you are young, and to educate your children well, especially supervising their learning. We have a man here named Lao Guo, who is often looked down upon by his relatives because his family is poor. Lao Guo's wife does not leave her parents' home all year round because she feels aggrieved for several days when she comes back once. Her brothers and sister-in-law look down on her as a sister. His younger brother works as a teacher in a middle school in our township (he became a full-time teacher), and his nephew studies in his school. In the third year of junior high school, every time his nephew talked to him, he would ignore him, let alone ask his nephew to come home for a meal.

However, his nephew’s academic performance was very good. At that time, the junior high school had high-quality students who could be recommended to high school. His nephew was recommended to a key high school and his grades in high school were also very good. In addition, the family conditions were relatively poor. Well, the principal of the high school waived his tuition for three years. He lived up to expectations. He was admitted to Tsinghua University with excellent results in the college entrance examination and now works in a government department in Beijing. Since then, his younger brother, who is a teacher, often visits his sister at Lao Guo's house, and the relationship between relatives has become warmer.

In a person's life, it is more important than anything else for their children to have a good future, and all the wealth will eventually be spent. If the children are capable, the parents will not only have face, but they will also be able to enjoy a few years of happiness when they are old.

I like to hear this. It is really the case. Let me give you an example:

The old Wu family in our village is a couple with one son. Because the old Wu couple came to our village later, they only had eight acres of land (each family in our village has dozens or hundreds of acres of land, all of which are mechanized). Due to the lack of land, life was very difficult. They worked part-time and did side jobs everywhere. , the family is very poor and is often looked down upon by the villagers. Especially when it comes to weddings and funerals, the least amount of gifts are given. I remember one time when everyone else was paying 200 yuan or 100 yuan, Lao Wu only paid 30 yuan, which was very embarrassing.

Lao Wu has only one son, who studies very well and was finally admitted to Xi'an Jiaotong University. My family had no money and could not afford to go to school. The mayor provided 4,000 yuan, and charity organizations and the village committee provided a lot of money. Unexpectedly, this child graduated from college and completed a graduate degree through work-study. After graduation, he was recruited by a large company with an annual salary of 500,000 yuan. This time, Lao Wu turned around, built a new house, bought a motorcycle, and spoke louder and more confidently. From then on, no one looked down on him anymore.

The children are promising and the parents are confident. This is absolutely true and logical. The family around me can explain the meaning of this sentence.

In this family, parents *** have three boys and one girl. While their children were continuing to study, their parents were worried about the family's livelihood. Besides, this family is an out-and-out farmer, and the child’s parents are honest and do their jobs. In addition to working year after year, they have no means of going out to make money in their spare time. The family of six relies solely on a few acres of land and the farming of their parents.

At that time, students had to pay tuition and miscellaneous fees to the school. Four brothers and sisters went to school at the same time. The parents had to borrow some money from relatives and neighbors to make up for the tuition fees for their four children. Semester tuition and fees. I have borrowed them many times, and as soon as these parents appear in the village, people are afraid to see them. Either close the door or ignore them. Even his relatives gradually ignored his family.

Rural people like to organize banquets. In the banquet hall, people were unwilling to share a banquet with this family for fear of bringing poverty to themselves; even people who kept bookkeeping treated his family with a different attitude, because they thought his family had too few members. When a person lives to this level, he really cannot hold his head high in the eyes of everyone, and has no confidence in life.

However, his children are very successful. After more than ten years of hard work, except for his second son who failed in the exam, his first child successively passed the university entrance examination. So far

I have been working in various units. My two sons work in the local procuratorate, and my youngest daughter is a teacher in a middle school in a county.

Man is such a strange animal. People who originally looked down upon this family took the initiative to come and get close to him; relatives and friends also came from all over to recognize their relatives. After being neglected for more than ten years, this house suddenly became crowded with people. Now that their children are promising, their parents have regained the dignity they had lost for many years and feel confident. From then on, no matter where the parents went, people would come up to chat with them.

If their children are promising, their parents will be confident? This is [undoubted].

Whether children can become talents is the result of personal efforts and perseverance. All parents can do is to help their children grow and become talents.

Parents are "indispensable" for the success of their children, and their efforts are not less at all. Starting from the enlightenment education, leading by example from elementary school to university, it can be regarded as a heartbreaking thing. What kind of education does not require parents to arrange everything for them and let their children concentrate on their studies? It is no exaggeration to say that behind every successful person, there will be A great parent.

This is the environment that parents create for their children to achieve success, and the rest is the result of their children’s own hard work and progress (success).

Talented people emerge from generation to generation, and each generation becomes stronger than the last. This is everyone’s wish. Who doesn’t want their children to get ahead and achieve success? When this day comes, it's time for parents to raise their heads and be confident and prominent in front of others!

This is also a hot topic among people before and after tea. Who, who, who? Whose child is admitted to college and finds a good job after graduation. The parents are respectable in front of their parents and the parents teach their children well. This is by no means flattery, but a sincere praise.

That’s the way it is!

There is an old saying in China that in the first thirty years, you should respect your father and your son, and in the next thirty years, you should respect your son and your father.

In reality, such examples are common. I have been engaged in commercial retail for 20 years, and I have received all kinds of people. On this topic, I think I have the right to speak.

An old local leader of ours had the highest position of deputy secretary of the county party committee. When he was on stage, he was considered a powerful figure in this small place like ours, and he was definitely a figure. When I came into contact with him, I already knew that his children and grandchildren were not up to par. He was already in his early 80s at the time. With his stumbling steps and dull eyes, mixed in among the old people, you can't even imagine his former glory.

There is also an old man in his seventies who used to be a contractor. In the 1980s, assets had reached several million. In our small county, if not number one, it is definitely at the top of the Forbes list. But the son failed to live up to expectations and the son-in-law took drugs. Like any ordinary old man, this former rich man would crowd in front of the supermarket at six or seven o'clock, waiting for special prices on eggs and rice.

One of my uncle’s neighbors is an ordinary employee of the township grain depot. But after giving birth to a good son, he was taken away by the Central Security Bureau after graduating from Luoyang Foreign Languages ??College of the People's Liberation Army. When I met this old man a few years ago, his son was already a senior colonel. At that time, I was serving as the chief guard of a senior leader. When the old man's leader, the grain director, met him on the street, he ran over to him with a smile, shook his hand and said hello.

There is also an old man who was an employee of our local commercial bank before retiring. Talking to him, I found that he was extremely disdainful of many people of his age, and had a mantra of "Don't compare money with me, if you are capable, be better than your son." After asking about it, I found out that his son studied in Germany after graduating from the University of Science and Technology of China and received a doctorate... He is indeed proud of it!

Society is so realistic, people are so snobbish, this is a fact.

It is the true meaning of life that children have potential and parents have confidence.

People hope that their children will become successful, no longer dependent on their parents, can live independently, achieve success, and be happy throughout their lives. In this way, parents no longer have to worry about everything for their children, they can live their every day without any worries, enjoy their own happy life every day, and live happily until the end of their lives.

Therefore, having children who are promising and parents who are confident is a wise saying for a happy life and the secret of a long life.

This is a favorite question, and it is also a question of a person's destiny. They are all different, so why are some children promising and some children unable to get what they want? People's destiny is destined. It depends on whether their children can learn and think about the meaning of life as required. Assuming that they can study and live according to their parents' instructions, then this child who was personally raised by his parents may have Have a wonderful tomorrow.

Nowadays, people pay attention to scientific feeding. When they grow up in this way, they can cooperate with the teacher's education. However, it also adds a lot of unnecessary burdens to the parents. Parents themselves feel very tired when they go to work, and they have to find time to tutor their children's studies. However, we just want to say that we didn’t pay so much attention at that time, so you still learned how to read. It is also rare to work in Guiyang. You must not relax and treat work and life with the enterprising spirit of the past. , every step must be solid and heavy... Just pretend that mom and dad are not around, but it's up to you at this time!