Last Saturday, I took my daughter Jessica Hester Hsuan to an oil painting class. The content is to draw an animal I like. After the teacher's demonstration, the painted paper was delivered to the children and accompanied by their parents.

At this moment, an eight or nine-year-old girl came along, with curly hair and a red lace skirt, like a little princess.

Her mother wanted her to draw a pair, but she had no confidence at all. She kept bowing her head and said, "What if I can't draw well?" But in the end, she chose a little tiger and began to write.

In the process of painting, the little girl's mother kept talking and saying, "You can't paint like this, you have to paint like this ... not like a tiger, but like a big cat." Let's draw it again. " Then she tore her daughter's painting to pieces.

The daughter looked innocent, so she had to follow her mother's instructions and drew another one.

The teacher said, let the children play by themselves and draw their favorite colors.

But my mother couldn't help but intervene: "Well, that's right! Paint it red here, I'll make you horny, just paint it directly. "

Finally, the little girl threw away the pen in a fit of pique and stopped drawing.

I am confident and sure that this mother loves her children very much.

However, I am anxious about my love. I'm worried that my children are not doing things in the "right way". I am anxious that my children can't finish their goals slowly. I can't help but be guided by them and want to grow up for them.

We gave our children so much love, but we never thought that too much attention would disturb their growth.

The more attention and companionship we give our children, the less time they spend alone.

The more we help, the worse the independence and dependence of children will be.

Finally, due to the excessive intervention of the mother, the child's concentration was destroyed.

Second, children's concentration is related to learning.

One's attention is limited.

Generally speaking, we judge whether children's concentration is enough according to the principle of "age+1" minutes (for example, 2 years old and 3 years old and 4 minutes).

However, not every child's concentration can improve with age.

The reason lies in whether our early family education focuses on protecting or destroying children.

In a 45-minute class, the concentration time of a 7-year-old child is only about 20 minutes.

Originally, children could write their homework quietly in the room, but parents enthusiastically directed and guided them, hoping to improve the efficiency of children's game completion through the simple and easy thinking mode of adults.

As everyone knows, such tips may hinder children's ability to think, explore and discover independently.

When you grow up, it is very painful for a person to be unable to concentrate on any work or thing, and it is difficult for him to achieve anything in a certain field.

So, what are the performances of children with insufficient concentration?

Sustainability differences:

You can sit down, but you can't sit for too long; Poor anti-interference ability, doing everything for three minutes.

Poor breadth:

Doing homework often misses questions, reading slowly, repeating, and having poor ability to identify details.

Lack of concentration:

Being in a daze in class and not carefully examining the questions ... are all careless mistakes, and the result can be imagined.

Poor transfer and distribution ability:

It's been half a day since class was over, and I'm still thinking about it, or I'm still immersed in the problem of last class …

So, don't disturb the child's concentration and give him some time to think.

Third, what you have to do is to accompany and guard, not to disturb.

Educator Monterey has a famous saying:

"Never disturb your child unless he invites you."

When a child tries to do something by himself, it is enough for us to stay with him and watch him do it by himself.

Children's concentration is not cultivated, but protected.

Parents should pay attention to themselves, and untimely attention is disturbing. It's all for the good of children, and the correct method is the most important.

1, but children are not allowed to explore the world.

First of all, exploring the world is a child's instinct. When exploring new things, it is the easiest time for children to concentrate.

Many times, it's not that children are incompetent, but that adults have lost patience with early observation.

Always consider from a realistic point of view, and accompany your child to do anything with the feeling that you must accomplish a certain goal, but the child's concentration is focused on what he is interested in.

Therefore, parents should be an observer, treat them democratically and be a guide when necessary.

Pay as much attention as possible to how children develop in activities and learning, and how to know themselves.

2. Give children a warm and peaceful growing environment.

Jerome Kagan, a psychologist at Harvard University, thinks:

The best way to help children prolong their concentration time is to get along with him one-on-one.

Therefore, parents should manage their "desire for education" emotions. No matter whether his affairs meet your satisfaction or not, please keep respect and watch silently.