"Only women and villains are difficult to raise." This sentence comes from "The Analects of Confucius Yang Huo". The second half of the sentence is "If you are close, you will feel inferior, and if you are far, you will resent". The meaning of the second half of the sentence is that when getting along with women and villains, you must have a sense of distance. If you are too close, you will lose your sense of proportion. If you are too far, it will easily arouse their resentment.
There are many different understandings of this sentence, but everyone misunderstands this sentence and thinks it is bad. In fact, this is not entirely the case. At that time, Confucius said this sentence mainly to express the family way of getting along. The "women" and "villains" here refer to wives and servants respectively. The whole sentence means that the concubines and servants at home are the most difficult to maintain, and the distance from them is also the most difficult to control. If they are too close, they will They won't know how to give in, and if you go too far, they will blame you. So it's very rare to really get along with them, and it's also a big subject of study.
This sentence is also very reasonable when used in people's interactions today. This is how people get along with each other. The closer we are to someone, the less we care about details, and may even do things that are intolerable to the other person. But being too far away, keeping a distance and feeling unfamiliar will make the other person think that they don't care about them. Therefore, when we interact with others, we must control our temperament to avoid losing our sense of proportion.
Most people only know the first half of the sentence, and it is often used to describe women with poor moral character and temperament, describing them as difficult to get along with and interact with, and they love to play tricks. The ancients have left us many philosophical and reasonable sayings and truths, but we still need to have a deep understanding when using them and not take them out of context or misinterpret their meaning.