So how do you feel and respond? Are you complaining about coming all the way for nothing and leaving in frustration? Or do you want to sum up your experience and do research before the next action? Or enthusiastically publicize the benefits of wearing shoes, so that residents on the island like and wear shoes?
It is not difficult to imagine that salespeople who make different reactions will get different incomes and growth.
The same is true of reincarnation. Students with similar family backgrounds have grown up, and the gap between them is getting bigger and bigger. So what prompted us to make different choices?
Professor Ryan Godtfredsen, who teaches leadership at California State University, tells us that we usually don't realize that mentality is affecting our behavior and life. If a person's mentality is not positive enough and simply changes his behavior habits, then even if he works very hard, it is difficult to achieve real growth. The fundamental reason lies in whether we use a fixed mentality or a growing mentality.
Ability is not innate.
With a fixed mentality, people think that their abilities, talents and intelligence are eternal and others will not change.
Therefore, people with fixed mentality tend to be very concerned about their perfect image in front of others. When faced with difficulties or failures, they will think that they have no certain talent, and even think that they are losers. In order to avoid this kind of pain, they often choose to avoid risks and challenges and give up easily when encountering difficulties.
With a growing mentality, people believe that their abilities and performances can be improved through hard work, so they will not be obsessed with keeping their perfect image. The seemingly small difference between the two mentalities has a far-reaching impact on a person's growth and development. People with growth mentality often attach great importance to learning and growth. Therefore, instead of avoiding challenges everywhere, they will regard it as an opportunity to promote their progress. When encountering difficulties or even failures, they will not give up easily, but also have the strength to learn from them and let themselves grow.
Meet the challenge and make unremitting efforts
Michael Jordan once said, "I made more than 9,000 shooting mistakes in my career and lost nearly 300 games. I missed a goal that I thought I could join the team and win 26 times. I have failed again and again in my life, which is why I can succeed. "
Jordan doesn't deny himself because of shooting mistakes or losing games. On the contrary, he thinks that every mistake is an opportunity to improve himself. He will learn from it so as to avoid similar mistakes in future competitions. Obviously, Jordan is a person with a growth mentality, which is also the key and fundamental driving force for his success.
Then why do some people have a growing mentality, while others have a fixed mentality?
This is because we have received different education since childhood.
When we grow up, if we always hear comments from parents and teachers about whether we are smart or not, we are more likely to form a fixed mentality. If parents and teachers always emphasize the importance of efforts and methods, we are more likely to form a growing mentality.
In addition, if we grow up in an environment that pays too much attention to grades and scores, we will also develop a fixed mentality, because such an environment makes us more accustomed to linking mistakes with failures and will not regard mistakes as opportunities for growth.