The famous writer Tolstoy wrote this famous saying in Anna karenin: All happy families are similar, and each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. Although every man and woman choose to get married with the expectation of a happy family, the cruel reality is that the marriage mode of "bad life and inseparable" is the normal state.

Especially when the husband and wife gradually forget their love and initial heart and begin to feel unhappy about their marriage life, women can always find thousands of reasons for being unhappy for this marriage, but ignore their passion. This kind of marital status is quite common in our life. Many women always think that they are trying to manage their marriage, while men go home every day and go their own way, which can't meet their own requirements for marriage.

This makes women feel very tired, even feel that their marriage is wrong from the beginning, and then pass on all the reasons for the failure of marriage to men.

We often say that both husband and wife are responsible for problems in marriage. There is no difference between a man's responsibility and a woman's responsibility, and there is no distinction between who is right and who is wrong. Women feel that they should take care of work, children and the elderly.

In fact, the requirements of society for men have never been lower than those of women.

In the face of a strong boss, men must be patient;

In the face of difficult customers, men must obey;

In the face of cunning colleagues, men can only come clean;

In the face of cruel social competition, men have no reason to back down ... they work for more than ten hours every day, and they want to quit every time they get off work, but they still return to work on time every morning. I get drunk at every social activity, and I secretly swear that I can't drink any more, but every time a customer raises a glass, he immediately raises it ... There are no easy words in the world of grown men.

Of course, this is not an excuse for men or women. Real life is not easy, and it is meaningless to blame anyone.