This sentence is actually a mixture of two sentences.
The complete first half of the sentence is "If you are poor, you will not visit your relatives; if you are rich, you will not visit your neighbors." The original saying is "A poor person will not visit relatives and a rich person will not visit neighbors", because "if a poor person visits relatives, it is easy to be looked down upon; if a rich person visits neighbors, it is easy to falsely accuse a criminal." When you are poor, you will not even visit relatives (that is, estranged ones) (meaning), when people are in poverty, they should not even think of going to relatives’ homes to get any benefits, as they are likely to be looked down upon! When you are rich, you don’t even dare to visit your neighbors for fear of being implicated (which means indifference)! From "Zengguang Xianwen": "When you are poor in the busy city, no one asks you, but when you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives; if you are rich, you can speak the truth without money. If you don't believe it, just look at the wine glasses at the table and advise the rich first, but if you are poor, you should not visit relatives." , The rich don't visit their neighbors, they put a begging stick in front of their door, and relatives and friends don't come to the door. In this world, gold is needed to make friends. Even if there is not much gold, the friendship will not be deep. In the end, there will be many friends with money and wine. , It’s hard to see one person in a hurry. The winner is the king and the loser is the enemy. Only clothes and clothes are important.” These are true portrayals of interpersonal relationships in a money-based society. Describes the hot and cold world, many people dislike the poor and love the rich!
The second half of the sentence "If you don't return home if you are rich," the original saying is actually "If you don't return home if you are rich," it comes from Xiang Yu. After the overlord Xiang Yu captured Xianyang, some people persuaded him to make the capital. However, because he missed his hometown, Xiang Yu was eager to return eastward. He said: "If wealth and honor do not return to their hometown, they will travel at night like fine clothes. Who would have known!" It's like walking in the dark night wearing brocade clothes! In fact, Xiang Yu felt that he had achieved success and was eager to return to his hometown in glory. He wanted to return to his hometown to show off. It could also be said that he was dazzled by victory.
The two sentences are connected together to highlight the first half of the sentence, and then make an extension. It means that if a person is poor, he should not visit relatives. He will be looked down upon and looked down upon. The relatives will think that they are just here to borrow money to get married. Looking for trouble; the corresponding meaning of "Don't return home when you are rich" is exactly the same as the first half of the sentence. It means don't go back to your hometown if you are rich, for fear that those poor relatives will borrow money and cause trouble.
There is no difference between the poor and the rich, but there are differences in habits, mentality, behavior, goals, courage, ways of doing things, etc. between the poor and the rich, resulting in the gap between the rich and the poor. The reasons why the poor are unwilling to visit relatives are as follows:
1. The reason why the poor are poor is because they do not have great ideas and they always think that I am just poor. This is the way it is and cannot be changed. Narrow thinking, not open-minded, thinking about problems, not creative. Rich people think differently. I want to be rich, I want to find ways to make money, and I want to be a person that people admire. In thinking, he is extremely open-minded, unrestrained, unconstrained and feasible.
2. The behavior habits of the poor and the rich are different. The poor usually watch TV, play games and waste time in their spare time. Rich people play with contracts and plans.
3. The poor are always timid, restrained and put off things when they see them. The rich are always bold and take on things when they arise, showing responsibility and responsibility.
4. The poor are always afraid of being with people who are stronger than themselves and consider themselves inferior. The rich always look for people who are stronger than themselves to learn and communicate and explore greater business opportunities and development paths.
In fact, let’s understand it from another perspective: When you are poor, you should work hard and manage yourself well, and it is not suitable for walking around. Moreover, going to relatives will unknowingly bring pressure to them. Even if some relatives are trying their best to help, it will also bring pressure to themselves. So it is better to be quiet. The same is true when you are rich. When you are rich, your relatives will inevitably want you to share or help with some difficulties, or some relatives may feel the pressure of inferiority and feel bad when they see you. Therefore, in order to avoid distinction, it is best to visit people on equal terms, or not to reveal whether they are rich or poor.
In short, the reason why the poor are poor must fundamentally change their perspective. Visiting relatives is not a bad thing, and rich people can also help!
I saw this question accidentally. Oh my, my brain must have a seizure!
How do you understand this sentence: "If you are poor, you will not visit relatives; if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown."
Literal meaning: If your family is poor, don’t go to visit relatives. If your family is rich, don’t go back to your hometown. This seems very strange!
Since I am poor, I should go to more relatives. If I don’t have money and no more relatives, how can I get along these days? I'm rich, and the first thing I think of is to go back to my hometown and show off. Otherwise, what's the difference between walking in brocade and night?
This is what I originally thought it meant, but I soon discovered that I was wrong to think this way. Why? Please read below!
This sentence actually comes from the Ming Dynasty's children's enlightenment book "Zengguang Xianwen": "The poor live in the busy city and no one cares about them, the rich live in the mountains and have distant relatives."
I feel that this book is a bit too cruel and realistic, and is not suitable for children to read. The core idea it mainly expresses is the supremacy of money, which is in line with the psychology of many people nowadays. When people grow up, , after experiencing the harshness of the world, it is necessary to read it.
He not only criticized this kind of family and neighborly friendship, but also said that friendship is just a lie, "There are wine, meat and many brothers, and you will never see one in a pinch"; and social status is determined by money, "If you don't believe it, just look at it. When drinking wine at a banquet, serve the rich first." Law and justice are controlled by money. "The yamen is open with eight characters. If you have reason, don't come in without money." Human nature is distorted by interests. "There are straight trees in the mountains, but there are no straight people in the world." Sophistication It leads to unpredictability in people's minds, "It is difficult to paint the bones of a tiger, and it is difficult to know the face of a person but not the heart"; it is difficult to distinguish between good and evil in people's words, "When you go into the mountains, you are not afraid of tigers that hurt people, but you are afraid of the double-faced sword of human beings." Of course, there are many other famous sayings in it, such as "If the water is clear, there will be no fish", "Don't slap someone in the face", etc.
Now it seems very reasonable, and even seems to be a wise saying to many people. , but I feel that if everyone in society learns what is written in this book, does what is written in the book, and publicizes it, it will make the phenomenon of criticism even more serious! Although we are all doing this ourselves...
Digressing from the topic, let's come back to "If you are poor, you will not visit your relatives; if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown." What it may mean is that your family is poor and very unhappy. To be well-liked by others, if you go to visit relatives, your relatives will ignore you or even dislike you very much. For the sake of face, it is better not to go to visit relatives, otherwise your self-esteem will be hurt.
As for being rich and not returning to my hometown, it reminds me of a few things that happened when I was a child. At that time, the village was relatively poor. My family contracted a fish pond. Two years later, we did make a little money. We usually drank and ate. Maybe it’s also showing a bit of superiority! Unexpectedly, I went to the fish pond one day and found that all the fish were dead. After a test, it was found that they had been poisoned by someone, and it was still highly toxic dichlorvos.
Sometimes when a wealthy family goes back to their hometown, many people come to borrow money. If they don’t lend it, they throw bricks into your yard at night! Think about the case of Brother Dayi. Just because he became famous, many people came to borrow money. In the end, not only could he not get back the money he borrowed, but his reputation in the village was also ruined! Therefore, when you are rich, don’t go back to your hometown, unless you are very powerful, like Liu Qiangdong, and send money door to door. Maybe someone will be angry with him because the population should be divided more or less!
This is a bad phenomenon in society, and because once I was bitten by a snake, I was afraid of well ropes for ten years. I saw other people being treated this way, and I was worried that the same would happen to me, so I took some measures. The strategies written in the book.
But I, Yang Jiaofeng, still want to criticize. Although what I said is very reasonable, I still believe that people are inherently good.
My family is poor, and I need family affection even more. Even if you give me a blank look, I still want to go to the wedding, unless you close the door and won't let me in! I am rich, but I still want to go back to my hometown. Even if many villagers borrow money from me, and even some friends are jealous and get angry, it is understandable. After all, the land that gave birth to me and raised me, I will help if I can, and just care about myself. Just do it, don’t worry about what other people say.
This is just the big rich, what should the small rich do?
This question made me, Yang Jiaofeng, who has answered hundreds of questions, fall into deep thought for the first time...
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If a poor person visits relatives, he will definitely be disliked; if a rich person returns to his hometown, he will be alienated. I can't stand the indifference of family affection. Pu Jidu understands this deeply.
Let me start by saying, "You can't stay away from relatives if you are poor." When people are poor, it is difficult to support themselves, let alone help others. This is why relatives dislike them. The reason is: ① The relationship between relatives depends not only on family ties, but also on the balance of economic exchanges. During festivals and major family events, you come and go, you respect me one foot, and I respect you one foot. Once this balance is broken, that is to say, you visit relatives empty-handed, or it is obviously possible for people to ask for help, causing trouble, it would be strange if you do not receive a cold reception; ② When people are poor, the correct way is to save themselves, and rely on your own ideas Work your way out of the predicament and don't even think about other people's help. Therefore, the more difficult the situation is, the more calm you must be, rely on yourself, move around as little as possible, and prevent your relatives from feeling that you are a trouble. Even if there are relatives who want to help, they should politely refuse; ③ During the period of poverty alleviation, necessary visits between relatives should not be missed, but one should appropriately state their current situation and attitude to facilitate the understanding and appreciation of relatives.
Besides, you can’t go back to your hometown if you are rich. Grassroots singer Zhu Zhiwen is a typical example. Before he became famous, the whole village despised him: a lazy man and a fool who could only sing and not do farm work. He became famous and rich overnight, and the attitude of the whole village immediately changed fundamentally: This guy has money, he has made a fortune, ask him to borrow it! It was as if Zhu Zhiwen relied on them to make money. He confidently came to borrow money and confidently refused to pay back the money. Furthermore, everyone is usually pretty much the same, but suddenly one day you return to your hometown and appear in front of your relatives, friends and neighbors in a BMW and Armani. Everyone’s first reaction will not be to congratulate you on your good fortune and wealth. The definite thought is: you They are coming back to ridicule us for our incompetence, right? And the more you explain and the more gifts you give, the more solid the feeling of being looked down upon becomes.
In fact, the curse of "If you are poor, you will not visit your relatives, if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown" can be broken. The method is very simple, just do three things: ① Be yourself, be honest and upright, enthusiastic to help others, and don’t bother others; ② Move around more often, communicate more, and understand more among relatives, friends, and neighbors; ③ When there are difficulties or major events, You must let your relatives in your hometown know at any time, and let them clearly understand your attitude: your own methods and determination to get out of the predicament, and you will not forget your hometown's wishes and ideas when you are rich. The biggest taboo is not to say anything or not understand it clearly, and let them guess. This "guessing" is the fundamental reason for the phenomenon of "the poor do not visit relatives, the rich do not return to their hometown".
My understanding is a little different from everyone else: If you are poor, you should not visit relatives. That means your family is too poor, so ordinary relatives should not go around. In that case, you will use your little savings to visit relatives. , then you will always be without savings and always poor, so you will have to ignore ordinary relatives. Furthermore, if you go around, people will not treat you well, so ignore them and give yourself a clean break. The so-called "get rich and don't go back to your hometown", I think this "rich" means ordinary rich, not big rich, very rich. If you get rich, you will be very rich. Generally speaking, there is no "get rich and don't go back to your hometown", because you are rich Yes, you are also willing to give some money to the folks, and you are also happy. If you are averagely rich and you return to your hometown, it won't be cost-effective for you to give money to the folks, so you might as well not go back.
How to understand "If you are poor, you will not visit relatives; if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown"? "If you are poor, you will not visit your relatives; if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown." This is a classic saying that very realistically reflects the sophistication of people in life and various aspects of life, and reveals the coldness of the world and the indifference of human nature.
"Don't stay away from relatives when you are poor" means that when you are poor, you will be despised and looked down upon by others, and your relatives and friends will avoid you like the plague. Although it is said that the bond between relatives relies on blood ties, you must know that it relies more on the balance of economic power. After all, relatives are also exchanging resources. Once the economic power is unequal and the balance of resources is broken, it will cause trouble and face contempt.
Don’t visit relatives when you are poor, because you will be disliked, looked down upon, and looked down upon.
Relatives will be afraid and jealous. You must be here to ask for something from me. Could it be to borrow money or property? Either you beg him to do things or help you, but you have to get things in vain, and I feel very tired of you as a "pauper".
At the same time, visiting relatives must bring gifts to show respect. It is very impolite to visit relatives empty-handed. When people are poor, they have low self-esteem and are more afraid of others looking down on them, so they try to spend more money to appear respectable. However, after spending money, the more snobbish relatives still look down on you and don't want to see you. So, it’s better not to visit relatives. The sentence "If you are poor, don't leave your relatives" profoundly expresses the warmth and warmth of human nature.
"Don't go back to your hometown if you are rich" means that if you have money and become rich, don't go back to your hometown. Because if you come back to your hometown when you are rich, some people think that you are coming back to show off your wealth, and you will be jealous and hated. In addition, if you get rich and your relatives and friends in your hometown open their mouths to borrow money, if you don't help, you will definitely offend them. If you do, it will be difficult to satisfy others if you help more or less, and it will cause necessary trouble and disputes for you. Therefore, "if you are rich, don't return home" is more of a helpless choice.
"Three Acres of Field" In the west stream of the red mountain and green cypress cottage, the poor family of the ninth generation keeps leisure. The heart is high, the ambition is far, and the swans are dancing in the sky. My father was delighted and comforted me by saying: Even if I lose my fame in a foreign country, I still have three acres of land passed down from my ancestors. In front of the white horse and yellow shirt on the east slope, the shadows of the ten miles away are dancing. Fight the sword in the south, rush the sword in the north, and fight against the blue clouds to laugh at the top of the mountain. The man has a lot of ambitions, and he comforts himself by saying: "I only want beautiful clothes in my hometown, but I never miss three acres of land." "The Laughter of the Poor" Bird's Nest Lane, Bird's Nest Lane, Dogs Barking on the Loess Bridge. The five-goat doctor abandoned it like grass, and the king of Yu used it as a dowry cat. Eat coarse food, wear cold clothes and fluffy grass, don't laugh at the worldly poverty and lowliness. A fancy car is too remote, but a BMW likes its doors. The seals of the Six Kingdoms were worn on the waist, and Su Qin met Jin's wife again. The bells, tripods, and jade adorn the brocade robe, and I begin to believe in wealth and arrogance in the world. "Young Poor" After sixteen years of hard work, I spent half of my parents' money. Traveling from south to north, looking for no work, I was lucky enough to get a salary of three thousand, and I was ashamed to look at the tower. Even if I pay the down payment immediately after getting it, I still lament that it is difficult to hold the hand of a beautiful woman. Car slaves and mortgages, children and daughters are not close, sleepless nights due to stress, and youthful love is wasted.
This sentence is somewhat similar to "if you are poor in the busy city and no one knows you, but if you are rich in the mountains you have distant relatives", it means that if a person is poor, it is best not to visit relatives, otherwise he will be looked down upon by his relatives. Dislike; if a person is rich, it is best not to go back to his hometown, otherwise he will be slandered and reviled behind his back because he cannot satisfy the excessive requests for help from his hometown people. I believe that most people have a deep understanding of being poor. The feeling of being looked down upon by others has inspired many people to learn their shame and be courageous. Being poor makes them want to change. Many people have also been hurt and hit by poverty. It is true that The so-called indifference of human nature, the world is so cold! If you don’t return home if you are rich, what happened to Brother Dayi fully illustrates the true meaning of this sentence! In fact, it is a bit serious to say that you should not visit relatives when you are poor, and you should not return to your hometown when you are rich. In most places in China, the people are simple and hospitable, but if some people in some places cannot be kind to relatives and others, we cannot let everyone take the blame!
This sentence comes from the Chinese classical literature "Zengguang Xianwen": "If you are poor in the busy city, no one will ask you; if you are rich in the mountains, you have distant relatives; if you have money, you speak the truth, but if you don't have money, the words are not true; if you don't believe it, just look at it At the banquet, drink to the rich first; the poor will not visit relatives, the rich will not visit neighbors, put a begging stick in front of the door, and relatives and old friends will not come."
"Zengguang Xianwen" It is a Taoist children's enlightenment book compiled during the Ming Dynasty in China. The understanding of human nature in the book is based on the premise that "nature is inherently evil", and it uses a cold gaze to gain insight into social life and family relationships that are polluted by money.
The saying "If you are poor, you will not visit your relatives; if you are rich, you will not return to your hometown" means that people in the world hate the poor and love the rich.
If you are poor but have short ambitions, you will be looked down upon by your relatives and friends. Even if you are simply visiting relatives and friends, you will easily be misunderstood as borrowing money or eating and drinking; but you are rich and prosperous. After that, people in the countryside will think that you are rich and prosperous. It is okay to borrow money from you without paying back the money, or to take advantage of you. After all, you are rich and will not care about such a small amount of money. of.
Although this sentence was written thousands of years ago, it still has certain basis and social foundation.
In "A Dream of Red Mansions", there is a plot where Grandma Liu enters the Grand View Garden. Grandma Liu, who comes from the countryside, comes to Jia's house to meet relatives and wants to borrow money. She humorously pleases all the rich families in Jia's house. , and others made irresponsible remarks. This shows that "too poor to stay away from relatives" is a very real problem.
The little traffic girl Zhao Liying was originally a star who came out of a small rural area in Langfang, Hebei Province. Especially in recent years, she has become very popular in the entertainment industry. She spent her own money to build spacious roads for her backward hometown. It was originally a good thing, but as a result, the folks in my hometown were not only ungrateful, but also took it as a matter of course. They even felt that Zhao Liying gave too little money and should spend more money to build their hometown.
This kind of moral kidnapping is an illustration of the extreme phenomenon of "the rich will not return home".
What are your different opinions on this issue?