People in China have the habit of nostalgia and always admire the so-called wisdom of the ancients. In fact, many aphorisms of our ancestors are harmful. If nothing else, I privately think that a good horse will suffer a lot of people. Think about our ancestors at that time. They were sparsely populated and did not have modern equipment today, which did little damage to nature. At first glance, the grass is green, the river is rippling, birds are singing, and the breeze is blowing, which is a peaceful realm. If a horse always turns back to the grass at this time, it is not a good horse, at least it is an unwise horse. But in modern times, there is almost no grass on the bare grassland, and the desert is in front. If a horse doesn't eat grass again, can you call it a good horse? From this perspective, good horses will also return to the grassland. However, many people in our reality are always ashamed of life and suffering, bound by the fallacy of "a good horse never returns to the grass" and make many mistakes in the workplace and marriage. In the workplace, we should be smart and happy, which is understandable, but it is a bit silly to do the same thing in marriage. Both the theory of Fortress Besieged and the theory of Shoes show that marriage is an unstable contract between men and women. Every time a man or woman is tired of staying in a besieged city, or feels that shoes don't fit, marriage will break up. When you look for your happiness again with confidence, you suddenly find that the outside world is not as wonderful as you think, and the newly bought shoes are not suitable for your feet. Happiness is far away from you. By this time, although you have begun to miss the past time in the besieged city and think that the shoes you used to wear are still good, you still have the mentality that a good horse won't go back to the grass and don't want to relive the old dreams. If you come again, you will really become a respectable fool, and no one will think you are a good horse. Although the divorce rate is rising now, I don't think many couples really break up. Many of them want to change because they have been in the besieged city for a long time; Some just occasionally put a piece of sand in the shoes, which is a bit awkward, and they complain that the shoes are not suitable; Some of them can't stand the temptation of one-night stand, and when they slip, they create spouses to vomit; Some of them turned against each other for reasons between their parents or relatives; Some divorced because of some trivial things, in order to follow the fashion. None of the above should constitute a reason for the divorce of husband and wife, but they may have separated on impulse. When they come to their senses, they really want to go back to the past and find the warmth of the past, so they still have to eat. I read a novella about Marvin War, but the author has forgotten it. Marvin, the hero of the novel, divorced because his wife gave him a green hat, so his wife married her lover. After the divorce, Marvin found many women, but none of them was suitable. The ex-wife has lost interest in her lover, but the more she looks at Marvin, the more he looks like a man. Under such circumstances, Marvin and his ex-wife are secretly together like lovers. Without the passion of the past, they can't live without each other. In the end, both of them felt very tired and walked together naturally. Judging from the story of Marvin and his wife, Back to the Grass is not bad. The story of the novel can't be completely believed, but there are many such things in reality. My colleague Lao Zhang got married twice after the divorce, but it didn't take long. In the end, he always thought his ex-wife was nice. Coupled with the children, he and his ex-wife came together after four years of divorce. He lived a happy life and really tasted the sweetness of returning to grass. People live a lifetime, and birth, illness and death should be the top priority. Life and death are not up to you, but marriage is up to you. Be cautious about marriage, whether it is marriage or divorce. Since I chose to be with my spouse, it is not fate. It is not easy to cross the boat in a thousand years, and it is even harder for two people to get together. First of all, we should cherish feelings and marriage, and don't divorce easily unless we have to. Especially don't be influenced by other people's comments and secular views on your feelings and marriage. If the marriage breaks up due to impulse or external reasons, you should think more about your own situation; Think about whether you are really a good horse; Think about whether there is grass ahead. If all this can't be realized, and the person who has been with you for many years and expects you to return to the oasis is still waiting for you, then is it necessary for you to pretend to be a good horse and never look back? Advise those who come out of the besieged city, or feel that their shoes are not suitable and want to change them. When you think the old besieged city is warm and the shoes you used to wear are not bad, go back to the past bravely. You know, a good horse will eat grass again.