There is a saying in China that everyone is familiar with: "It is rare to be confused." Anyone who has made some achievements or made some contributions in life, or those who think that they are smart, shrewd, and humane, Everyone in the elite ranks hung up Zheng Banqiao's eccentric words "It's rare to be confused" in their study rooms.

The so-called confusion refers to a person who is unclear in his mind and does not understand the truth. There is such a passage in "History of Song Dynasty: Lu Duan's Biography": "It may be said: 'Duan is a confused person.' Taizong said: 'He is confused about small things, but not confused about big things.'" Similarly, when we see a person doing something unreasonable: or If we make any mistakes, we always teach others mercilessly: "Are you always confused?"

The so-called rare confusion means that a person is extremely shrewd in his life and never makes mistakes. This kind of It is best for people to be confused a few times, because it is very difficult for them to be confused.

From ancient times to the present, unless they are fools and idiots, who can know a few words, some principles of life, and some understanding of human nature, who does not think that he belongs to the category of human essence? ?It can’t be said to be extremely smart, but it should be extremely smart. Who is willing to admit that he is a fool?

It is those who look dull and silly on the surface. They don’t say a word for a long time and look like People don't say that they are stupid, but they say that they are as wise as foolish and as clever as clumsy. Therefore, in this society, everyone is as smart as the monkeys on Mount Emei, and they only play tricks on others. There is no chance of being toyed with. You won't find anyone who looks like a stupid person.

Why do people pretend to be extremely smart people on the one hand, but sometimes pretend to be confused? What kind of tricks are we hypocritical people playing?< /p>

Wang Xifeng in "A Dream of Red Mansions" gave us a clear answer: cleverness leads to mistakes. Wang Xifeng is so smart and smart, she is simply the best among people. I am afraid there are many men in the world who are not as good as her. She is exquisite in all directions, has nine faces in dealing with the world, is soft on the outside but strong on the inside; she smiles at you on the outside, but in her heart she is setting a trap for you. A Jia Rui who fell in love with her beauty was driven to the sky by her scheme; a second sister You who fell in love with her husband was forced to swallow gold and commit suicide by her duplicity; and her "stealing one's job" Li Daitao If you freeze, you will lose your fragile life.

As for Wang Xifeng's abilities, she was so capable. The entire Rongning and Ningfus were obedient under her management, and such a big event as Qin Keqing's funeral was a piece of cake for her. She was so eloquent that everyone in the Jia family knew about her, Mistress Lian.

But Wang Xifeng is an extremely shrewd woman. She is always strong and strives to win in everything. She cannot be left behind anywhere. She finally offended the eldest wife. In addition, after Jia Mu passed away, her backer was gone. Finally, it came to the point of "being clever was mistaken for cleverness, and it cost you your life."

What interests the red scholar is that such a shrewd and capable woman has such a tragic ending, all because she is a prostitute after all. After all, she has not understood the philosophy of life in the officialdom - it is rare to be confused. She was harmed by her intelligence, her sharpness.

If a person learns to be confused in dealing with things and in life, he will benefit immensely in many aspects:

1. Avoid conflicts and disputes

Many small things in life can easily become trivial if we adopt a confused attitude and turn a blind eye. And if you are not confused at all, one is one and two is two, conflicts, disputes, and even bloodshed and sacrifice may occur.

Two college students are fighting for a TV channel. If one of them is confused and gives in to the other, they will follow whatever the other is watching. TV, isn’t every channel full of entertainment? Everyone will continue to watch TV. It's not like two people fight, and one gets angry and stabs the other with a knife, which is tragic and deplorable!

There are many smart people in life who always like to pull other people's braids and grab them. The shortcomings of others are that they think that doing so shows that they are superior to others. In fact, this kind of lack of confusion in language and behavior actually causes the two people to become estranged and part ways. Even become the root cause of the enemy.

2． You can make yourself at peace

The key to interacting with others and dealing with the world is to be in a happy mood, and peace of mind is the prerequisite for a happy mood. Being confused can make a person have a peaceful mind.

If you are a sharp-tongued person with sharp eyes and quick hands, you will inevitably discover some things that others cannot notice. If you laugh it off without pursuing it, you will soon forget these things, and Once you feel that you can't help but point it out, you have to give others a warning. Not only will it make others unhappy, but you may also find it difficult to calm down.

An old monk and a young monk came to the river. A young girl was hesitating how to cross the river. When she saw the monks coming, she asked the monk for help.

The old monk said "Good" and then carried the girl across the river. The girl left with great gratitude.

After walking for a long time, the young monk suddenly asked: "Master, you are a monk and do not approach women. Master, you have violated the precept." The old monk laughed and said: "I have given up long ago, why are you still here?" Hug?" The little monk blushed.

Many people are like this little monk who does not understand the true meaning of life, making their mentality unbalanced.

3． Make it convenient for yourself

People often say: "It is convenient for others, and it is convenient for yourself." Being confused is nothing more than making it convenient for others. If you make it convenient for others, people will also be convenient for you. Two overly shrewd people are like two cocks in a fierce fight. They have to decide who will win and I will lose. This is not good for a healthy body and mind.

If you are a person who is not confused at all times, always living with your eyes wide open and vigilant, then are you tired? Are you ever tired physically and mentally? Why don't you act like a wise and foolish person? It’s rare to be confused like that!

(1) To be confused, a person should have the virtue of tolerance. With tolerance, you can laugh at trivial things, be confused about unimportant things, and be open-minded about unimportant things.

If you do this, you will be in a happy state of mind, as people often say: "Forgiveness makes people happy."

(2) Like Lu in the Song Dynasty It's the same as "little things are confusing, but big things are not." It is necessary to distinguish what is a big thing and what is a small thing. If you are a prosecutor, you must not be confused about corruption, bribery, and other matters; but you can be completely confused about trivial matters such as a colleague taking a pack of cigarettes from you or accidentally touching you.

(3)Don’t be too shrewd. People who are too shrewd often like to be teachers, point fingers, blame others, be harsh to others, and cannot tolerate the slightest dissatisfaction in their eyes. In order to show their shrewdness, this kind of shrewd people often pick their noses and raise their eyes. They are never confused for a moment. This kind of people belong to the category that is annoying to others. Just like Wang Xifeng, on the surface everyone is submissive to her, but secretly, I'm afraid everyone hates her for being so self-righteous.

Zheng Banqiao knew the secret of "rare confusion", and he lived a free and calm life.