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"What should I do if I am 36 years old, unmarried and have no job?" This topic has nothing to do with the law, it is just a "philosophy of survival" in reality.

If life is compared to a marathon with no end, the meaning of struggle is to keep moving forward and leave others behind. A certain amount of fortune must be completed in each time period, otherwise it will go against the fortune, which is called "going behind the times." That is, what should be done at what age and cannot be delayed.

According to traditional thinking and the general life trajectory, a 36-year-old should have an education, an employer, a family, and children. Moreover, the questions were asked in order of "getting married" first and then "establishing a career". A man who "stands up at thirty" should indeed have a sense of crisis!

But after decades of reform and opening up, ideas have been liberated, concepts have been updated, and the economy has developed rapidly... At the age of 36, without marriage and working in a fixed unit, five words floated from the sky: "That doesn't matter. ".

I once met two handsome guys at a dinner party. They had decent jobs and a good family background, but they couldn't work and quit their jobs to start a business. He said he only did one thing every day. After breakfast, he stood at the intersection of Mayang County, thinking about where to invite and whom to invite to the dinner. As long as someone knows what kind of business you are doing.

Obviously, they are the pioneers of reform. Dare to break the shackles of ideas, not stick to the old ways, and resolutely go into business. Therefore, success is due to confidence and ability.

There are many people who are not married at the age of 36. But there must be fighting spirit. Even if your ability to earn money is a bit low, you can still learn skills and catch up. You don’t have to expect to be rich. It’s not difficult to start a family and start a business after you finish your life. Unless they are felons or terminally ill. Another thing is to be down-to-earth, afraid that "I am not bold enough to be bold" and "I am not able to have ideas." If you have a high vision but a low hand, you will achieve nothing.

Everything will fall into place. "There is a bright future in another village." With confidence restored and the basic methods clarified, there will be bread and late spring. The specific operational level varies from person to person. There is no general formula for life.

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Regardless of whether you are married or not, you can’t sit back and rest in vain! First you have to find a job to support yourself.

You are happy to answer your questions

Confusion is not terrible, but you have to find the direction in the confusion.

Since you asked, it proves that you already have a serious sense of crisis. Ideological Crisis

It is not terrible to resign from the company where you have worked for 8 years. What is terrible is that you are still using your previous thinking. You have been relatively comfortable in the past 8 years of work, and I guess you are not. Major promotions are basically done by old employees who come here. When the time comes and they are waiting to be paid, do they think they have completed the task?

Now you have no fighting spirit and no fighting attitude. Think about when you first joined the company 8 years ago. When you were a new employee, you didn’t work hard in the same way. You have been comfortable for these 8 years, right, but now you are not willing to fight... This is an ideological crisis.

If you want to change the status quo, you need to change the ideological crises and constraints first, so that you can make progress or add hope to your future life. Laziness crisis

Laziness is a term that is more suitable for you now, and it is also your biggest crisis. After you say it, you find that you can’t do anything. This sentence is giving yourself an excuse to be lazy. is the only word that explains.

Nowadays, you can make money in many industries and there is no threshold. For example: working as a security guard, construction site, cleaning, and you can live a life without worries about food and clothing by working hard.

God rewards hard work. As long as you do it, your life will definitely get better slowly and get better and better. Emotional crisis

This crisis is also caused by you yourself. Now when marrying a wife in our village, the woman must choose a hard-working one.

If you solve the above crisis, this emotional crisis will also be solved quickly. Summary

My advice to you is to find a stable job first and use your spare time to do self-media. In the current self-media era, if you do it with your heart and persist in it, you will definitely make money.

You can spend money sparingly, but you won’t spend it all. If you don’t work hard to change the status quo, you should understand the consequences better than anyone else. A man who is self-reliant must be stubborn.

I'm happy to answer your questions.

Your problem is very serious. You are 36 years old, unmarried and still have no job. So how do you live?

I can only say that you are really willful, and you can still be reckless at this age.

It was hard to find a job during the epidemic, but you actually resigned.

Not getting married at the age of 36 also means that there is something wrong with you. I am just talking about the matter without any malice. Good advice may hurt your ears, but it may help your deeds; it will wake you up.

At this age, people are at least middle-aged and need to stabilize. Getting married is not the priority. What is urgent now is your job. Without a job, nothing happens. I will definitely eat the old people in the future, pack up my emotions, and quickly find a job after the short vacation.

Even if you don't speak professionally, you can at least be able to deal with stuttering.

Some people often say that the world is unfair and God is unfair. I think for you, do you take yourself seriously? There is no fairness or unfairness, everything is rewarded by creating opportunities yourself.

Often venting your emotions on this is not only detrimental to your ambition but also consumes your own positive enthusiasm.

How you treat life will be how life will respond to you.

Come on, stranger.

I understand your confusion very well. Anyone who has no food in their hands will feel panicked, so the top priority is to work first, ensure survival first, and then develop. Here, I have the following suggestions:

1. Learn to ask for help

Ask family or friends for help, let everyone help come up with ideas, expand your ideas, and get more psychological support at the same time . Asking for help means actively looking for a way out, and it also allows you to connect more closely with your family and friends without feeling embarrassed about asking for help.

2 Self-help

"He who helps himself, God will help him." Find a job based on your own strengths, give meaning to your work, like your job, work hard, and be at work. Find happiness.

3 Learn to manage money

Money can solve 80% of the problems in life. You can learn some financial management knowledge. Learn to make your wealth more and more abundant. The first is to force savings and set aside a fixed amount of money every month for investment and financial management. The second is to try to increase income. If work cannot bring more income, you can do some side jobs.

4 Read more

Reading can solve 80% of the worries in life. Knowledge is power. Maugham said: "Books are our refuge." When you feel confused, it means that your knowledge reserve is not enough and you need to learn new knowledge.

5. Make more friends and mentors

Mentors and friends enable us to make greater progress and provide more help, and are our important social support force.

Believe me, it is not too late to start a business at the age of 36.

Harlan Sanders started his business at the age of 40. He went bankrupt due to World War II at the age of 56. He founded KFC at the age of 65.

Qi Baishi was still selling paintings at low prices at the age of 56, and he only began to gain fame at the age of 66.

Jiang Ziya did not become prime minister until he was 70 years old...

Give yourself some confidence and it is never too late to work hard.

As for marriage, you can wait until you have a certain financial foundation before considering it.

The above are my suggestions, I hope they are helpful to you.

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Advice from a professional troubleshooter: At the age of 36, you are still unmarried, you have lost your job of 8 years, you have spent all your savings, and you find that you have no plan. situation. I suggest that you first stabilize your current life and go out to find a job that suits you but does not necessarily require skills. After your life stabilizes, you can find a partner through blind dates and other methods and then get married. Let me tell you from the experience of people around me that a comfortable life can easily make people satisfied, and a life of struggle will not be trapped

My uncle has a similar experience to you, but after experiencing the blows of life, he continued to The attempt came out. He turned out to be a worker in a state-owned coal mining group, an underground worker, a small boss who did not need to go down the mine and was only responsible for inspecting and distributing tools to the workers. In an era when state-owned enterprises were the iron rice bowl, he had a job that everyone envied, and he supported his family's finances alone. It is a very beautiful existence both inside and outside. Unforeseen circumstances bring misfortunes and misfortunes to every man. With the mining of coal resources, the entire mining group is facing the pressure of layoffs and transformation. My uncle lost his job. What's more, something happened to his family - his wife died of illness. Things changed so fast that he had no time to think, and there was nothing left. I can’t go back to the mine where I worked for 12 years, and my warm home is gone. He was in the same situation as you. When he first lost his job, he didn't know how to farm the land at home, and the whole family faced a food and clothing crisis. Later he also mentioned: "In those days, I almost went crazy. I couldn't accept being looked down upon by others, and I couldn't stand that I couldn't do anything."

After a painful struggle, he decided to "find something to do" and contracted the orchard in the village. He took care of the orchard, applied fertilizers and pesticides, picked fruits, and packaged the orchard by himself. He wanted to sell the car, but due to the backward transportation conditions in the countryside at the time, the orchard he had contracted for several years did not make any money. He tried breeding again. His breeding project was to raise scorpions in mud houses in rural areas. When I was a child, I was most afraid of going to his house for fear of being stung by scorpions, so I didn’t like him very much. Later, the scorpions didn’t know what went wrong and many people died of the disease. , it took more than two years to get it all in. Later, as people's living standards improved, he discovered that raising chickens was a profitable project. He devoted himself to raising chickens, and finally through diligent efforts, the business grew bigger and bigger, and later he became a well-known local upstart. There are no obstacles in the past in life, only reluctance to move forward. Encountering difficulties is a common thing in life. Keep an optimistic attitude and live with a positive attitude.

Next we look at the reasons why you are facing difficulties.

The reason why you are facing difficulties now: How to find a job and find a marriage partner at the age of 36

The age of 36 is a period of youth and strength in life, and it is a good time to make great achievements. They have more wisdom in life than young people and have better physical strength than old people. From the age of 36 to 45 is the golden period of life. As the saying goes, a man becomes a flower after 40. Don't lose confidence in finding a partner just because you are 36 years old. Summary:

If you lose your work savings, you can start over. Life is about struggle and hard work. Life is boring if it is neither bitter nor tiring. As the famous saying goes:

After the age of 36, you must be diligent and frugal every day. I wish you a bright future.

There is an old saying: There is no perfect way to go!

There is an old saying: Survival comes from desperate situations!

And I want to give you a message: PlayerUnknown's Battlegrounds!

Although God has no road for man, you also need to walk the road yourself. Otherwise, God has no road for man, and man has no way to go because of his own reasons.

Force yourself, climb out of the trough of life, and seek a chance for yourself.

Not getting married seems to be a problem, but if you get married, you no longer have the title of Diamond King or Five. Maybe in the eyes of others, you are a potential stock. I don’t know how popular it is. If you are a woman, you don’t have to worry about getting married despite the aura of a young lady. Sometimes, no matter how good your job is, it’s not as good as marrying well, right? Therefore, whether you are a man or a woman, being unmarried is a condition that is beneficial to you.

After working for eight years, you think you know nothing. When you return to your original major, you will find that you know a lot. Your experience and ability are already with you, and no one else can You can't take it away, but you must know that recruiting companies don't just like newbies recruited from school, but also like experienced professionals recruited from social agencies. You still have a chance.

The only thing missing is savings. It is said that at your age, you should have enough funds to deal with unemployment, that is, risk fund reserves. If a person has no worries about the long term, he must worry about the immediate future. I am probably talking about you. To a certain extent, having little savings is the same as having no savings, that is, no money.

If you don’t know what to do and are confused, that’s all your business. Life will not take the initiative to teach you what to do just because you don’t know what to do. To a certain extent, life is the most severe mentor. , and the coldest creditor, you can only change your situation by studying hard and working hard.

There are no shortcuts, no lingering, only efforts to move forward.

Resigning and spending all your savings is a bit of a destructive thing. You are not afraid of this, and it is not scary to be confused. I believe you will create a more satisfactory situation. It is only a matter of time.

Because the current social mechanism is gradually improving, the previous production strategies of enterprises can no longer meet the current market demand, so the enterprises you see will continue to innovate and self-revolution, otherwise the enterprises will Be eliminated.

If we fail to keep up with the pace of enterprise development in this wave of reform, we are very likely to face the risk of unemployment.

Secondly, the popularization of the latest technology and intelligence will largely replace labor. If we do not master the core technology, then we will also face the risk of being replaced.

Next, let’s discuss the following specific solutions. First: How to deal with blind spots: work for life, or live a meaningful life for work! There is a passive and active relationship here. That is the main factor that determines whether you can enjoy your work while working. Different choices determine the degree of change you require of yourself, and thus correspond to your chances of success in finding a job again.

Second: The establishment of stable data is a very important part. Because we live in this free-choice society, everyone has different plans for their future, so the establishment of their own stable information is also uneven. However, no matter what, they all have one thing in common, that is - you must have a stable root. Money is in our lives, it is a booster of the quality of life and a fuel engine for our progress. If the roots of the tree are not deeply rooted in the soil, no matter how good the fertilizer is, it will be in vain. So it is very important to build a happy family.

Third: The meaning of work, real work, to a certain extent, is to realize oneself, reflect one's own value and sense of accomplishment; it is a kind of intoxication and indulgence in enjoyment, Only in this way will we not lose our way; otherwise, it will become a painful ladder to maintain life.

Fourth: Start a business, if you really can’t enjoy your work and don’t have too many technologies suitable for the development of the company. Then you can find the direction that interests you within your favorite expertise and start your own business. In this way, you can enjoy it on the one hand, and you can also earn higher income on the other hand.

No matter which method we take to solve the problem, we must always remember - we must constantly give ourselves opportunities to learn and make progress, do not let ourselves be out of touch with this society, and keep up with the development of the times.

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There is no big inevitable connection between not getting married and finding a job. You can learn a skill and then find a job.

It depends on your own mentality. . . . If you meet the one you love, you should get married. But if it doesn’t happen, it depends on the situation. It doesn’t matter to you, but your parents will definitely marry you before you do. Why do you get married? Isn’t it just that you can have a family? Isn’t it just to have a descendant? Isn't it just raising children, educating children, hoping that the children will have a future, and then helping the children find jobs, helping the children get married... This happens over and over again... I personally think this is very boring, but everyone must be like this. Live your life, because you have parents above you, and you have to take their opinions into consideration. If you really don’t get married, you still have to have a mentality, that is, you have to face public opinion from all aspects of society, and you have to be gossiped about behind your back. of.

Can you bear it? When you grow old, you will have no children or spouse to accompany you, and you will face lonely days. Can you bear it? If you can bear it, you don’t have to...